Children who often say these four sentences may have a \”miserable life\” when they grow up. This is by no means a curse on their children. Parents must correct them in time when they find out.

A mother complained to me. She felt that her child had very poor subjective initiative. Now that he was already a sophomore, he was very inactive and had no sense of responsibility. He always looked to his parents and elders for everything. When he went out to play as a family, he still He asked his dad to guide him, and when he got lost, he knew how to play with his mobile phone. Now he even brings this state of mind to socializing and work. I asked: \”Does your child have any habitual actions or mantras?\” Mom said: \”This child likes to say \’it\’s all up to you\’.\” After hearing this, I understood the reason. From the child\’s mantra, we can actually get a glimpse of his character building. Children often say things like \”It\’s all up to you\”, which is a sign of dependence. When such children grow up, they lack a sense of responsibility and are habitually dependent on the people around them. Developmental psychologist Piaget believed that children will develop a self-language between the ages of 2 and 7, which you can understand as their self-talk. At this time, they will keep talking even if no one is listening. Moreover, as we grow older, this self-talk will gradually shift from verbal to inner, and at the same time internalize this self-talk into our own psychological processes as our own behavioral guidance. As the psychoanalyst Freud said, the psychological imprint of childhood is an important way to form the subconscious. Therefore, as a parent, you cannot ignore your children\’s usual mantras. Children often say these four sentences, which will affect their character shaping and life development. They may have a \”miserable life\” when they grow up. This is by no means a curse on their children. Parents must be sure to be careful when they find out. Intervene promptly. Harmful words Children and childhood are words that symbolize beauty in the eyes of many people, because childlike innocence is very simple and is generally not associated with negative content. Most children are indeed relatively innocent and look at everything in the world with kindness. But there is a certain type of children who mature relatively early and are exposed to adults\’ language and behavior through various channels. Because children have strong imitation abilities, they imitate adults\’ speech patterns in a stylish way. He often uses harsh words to ridicule others and does not have a strong sense of empathy for the people and things around him. For example, he often says words like \”seeing through life\”, and often says to friends of the same age, \”This is how you will be for the rest of your life,\” \”You are only at this level,\” or even \”It\’s unfortunate that I know you.\” This is very hurtful. if. However, their parents thought that their children talked very interestingly, like \”little adults\”, and did not control them in time. Such children may be isolated in different circles and fall into negative emotions. Dependent language Many children seem to be born with the habit of relying on others, not only on their familiar relatives and elders, but even on their friends and classmates of the same age. For example, if you ask them for their opinion, they will always say, \”What do you think?\” or \”It\’s up to you.\” Just as Mom complained at the beginning, such children will generally have a low sense of responsibility and poor initiative when they grow up, because they have become accustomed to the people around them helping them solve everything. What\’s more serious is that such children are likely to develop a pleaser personality, and their personal awareness will be very weak., and may even fall into serious self-blame and internal conflict because of the slightest reaction from others. Even adults have a hard time dealing with such mood swings, which is even more detrimental to the growth of children. Therefore, as a parent, if you find that your children have such language and personality tendencies, you must stop them in time and help them correct them. Speaking freely and calmly is an excellent quality, which is reflected in both language and behavior. Even in the adult world, we strongly dislike people who brag, let alone children. Some children, either imitating others or being \”influenced\” by family culture, become very unstable at a young age. In addition, due to lack of social experience, they have no concept of many things, which leads them to make some outrageous remarks. For example, a primary school student once said in class: “I want to be the president of the Agricultural Development Bank of China and inherit my father’s (family property). Because my grandfather is the president of the Agricultural Development Bank of China, and my mother is from China. Vice President of the Agricultural Development Bank, so I want to inherit our family\’s property.\” This statement immediately sparked heated discussion after it was exposed. This kind of statement with an obvious sense of superiority is very unlike what a child can say on his own initiative. It may come from the subtle influence of parents. Remarks like this are not uncommon among children who are in the second grade of middle school. Especially when they cannot use themselves as examples, they often draw people around them into the topic, such as \”my parents\”, \”my classmates\”, \” My cousin\” and so on will become the protagonists in their remarks. Therefore, in the process of educating children, we must let them develop the habit of being down-to-earth, both in expression and actual behavior. Otherwise, they may one day use you as a parent as bragging rights. The statement is not measured and the personality is perverse. Many parents will use \”obedience\” as a criterion when measuring the quality of a child. It is very normal for children to be rebellious, but no matter what, they should not do anything too drastic. There is such a group of children who have absorbed some factors related to violence in the process of contact with external culture, and regard it as a \”cool\” behavior in the process of imitation. They regard being disrespectful and contradicting their elders as a way to express their individuality. In the process, they usually develop a violent and perverse personality, which makes it impossible for them to communicate with their elders and parents. For example, they may say to relatives around them, \”You are not my parents\” or \”Why should you care about me?\” In this case, we must first determine the root cause of the child\’s language habit, and secondly, spare no effort to correct it, even if it requires some cruel means, because if such behavior is allowed to continue, it will ruin the child\’s life. Childhood is a critical stage in the shaping of a child\’s personality. As parents, you should pay attention to your children\’s speech and correct problems in a timely manner. Otherwise, don\’t blame your children for their misery and failure when they grow up. All of this comes from incorrect guidance in childhood.