Children who treat their parents better will suffer more harm

Friends, today I am going to talk about a point of view that seems to be unpopular: children who treat their parents better will suffer more harm. (A general phenomenon in society, not all) Have you noticed this phenomenon: In some large families, the child who is the most filial to his parents often plays the role of being at the disadvantage. Such children tend to be honest and stay with their parents for many years. It stands to reason that they are the ones who have devoted the most to their parents and should also be the ones with the closest relationship with them. But the reality is: because of their sincerity and indifference, they become the ones most easily ignored. In the TV series \”The World\”, brother Zhou Bingyi and sister Zhou Rong are talented and have outstanding abilities. One pursues ideal love, while the other chooses to be loyal to the people and rarely takes care of his parents. The youngest son Zhou Bingkun is a simple and kind-hearted \”old man\”. He didn\’t have much future, so he stayed in his hometown to take care of his mother and worried a lot about his big family. However, in the eyes of his father Zhou Zhigang, no matter how filial Bingkun is, he cannot compare to his elder brother and sister. This is sometimes the case, the more filial you are, the more you will be wronged. As the old saying goes: Children who cry get candy. Sensible children can only do things but don\’t make troubles. They swallow their grievances on their own and rush to work hard. And parents have unknowingly failed their honest children. Just like when two stray cats are encountered, people are more likely to adopt the one that is less obedient. Because people always think that the obedient one will be adopted by the next person. However, if everyone thinks this way, then the obedient cat will never receive love. 02 If a father like Zhou Zhigang hurt his son unintentionally. There are some parents who deliberately hurt their children. Fan Shengmei in \”Ode to Joy\” has a hard time struggling in a big city, but her parents have repeatedly made things difficult for her. My father came to her when he was paralyzed, and my brother came to her when he was in trouble. The soft-hearted Fan Shengmei surrendered immediately whenever her mother cried, trying to act as the savior of the ruined family. However, what she felt for her mother was not love, but intensified oppression, slander and abuse. There is also Fang Sijin in \”Anju\”. Her mother gave birth to her but was unwilling to raise her, and her dream of going to college was cut off. After working, she was sucked by endless blood… She could have lived a good life on her own, but because of This person in her blood relationship often made things difficult for her and made her suffer a lot. Are these parents? This is more terrifying than the enemy. People say: \”Parents are good at everything.\” Parents do everything for the benefit of their children, but is this really the case? If there are just a few extreme cases on TV, then those hidden common phenomena in reality may also be chilling. Walking around the hospital, it is basically the daughter who takes care of the elderly. But when the family property was divided, none of the daughters had a share. There are also many families who like to emphasize that the older one should give way to the younger one. Over time, the older ones became sensible and the younger ones were naughty. There are also some that are fragrant from far away and smelly from near. No matter how well the children around them do, it is difficult for parents to see them and there is constant friction. On the contrary, the \”remotely filial son\” is more favored by his parents… It turns out that there are many examples in life that the more they love their parents, the less they are treated well. 03 Before, there was a point of view: In families where brothers and sisters are at odds, it is mostly because the parents are unable to keep their balance. And when the bowl of water is uneven, to a large extent, parents will choose to sacrifice the one that sounds the mostwords. What is even more sad is that children who are not loved are always trying their best to prove that they are worthy of love. A sweet date can heal a slap, but the harder you try, the more it hurts. A colleague said that his father was like this. His dad dropped it when he was born. Grandma is superstitious and thinks that the child will be born unlucky. As a result, my father was not welcomed by my grandmother since he was a child, and later he and his mother were also hated. Grandma even said something like \”I don\’t recognize this son or grandson.\” And even though his father was abused thousands of times, he still worked tirelessly to prove to others that he was loved. He often does things that are thankless and harm his family. The famous psychologist Zeng Qifeng said: Love creates separation, sadism creates loyalty. Generally speaking, people will stay away from people who are not good to them. But in real life, children who receive little love, just like masochistic tendencies, will compete to prove that they are loved by \”filial piety\”. And some parents have also seized on this and used \”filial piety\” to kidnap their sensible children. Therefore, I want to tell everyone who is \”unable to love\” one thing: admitting that you are not loved is the first step to get closer to love. To be unloved is to be unloved. If love really exists, there is no need to prove it. I think this is true of every relationship. Please take your responsibilities seriously. But you don’t have to sacrifice your life to satisfy the wishes of someone who doesn’t love you. Instead, try to put your lover\’s energy and ability into yourself or the person who loves you. It may be a reward for others to like you, but it is the real reward for you to like yourself.