Children will become addicted to watching TV and playing games. In fact, children will also become addicted to reading.

Many mothers have left messages asking me to talk about how to cultivate their children\’s interest in reading. I\’m often embarrassed to poke at everyone\’s pain points. Because the key to making children fall in love with reading depends on their parents and the reading atmosphere at home. A few days ago, a mother tidied up her messy balcony, made a reading corner, and sent me the pictures. I think it’s great. It gives books a home and gives children a space to read. The next step is to choose books and read. It is very important to have the awareness of valuing reading. We often hear parents complain that \”children don\’t like reading, so they only watch TV, play on mobile phones, and read books other than comics, and never read those classic literary works.\” But when you complain, have you ever thought about why? Will this happen? In fact, most parents know that the problem lies with them, and they also know the value of reading, but they just can\’t do it. A few days ago, I went to a relative\’s house. The relative happily showed me his newly purchased TV and computer, saying that he wanted to experience the new era, the Internet, and a big screen. His 4-year-old son was also playing enthusiastically on the sofa with a new pad. So every time he told me that his child\’s academic performance was poor and he asked me to help recommend a training school, I always said that he should read more books to his child and cultivate the habit of reading. He just laughs every time. It’s been a long time and I won’t say anything anymore. He said that his son is now addicted to playing games. I said that the child is still young. If he is still addicted to it when he reaches middle school, you will really regret it. Too many people say that children will become addicted to watching TV and playing games. But do you know? In fact, reading can be addictive, really! In the early years, the kind of environment you give your children will determine the kind of person they will be. Look at those little babies, they are observing and learning every day. Every move, every expression, every look of the parents is seen in their eyes and remembered in their hearts. Everything around is strange and new. One day, the child touched the branches and grass. This was nature. And children will also touch a variety of toys. When children get older, they will see that every adult has a \”toy\” – a mobile phone. And I will watch an interesting \”box\” – a TV set. When parents tirelessly stick to these two things every day, laugh and discuss them. Children will also be curious and reach out for it. Of course, if parents hold a thick book, their children will also be curious, what is it? I remember when my son was almost 1 year old, every time I read a book, he would come and grab my book. I looked at my phone and grabbed my phone. Later, when I was with him, I put my phone in another room. Sometimes I would give him a book to play with and tell him, \”Baby, this is a book, daddy\’s book.\” One day, I bought him a few cloth books and a few hole-in-the-wall books, and handed him a book. Ben, told him, \”Baby, this is yours, your book, baby book.\” At that time, my son, who had just understood some of my words, excitedly grabbed the book and threw it around. Rarely can one truly “read.” But I create opportunities for books to find him and create opportunities for them to have close contact. I\’m like a dedicated \”matchmaker.\” Many mothers will definitely ask when they can be a \”matchmaker\” for their children. I recommend starting contact at 6 months, starting with cards and understanding the most basic colors.Starting with colors and shapes, you can play with books as toys. When he is one year old, he can start telling short stories to books. Of course, children at this stage have average comprehension skills, and they will love to read a book repeatedly, and it is possible that they will not read it for several weeks. And I will also be particularly disgusted with some classic books. That means I don’t like them, so don’t worry. So one mother said, \”I see that everyone recommends reading \”Guess How Much I Love You\” to their children, but my son doesn\’t read it every time. What\’s going on?\” I said that I would put it away first and wait a few times. Let’s talk about it in a month or half a year. Because my son only liked \”Little Black Fish\” at the beginning, I bought \”My Dad\” for him, but he would throw it away every time without even looking at it, which made me very sad as a father. But when I was two years old, \”My Dad\” became a must-read book every day. So choose books and read for your children. Don’t rush to deny it and say that your children don’t like reading. Don’t rush to exclude books, because the child just doesn’t like them at this time. Take your time and persistence and magic will happen. When we let children come into contact with books, a magical door opens. Now my son is addicted to reading. Every day before going to bed, I or my mother must read a few books. During the day, he would read some books by himself and ask me about things he didn’t understand. There must be mothers who will say, how can a child over four years old understand books? Of course, a four-year-old child cannot read financial statements, nor can he understand those densely packed textbooks. But they can understand pictures, understand the stories their parents read, and have some unique opinions of their own. Picture books are books specially prepared for children. When a child becomes addicted to reading, what parents have to do is not urge the child to read. Instead, choose good books for your children to read. Sometimes I would bargain with my children because I was too busy, saying that I would wait 10 minutes before watching. But the child must read it to the end. Once a habit is formed, prepare to accumulate it. One day, it will be fruitful. Of course, such gains occur naturally. There can be no compulsion or purpose. Never read to your children for utilitarian purposes. We often talk about the benefits of reading, and of course there is no doubt about it. But we cannot train children to read for these purposes. Reading itself is a beautiful thing that is in line with nature, but sometimes it becomes something that goes against nature and is forced to do it. The root cause of children\’s feelings is their parents\’ utilitarianism. Many parents read to their children only if it is meaningful. There is a word to describe a kind of person called \”refined egoist\”. In terms of reading, there are many people like this. Think first about whether it is useful? Pursue maximum benefits. Then, the child was taken into the prison of reading. To say it is a prison is an understatement. A teacher once told me that there was a student in his class who didn\’t want to go to school because he felt like vomiting when he saw the book. As soon as he saw the book, his mother\’s words came to his mind. \”How many words did you read today? What content did you talk about? Did you take notes? \”Don\’t read this book, it\’s useless. \”You can only read this book recommended by the school. You have to read it even if you don\’t find it interesting. This is the rule.\” This is the \”only classics and no reading\” type of parents. Of course classics are good things, thenIt is the inheritance of human wisdom and culture. True classics never fade and nourish the hearts of generations. But what many children like to read are some \”unnutritious\” fast-food books. Many of our popular campus novels are of this type. For such a situation, we should look at it in two parts. Just like eating, children love fast food and street food. We know these are unhealthy, but we cannot stop them, we can only channel them. Don’t say no as soon as your child says they want to read comics. As soon as I heard someone in the parent group saying which set of books should not be read, I immediately hid the children\’s books. Even do some detective work. This will only make your child more and more disgusted with you and want to get rid of control. Because if you don’t investigate, you don’t have the right to speak. If you haven\’t read it, don\’t say how bad it is. Do you really understand that children’s tastes also change with age? Can you keep up? Can you accept it? Acceptance and respect are not slogans, they play a key role when it comes to choices. Many children are under the control of their parents, and their interest in reading is gradually restricted. Reading is actually a very secretive behavior. There is no need to show off, and no one wants to interfere. Reading quietly is the beauty of reading. So what should I do when a mother tells me that her son likes reading comics and fantasy novels? I would say, let him watch it, and it\’s best if you watch it together. This way you know exactly what he saw. You can also have a good chat with your children about the plot. Either just keep watch and don\’t rush to interfere. Either get involved, accept the child, and read together. When your children accept and trust you, you can recommend some good classic books to them. Acceptance based on trust and trying can often change a child. I remember that when I was in middle school, I read everything. At that time, I really didn’t have much to read. So I read books about the Gulf War, fantasy novels, Chen Zhongshi’s White Deer Plain, and of course my favorite is Jin Yong. The most fortunate thing for me at that time was that no one in my family was in charge of reading, as long as I read. After entering college, I became more imaginative and read journals, magazines, novels and biographies. To this day, when someone asks me what books I have read, I read everything. I read the best-selling \”A Brief History of Humanity\”, professional psychology books, and Mr. Feng Youlan\’s \”A Brief History of Philosophy\”. When my wife was pregnant, she used to read pregnancy manuals, so I am reading this. Read it boldly, without too much purpose. When you open up the pattern yourself, you won\’t be too entangled in your child\’s choice. We often say that \”opening a book is beneficial\”, interest is the first step, open the book first and then talk. What I fear the most are children who never touch books and devote their interests to video games and TV. When can children read independently? This is a question that many parents are concerned about. First of all, you have to cultivate an independent spirit. You can start cultivating children\’s independent reading spirit from the age of three or four, because at this time children have a certain understanding ability. Of course, contact with late-reading children must be based on actual reading ability. Generally, a year of reading will form a certain foundation. At this time, you can tell the story to the child once, and then let the child read it once, or read it many times, as the child arranges. At first, the child will even reject it and say: IIf you don’t know how to read, read it to me, read it to me. You have to encourage your children and say that you can understand as much as you like by looking at the pictures. Don\’t give some tasks, which will destroy your child\’s confidence. I found that there is a kind of parent who, when reading a picture book with his children, has to make every effort to make sense. A 24-page book talks for dozens of minutes, and more than half of the time is spent making sense. As a result, the author\’s intention and conception are gone, and the perfect beauty of pictures and texts is gone. After reading it, the child neither knew what the story was nor what the mother said, and they were all confused. Therefore, I advocate reading cleanly and occasionally communicating and asking questions. Don\’t read a book to your children with the purpose of preaching. Only give answers when children ask questions themselves, and return to the story as soon as possible. Because children\’s attention is easily distracted. For older children, parents require their children to write reviews, reading plans, reading experiences, take notes, and excerpt good words and sentences… As a result, the children do not want to read because they are too tired. In fact, children who really fall in love with reading will record some words that impress them. Either keep it in mind or make some excerpts. But spontaneous excerpts are not the same as tasks assigned by parents. When a child has an independent spirit. Then wait for the improvement of ability. When children\’s literacy is not high, they always rely on their parents to read aloud. And more children just like the feeling of their parents reading aloud, which is close and warm. Some children are addicted because they like to listen to stories. Parents should selectively prepare some simple and easy-to-understand bridge books for their children – books that help children transition from picture books to independent reading. The biggest feature of this type of books is the combination of pictures and text, sometimes with a ratio of 1:1. Children understand the plot through pictures and read the plot through words. Wait for your child to slowly move towards independent reading. Don\’t rush to push your children away; they may already have the ability to read independently. I just like the way you tell stories. Then stick with it for one more year, it doesn\’t matter, you can find some interesting stories to tell your children. Generally, by the age of eight or nine, children will demand independence. What parents need to do is to help their children develop the habit of reading when they are young. And help children develop corresponding reading skills. This way when the child soars into the air. Talent is like the Kunpeng in the North Sea. The water hits it for three thousand miles, but it surges up to ninety thousand miles. Mr. Qi Bangyuan, who wrote \”The Great River\” said: \”I hope that Chinese scholars, no matter what you read, can develop your own interests as soon as possible, have some inner reliance throughout your life, and develop a calm judgment over time. Such a big country, so many People, with such a complicated and interlocking history, should no longer use passion to determine the fate of the country and individuals; I also hope that young people can cultivate a tolerant and compassionate mind.\” Let children start to like reading from an early age. That\’s it.