Children with these three personalities will suffer a lot when they grow up and their life development will be limited. Parents must be vigilant.

When it comes to childhood, everyone will think that it is a world of sweets and toys. In fact, childhood is a \”big show\” without rehearsal for everyone. If you don’t believe me, take a look, which of those characters, habits, and emotions were not cultivated since childhood? Yes, childhood is literally the appetizer of a lifetime. Childhood not only determines whether you like to eat carrots, but also determines your attitude towards life and your views on society. Your experiences as a child will be like a code that unlocks your future behaviors. In the script of childhood, school, family and peers are all protagonists. Childhood experiences not only affect your intellectual development but also shape your personality, values, self-esteem and social skills. At this time, children begin to have self-awareness and know what self-evaluation and self-experience are. In this scene, parents are definitely the biggest directors. If parents are committed to providing unconditional love and security, children are more likely to develop healthy personalities. Therefore, as a parent, if you find that your child has some major shortcomings that will affect the future, quickly take out the script and rewrite it. From a psychological point of view, if your child has the following three personalities, you must be vigilant and help them correct them as soon as possible, otherwise they will suffer a lot when they grow up and their life development will be limited. Children who suppress their emotions for a long time create a low sense of self-worth. The world of children is like a maze. When they encounter setbacks, conflicts and difficulties, their first reaction is to cry. For many children, tears are their ultimate weapon. However, if your child keeps crying and throwing tantrums for no reason, it\’s probably just to get your attention. At this time, parents need to reflect on whether their attention to their children is appropriate enough. If children have a distorted understanding of the world, they are more likely to develop a low sense of self-worth. Cognitive psychology research shows that negative emotions greatly affect our perception of our strengths. If a child is in negative emotions for a long time, he will feel that he is not worthy of love and has low value. When they feel this way, they suppress this emotion in their hearts, thinking that this idea is correct. But this suppression does not solve the problem. Subconsciously, unresolved conflicts remain painful. In Chinese-style family education, many children find it difficult to express their emotions reasonably. On the one hand, parents will think that their children are talking back and disobeying when expressing emotions; on the other hand, when their children\’s emotional expressions have not been reasonably vented and resolved, they will refuse to express their emotions again. Parents should teach their children how to best express their emotions: calm themselves down, think carefully about the cause and effect of things, it is best to think from others\’ perspective, understand the true source of their emotions, and then discuss it with others calmly. Living in the evaluation of others and constantly going against one\’s own wishes. American psychologist William James has this passage in his book \”The Humble\”: \”I do not encourage children to be \”obedient\” people. They should become self-aware, \”Innovative and independent people.\” However, in many Chinese families, parents always require their children to be obedient. Behind being obedient, it actually erases children\’s self-thinking and requires them to follow their parents and be consistent with their parents\’ ideas. when the children were young, they will be obedient in order to get praise from their parents. Over time, it is easy for children to live in the evaluation of others and do things against their own wishes in order to gain good evaluation. When you find that your child is always troubled by other people\’s comments, you need to reflect on whether you have provided appropriate education to your child as he or she grows up. For a mature person, the ability to think independently is extremely important. Children who are overly dependent on others will become very passive, have difficulty making decisions, and eventually develop indecisive traits. Please don’t be a controlling parent. A child is an independent individual first, and then your child. You must first learn to love yourself before you can learn to love others. Habitually liking to please others is a sign of low security. People-pleasing is essentially a fear of disagreeing with others and worrying that raising different opinions will damage the relationship, but in fact, true friendship and family love are not so fragile. When they were young, in order not to disappoint their parents, children had to be obedient to get praise; when they grew up, they continued this pattern of getting along in society. Therefore, they often suppress their feelings and please others, making their lives more tiring. This kind of people-pleasing personality will only make children feel conflicted and unhappy.