Children’s grades are sometimes the result of parents’ insistence

My little baby will enter first grade in September this year. In the past year, I have been preparing him for his transition from kindergarten to primary school, mainly studying cultural courses. Judging from Dabao\’s experience, it is necessary to learn a little bit in advance, and you will adapt faster when you go to elementary school. Now the basic plan every day is to do a page of calculation questions (twenty or thirty questions), phonetic notation of ten Chinese characters, and read some stories with pinyin, which is also a practice for pinyin. Write five-element Chinese characters, read raz picture books, memorize ancient poems and jump rope when you have time. The above projects may seem like a lot, but they are actually very simple. It only takes less than an hour for an adult to do them. But we don’t get it done every day. Many times, when my children come back from school and are tired, or I have something to do, or simply don’t want to take care of my children, I will suspend some or all of my mother’s homework. To be honest, there are many times when I don’t really want to take my child to study, and I just want to be lazy. I fantasize that if you tell me what you need to do, the baby will do it by himself. But for a six-year-old, it\’s a bit unrealistic. It is the introductory stage, and adults need to take the lead in learning and slowly develop the habit of independent learning. Some time ago, the kindergarten teacher suggested that the children participate in a storytelling competition. I thought it was a good opportunity to exercise my children, so I responded to the call and signed up. Since I signed up, I had to prepare well. I chose a story for my baby, and then coaxed my baby to practice, add movements, and record videos. It took a lot of time. Sometimes when I am very tired, I think, this is not necessary, I should give up, or simply cope with it. But when I saw other parents not only taking their children to practice telling stories, but also making unique costumes and props, I felt like I was sorry for my children with this mentality. After becoming a mother myself, I feel more and more that behind every great child there are parents who give silently. Which child is willing to practice piano, do problem solving, and read English? Most of them have their parents\’ supervision, guidance, or companionship, and they slowly become excellent through a lot of time and persistence. I know a few parents who formed a small group of their own in order to find study partners for their children, and they were still discussing the solution to a math problem in the middle of the night. A friend drove more than half an hour every week to take his child to dance lessons, and he persisted for six years regardless of rain or shine. There are many such examples around. A friend who works in art training said that after many years of observation, she found that children’s learning interests and learning results are largely related to the parents’ attitude and persistence. Having said this, I suddenly felt a little stressed. I made a small agreement with my daughter last year. We each write at least five sentences in our notebooks every day to record the day\’s events, insights, etc. This can be done in five or ten minutes a day, but I persisted for less than two months before I kept forgetting it for various reasons or excuses. I was ashamed to tell my daughter that my mother also needs to work hard to persist in this matter. Behind every outstanding child, there are parents who continue to persevere and support them. Don\’t envy others, try to be yourself first.