Chinese parenting strategy: middle-aged people are busy for their children, old people are busy for their grandchildren

Chinese parents are the hardest working people in the world. As a new parent, with a new addition to the family, the pressure to make money increases sharply. In addition to busy work, she also has to distinguish the quality of milk powder with a keen eye, sacrificing sleep time to look after children who cry at night. When the children reach school age, the issues of school choice and further education come to mind. Which school has the best teachers? Which school is closest to home? What is the standard of students in this school? When his children get married and start a family, and he finally retires and enjoys his old age, he has to take care of his children and grandchildren. After a busy life, you will still be busy when you are old. Chinese parents are so great that they are willing to sacrifice everything for their children. Some time ago, I saw news that Li Bangyong, a migrant worker in Zhejiang, suffered a work-related injury and disabled his right hand. Although he received compensation, he could no longer work in the factory. His wife ran away soon after, leaving behind a 3-year-old daughter. In order to support his daughter, he dragged his disabled right hand and carried her daughter on his back to deliver takeaways. While delivering food, you also have to take care of your daughter. You can imagine the hard work involved. In order not to miss the time, Li Bangyong always jogs all the way after stopping his electric car, just to deliver the takeaway to customers as soon as possible. During the peak period of elevator use, he climbed the stairs directly with his daughter in his arms, climbing more than a dozen floors in one go. No matter how difficult the conditions are, no matter how painful the experience is, they can\’t stop parents from devoting themselves to their children. The great father\’s love and mother\’s love are hidden in daily life. For the sake of the child, I suffered a great injustice. When I returned home and looked at the smiling face of the child, the anger in my heart seemed to be extinguished all of a sudden. For the sake of my children, I work hard, and even though I am doing something I don’t like that much, I can’t leave easily. In the busyness and running around, the children gradually grow up, and I also move from youth to middle age, and from middle age to old age. The growth of age and the passage of time will not dilute father\’s and mother\’s love, but will only make them more mellow with the fermentation of time. As parents age, they begin to worry about their grandchildren again. Many young people today want to work in big cities. Big cities have more opportunities and more room for development, especially first-tier cities. Talents from all over the country are attracted to them and continue to pour into them. However, more opportunities also come with higher housing prices, higher cost of living, and longer working hours. Many young people who have families in big cities cannot afford to take care of their children, so they have to ask their elderly parents to come to their city to take care of their children. Although parents may not really be willing to travel to a city thousands of miles away to take care of their grandchildren, most of them cannot resist the demands of their children and have no choice but to travel thousands of miles to the city where their children live and work tirelessly to take care of their grandchildren. There is a friend who works in Shenzhen. He and his wife are very busy at work and have no time to take care of their children. They can only ask their 60-year-old father to come to Shenzhen from central China to help the couple take care of their children. After the old man came to Shenzhen, he was not used to many things in life and often missed his hometown. However, for the sake of his children, he had to live in the big city year after year. Only during the Spring Festival would he have the opportunity to return to his hometown. Many parents sacrifice their careers for the sake of their children.Passed up a better opportunity. They live for their children, and everything they do is to make their children live better and grow up more smoothly. It cannot be said that this kind of unconditional fatherly and maternal love is wrong. These feelings are both human nature and good character. However, being a parent also has its limits. I recently saw a piece of news. A 27-year-old mother jumped off a bridge with her three children. Four fresh lives and most of the family were ended. The mother\’s letter read: \”I really can\’t bear it anymore. I haven\’t slept a full night since giving birth to twins.\” \”I really can\’t hold on anymore. I\’m really too tired…\” \”. There is a poignant exhaustion in every word. The most tiring thing in the world is not raising children, but working hard and giving everything for your children, but no one understands you, and you are criticized harshly. Mothers who quit their jobs and devote themselves to raising their children at home, get up early to drop off their children, cook, clean, help with homework, and enroll in interest classes, the hardship is no less than that of their husbands who work outside the home, but they are often discriminated against by their husbands, as if I am lazy at home, just waiting for my husband to make money for me to spend. Married but not pregnant job-seeking women are always at a disadvantage in the job market, and many employers either covertly or covertly do not recruit these women. These mothers sacrificed everything for their children, but in the end they received cold looks and discrimination from others. As the old saying goes, parents never travel far when they are here. Today\’s society is exactly the opposite. Parents always revolve around their children, and when the children have children, they revolve around their children\’s children. The life of Chinese parents is a life of fighting for their children. There is nothing wrong with creating a better life for children, but the hard work of parents should not be ignored. Father\’s love is great, and mother\’s love is great, but behind this greatness are many hardships day and night. The hard work of not being understood is the most torturous hard work. The bitterness that no one understands is the cruelest bitterness in the world. Be kind to your parents and the people in this world who love you most deeply.