Commit suicide if you don’t let them play with your mobile phone: Finally, you’ve got used to your child’s “glass heart”

If you spoil your child\’s \”glass heart\”, one day it will shatter into pieces. Recently, two topics have been trending on Weibo. Viewed separately, they are two different news items, but viewed together, it is not that simple: The first one was on the evening of September 2, somewhere in Anhui Province, firefighters rescued a young girl from a river. According to the firefighter, the girl loved playing with her mobile phone so much that she stayed up late at night. Her mother got angry and confiscated the mobile phone. The two got into an argument, and then the girl walked out of the house and jumped into the river. The girl could swim, but was unable to swim ashore and shouted for help. Fortunately, firefighters arrived and rescued her. Coincidentally, another incident happened at the same time: an 8-year-old girl in Chengdu jumped from the 21st floor out of anger because her parents did not allow her to watch TV, and fell into the woods behind the community. Her life or death was uncertain. In the two incidents, on one side, the mother put away her mobile phone, and on the other side, the parents refused to allow her to watch TV. After a dispute with her family, neither girl remained calm and impulsively chose to commit suicide. Parents will feel aggrieved: \”Isn\’t it just that we are not allowed to watch TV or play with mobile phones? Is it such a big deal?\” To normal people, it is indeed a trivial matter. But for these two girls, it was enough to make them \”unthinkable.\” The reason is that the child suffers from \”interpersonal sensitivity\” syndrome, which in layman\’s terms is a \”glass heart\”. When hit, the heart is as fragile as glass. Glass heart is originally an Internet term, which means that one\’s heart is as fragile as glass. It is used to describe the other party\’s words or actions that deeply hurt oneself. As the times progress, \”glass heart\” has become a hypocritical disease caused by modern people who care too much about their own feelings. More and more children are also suffering from this disease. A survey by psychologists has proven that 46% of children in our country suffer from \”glass heart\” to varying degrees. Moreover, children with better family conditions are more likely to have a bad heart. The reason is that these families pamper and pamper their children excessively. The whole family circled around a child, holding it in their mouths for fear of melting and holding it in their hands for fear of falling. For children, opening their mouths when food comes and stretching out their hands when clothes come comes, forming a strong dependence and satisfaction. All requirements can be met, and they will mistakenly believe that they are the center of the world and believe too much in their own summoning power. Once their requirements are not met and their summoning power fails, they will feel extremely frustrated. Excessive summoning power is the root cause of glass heart. Children are used to calling the wind and rain, and are used to being aloof. Once the summons is ineffective, they will fall into the abyss. After the country opened up the possibility of having a second child, many couples chose to have a second child. Originally, the whole family revolved around the eldest son, but now that they have a new baby, they have less care for the eldest son. The eldest son, who was originally arrogant, has been left out. In Wuhan City, a couple gave birth to their second child. They happily enjoyed the surprise brought by their second child, but their love for their eldest daughter suddenly decreased. One time, my mother was taking a shower and asked her daughter to help take care of her 8-month-old brother. After a while, my mother heard a \”bang\” and hurried to the room and saw her daughter standing on the balcony with dull eyes. And her infant brother was thrown from the 8th floor by her own hands. Coincidentally, some netizens posted their own \”Guarantee\” online.\”Book\”, promising her daughter that she will always love \”Dabao\” first, and only with \”Dabao\’s\” permission can she have a second child. I also saw another post about a mother who was 4 months pregnant. The eldest son did not allow the mother to have a second child. He refused to study, played games, threw things at home, and threatened to kill the second child in the future. These big treasures were overly pampered and had a glassy heart. They were suddenly ignored and unable to adjust themselves. They could not bear such a blow. Psychologists say that the harm caused by children suffering from glass heart is even greater. They have always enjoyed meticulous care and any request can be met. Suddenly one day the request is not met. The child\’s adjustment ability is weak and cannot make adjustments in time, so he has to Backlogged in my heart. When too much backlog breaks out, people do things more horrific than adults, including suicide and revenge on others. In August, a murder occurred in Xuancheng City, Anhui Province. The police identified the suspect within a few hours of dispatch. Surprisingly, the murderer was the deceased\’s son who was under 14 years old. There is no conflict between mother and son on weekdays. The mother is very kind to her son and tries her best to meet all his requirements. This time it was because the mother did not let her son play with his mobile phone. He was angered and failed to regulate his emotions. The impulsive son stabbed his biological mother with a dagger. Similar to the above-mentioned incident, a small conflict would have been trivialized by ordinary people, but when it happened to a child, the glass heart caused trouble and caused a catastrophe. It turned out that a boy under 14 years old did something treacherous because of an impulse. What was originally a happy family fell apart because of the child\’s unhealthy psychology. Obviously, children with a glass heart really cannot be harmed. Whether it is the accusations and scoldings of their parents or emergencies in a strange environment, their fragile hearts cannot bear it. When I was in college, I had a classmate named Xiaowei. From childhood to adulthood, everything was done by his parents. On the day of registration at the university, more than a dozen people from his family came down. The originally small dormitory was so crowded that the other roommates had to go out and wait for his family to help him make his bed, pack his clothes, shoes, and socks before leaving, and then he was able to return to the dormitory. During his college years, Xiaowei had a bad attitude. Chatting with classmates should not be directed, and friends should not target him. Whenever he was hurt in the slightest, he would become depressed, secretly sad, and would not communicate with others. After graduation, Xiaowei went to several companies, but failed to find a stable job. In his words, \”it\’s so sad to go to work, everyone is targeting me.\” In fact, what he calls \”targeting\” is just some common company culture. It is because he is too \”glass-hearted\” and has weak ability to resist being hit when something happens. He simply asks for leave and refuses to go to work. If he happens too many times, the company will fire him. Apart from. A few years after graduation, Xiaowei is still living at home, unkempt and afraid to leave the house. With her parents\’ utmost satisfaction, Xiaowei has never been hit, and her resistance index is zero. When you are at home, you have the care of your parents, but when you go out into the society, no one takes care of you anymore. When the harm comes suddenly, you are caught off guard, and your heart is like glass, which breaks with a single blow. There is a Chinese proverb that says, \”To make seeds, you need to dry them in the sun.\” To make seeds, you must dry them in the sun, otherwise they will not germinate. The same is true for children\’s education. If children want to become useful, they must notLet him stay in the greenhouse and don\’t pamper him too much. If a child\’s glass heart is spoiled because of excessive pampering, one day it will shatter into pieces. For various reasons, contemporary families\’ love for their children has turned into doting. As everyone knows, while doting on a child infinitely, it will also cause the child\’s psychological abnormality to grow. Blind satisfaction will only lead to children asking for more. When you want to refuse, you will find that you are already riding a tiger. Pathological education methods will eventually teach children with morbid psychology, and glass heart is the most obvious one. Educator Krupskaya once said: \”For parents, family education is first and foremost self-education.\” When every parent educates their children, they must first examine whether the method is correct and pave the way for their children. It is better to let The child learns to walk on his own. To prevent and treat children’s glassy heart, Zhihu netizen @fanxiaoxiao summarized several points: 1. Your world view affects your child’s world view. How you view the world is how your children view it. Parents who have a glass heart will educate their children to have a glass heart. If you think that the teacher\’s criticism is targeted, the child will feel resentful towards the teacher. If you think that the teacher is correcting mistakes and helping the child \”cut branches\”, then the child will think that he can grow into a towering tree. 2. Appropriately relieve children’s negative emotions. It is often thought that children should not have bad tempers. Their bad tempers are due to ignorance and disobedience. In fact, otherwise, children will also be angry and depressed. We adults have many people to talk to, but children rarely have other emotional supporters except their parents. You might as well be a close friend of your child to help relieve his bad emotions. 3. If parents are calm and calm when things happen, their children will remain calm and calm. Some parents feel like the sky is falling when something happens, and instinctively want to hide. Under the influence of such behavior, their children will also develop a mentality of escaping when something happens. Even when Mount Tai collapses, your face remains unchanged, especially when your children are around. If you set an example for your children to not be afraid of trouble, then your children will have a strong heart. 4. The best way to love a child is to let him fly. No matter how much you love your children, you must know how to let go. Being obedient to children is actually harming them. Under the protection of parents\’ wings, it is difficult to fly high. Only by allowing children to try unknown things, encounter setbacks and difficulties, and face difficulties head-on can the \”glass heart\” be cured.