Dad, do you no longer love my mother?

Many mothers write to me to share some problems with their children. He even told me at the end, \”If you need the child\’s father to do something, just leave it out because he won\’t cooperate no matter what you say.\” When I saw this sentence, I felt endless sadness. What kind of father forced my mother to do this? There is a sentence that is very hurtful. A woman\’s misfortune is not to meet a scumbag, nor to marry a scumbag. Instead, she had a child with a scumbag boy. Because women change for the sake of their children. became soft-hearted. Became more tolerable. Therefore, some men think that they are the best in the world. Domineering at home. The domestically violent father in the Indian movie \”Mysterious Superstar\”. When beating his wife, he has to take off his coat and watch first, for fear of damaging his dress. In his eyes, his wife is not as good as a piece of clothing. In front of the children, he threw the food served by his wife to the ground. He complained that his wife didn\’t understand his hard work outside. It was as if he had suffered greatly. Since I am a man and a father. What does it mean to suffer a little? There are also many mothers who want more fatherly love for their children. So endure being beaten, scolded, and angry, and maintain a complete home. That day I opened my mailbox and received a letter from a mother. Her letter was not typed, but written word by word on paper, then photographed and sent to me. A total of three pieces of paper were filled. That\’s not a mother\’s complaint, but a deep concern and love for her children. Because my father has violent tendencies and loses his temper at every turn. No matter whether the child is in front of her or not, if she is in a bad mood, she will throw things or even hit her. When he was angry at the children for no reason, he would accuse her of spoiling her children whenever she spoke. In the dead of night, she thought, \”Is this kind of father\’s love what a child needs?\” What was scary was watching her son become like his father day by day. He also started to lose his temper, throw things, and hit people. If he does become that person in the end, it\’s not ruining the child. When he grows up, won\’t it bring new misfortunes to a woman and child in the future? He expected his husband to make changes. But the stubborn husband always felt that he was right. Once, his eldest daughter, who was in middle school, asked him, \”Dad, do you not love your mother anymore? Why do you always hit her? It\’s not good for her at all.\” As a result, he glared at his daughter, but did not have an attack. But when she heard this, she burst into tears. Judging from what this mother said. This father is even scarier than the domestic violence man in \”Mysterious Superstar\”. And the mother in the movie also said the same thing: \”You can\’t let your brother become like your father.\” So in the end they held his brother\’s hand and left the domestic violence man together. The ending of the movie is very satisfying. Because the evildoers were finally punished. The injured person escapes the tormenting quagmire. But what about in reality? The damage continues to happen. There are as many mothers who are tortured as there are fathers who are obsessed with it. I think there are two gifts that mothers want most: one is for their children to grow up healthily and safely. The other is that the child has a good father. Father\’s love gives children a sense of direction, and maternal love gives children a sense of security. Children will constantly observe and imitate their father, especiallyBoys need the strong support of their fathers to grow up, obtain gender identity from their fathers, identify a male role model, and know what a boy should be like. And please believe that if you work hard to be a good dad, you will receive many unexpected and wonderful gifts. The greatest gift in the world is receiving love. When you love your child, the child will love you deeply. When you care about him, he will also care about you. I had something to do when I went back to my hometown a few days ago. When leaving home, I told my son: \”Dad will be back for three days. You should listen to your mother at home and be a man!\” Then they kissed each other on the cheeks. The little guy happily agreed. When he came back, I asked him if he missed his father. \”Think!\” \”Then why didn\’t you call me?\” \”I forgot to think about it.\” My wife later told me: \”The little guy still misses you very much. He counts the time for you to come back every night. , and it’s accurate to the minute.” I was washing my face at the time, and I felt my eyes welling up, and I was deeply moved. This is love, how precious it is! As a young child, some emotions cannot be expressed smoothly. Especially little boys always enjoy playing. The mouth is not as sweet as a girl\’s. But that pure love is exactly the same. A child’s little expectation is that daddy loves mommy and mommy loves daddy! Only when parents truly love and respect each other can their children have a stable psychological foundation. Only in this way can we better receive more love and find direction and strength. A friend who works as a psychological counselor once told a story. It was in a coffee house. The friend was sitting there quietly, and diagonally opposite there was a couple chatting intimately. Occasionally, the husband would hold his wife\’s hand, smile and say something to her, and then gently kiss the back of her hand. The wife\’s face was full of happiness. Their children ran away happily. Then walk around the coffee shop. When he came to his friend, he greeted the little girl, and the child ran away a little shyly. But the child came again after a while. She may think this adult is funny. So the two chatted happily. When talking about interesting places, children will laugh happily. There was also a boy at the table next to my friend. He was drinking a large glass of juice alone. But he didn\’t look happy at all. His mother was saying to her husband opposite: \”No matter what, you can get a divorce, but you can\’t take the child away! I can\’t let him be with that woman.\” You can hear her voice trembling as she spoke. pain. At this time, the child glanced at the sad mother and buried his head deeper. Then his eyes looked around. When he saw his friend\’s side. The friend smiled and motioned to him. Unexpectedly, the child contracted as if he was electrocuted. Then he ducked. He secretly looked at what the girl was doing. In fact, he should really want to play with this little sister. But in his little world, it was raining and even snowflakes were falling. You can feel his fear and uneasiness. Why are children of the same age so different? Because their mothers are different, one is happy and sweet, and the other is painful and sad. The child can easily pick up the signals from the mother. The expressions on mothers’ faces, and the tone of their voices. Can be used by sensitive childrencatch. Children can instantly sense whether you are happy or not. What is the best love a father can give his children? It is by no means a good material living environment for them. But love their mother. Because of her husband\’s love, this woman will become gentle and happy. Who do you think is born to lose temper and be a resentful woman? Being treated gently by their husbands, they will also become gentle and tolerant. A happy mother makes the home relaxed and happy. Children who grow up in such an environment will definitely be different. Don\’t let your children ask you one day because of your own absence: \”Dad, do you not love my mother anymore?\” So, fathers, please love me!