Dad who accompanies students in Kochi: Children should be left alone before the fifth grade of elementary school, and they should play when they need to. Three abilities are more important than grades.

There is a father in our community who has a master\’s degree from a prestigious school and teaches mathematics and serves as a class teacher in a key middle school. Occasionally when I meet him in the community, mothers will ask him for advice on how to educate their children. This father\’s approach is different from that of many Jiba parents. His children are in grades one to four of primary school and have never enrolled in tutoring classes, and he rarely cares about their children\’s studies. His children are basically left alone. During holidays and weekends, as long as the children finish their homework, they are allowed to play happily. It wasn\’t until the child entered the fifth grade that the father began to focus on his child\’s performance. The child also managed to live up to his expectations. It only took one semester to transform from an average student to a top student in the class, which impressed both teachers and classmates. Speaking of the secret of his children\’s counterattack, this father said that it is actually very simple. In grades 1-4, don\’t place too much emphasis on grades, but focus on cultivating the three abilities of your children. Your children will have great potential. Ability No. 1: The ability to learn independently. As the old saying goes, all knowledge must be learned by children themselves, not by teachers or parents. The key to whether a child learns well or not is not whether the teacher is good or the parent is good, but whether the child himself can learn. Self-learning ability is the most important ability for children to enter the upper grades of elementary school, even junior high school and high school. It includes not only previewing, reviewing, sorting out wrong questions, but also including independent access to information, independent completion of homework, etc. So how to cultivate children\’s self-learning ability? It is recommended that parents of first and second grade students must accompany their children in reading, participate in their children\’s learning process as much as possible, standardize their children\’s sitting and pen-holding postures, and help their children develop good study habits step by step. Study habits involve a lot of details. Take homework as an example. Before doing homework, be sure to let your children review before writing. Before starting to write, they must drink water, eat, and go to the toilet. Clean the desk and take away any gadgets that may distract. Extracurricular books, mirrors, electronic products, etc., only keep items related to homework… Starting from the third grade, parents no longer need to accompany the children to study, and let the children arrange their own learning tasks. You only need to accept the results. Through the speed and accuracy of the children\’s homework, In terms of reading accuracy, endorsement fluency, etc., we can promptly identify children’s learning problems and help them adjust. After fourth grade, it is best for parents to let their children do their own homework, correct it, summarize problems, and think of solutions. You only need to give them a little guidance when they are confused. Sometimes, the less control parents have, the more responsible and conscious their children will be in learning. The second ability: the ability to review knowledge. I know a senior Chinese language teacher who has taught countless top students in Chinese. These children have excellent expression, writing, and reading comprehension skills. This teacher’s magic weapon for education is review. The specific method is to let the children go home every day to recite the text to you, review the content explained by the teacher, and review the wrong questions. Let the children be primary teachers and output a large amount of the knowledge input in school through retelling. In the process of output, children will naturally reprocess knowledge, which can not only consolidate knowledge, but also deepen their understanding of knowledge and internalize it into their own. Not only that, this learning method can also train children’s language skills at the same time.Children will also become more and more confident as their verbal expression skills and logical thinking skills improve. This is actually the Feynman learning method used by many top students. If your child has developed the ability to review knowledge before fifth grade, you will find that the higher the grade, the more obvious the child\’s learning advantage will be, and his learning status will get better and better. The third ability: the ability to answer questions in a standardized manner. Many parents find that their children often make mistakes in questions that they know how to do. Either they are careless and have written the wrong questions, or they answer incompletely or do not answer the question. This problem will become more obvious the higher the grade of the child and the more difficult the homework. If you want to avoid making low-level mistakes, you must cultivate your children\’s ability to answer questions in a standardized manner. Specifically, it includes reading by finger, circling key words, reviewing the question word by word, seeing clearly whether the question is a requirement, circling the correct pronunciation, or crossing out the wrong pronunciation. In addition, you must answer according to the standards. For example, the question asked: Who runs faster, Xiao Ming or Xiao Gang? The child must not only calculate the speed of the two people, but also compare their data to get a complete answer. Written at the end: This father’s education experience is worth learning from. I have been using it, and the effect is really great! If we can consciously cultivate children from these three aspects in primary school, after children enter junior high school, as their thinking ability improves, their learning ability will soar, and they will easily be among the best, and parents will not have to worry about learning at all. .