Daddy Mommy | Why do you ask your baby, “Do you love daddy or mommy the most?” Don’t ask this question again!

Have parents ever asked their own babies, \”Do you like daddy or mommy best?\”, or have they asked other babies, \”Do you like your daddy or mommy best?\”. According to Xiaokangjun’s observation, too many parents ask their babies this question. But what\’s the point of asking this kind of question? What mentality do you have to ask this question? When Xiaokang Jun encountered this kind of problem for the first time when he was a child, he told the truth that he loved his father the most. His father was smiling happily, while his mother was looking gloomy. When faced with this question again, Mr. Xiaokang \”shrewdly\” answered \”I love them all\”, but this time my parents were not satisfied and had to choose one of the two. Xiaokangjun burst into tears. Baby, why can’t I simply express my preferences? Do you have to watch your words and actions to please your parents? The baby may simply like it because his father bought new toys and delicious food today. Asked again later, the answer was different. Choosing a father does not mean that you don’t love your mother. Forcing babies to choose one or the other is not good for parents and babies! Impact on Parents Parents will be harmed. Mom, dad, grandparents all want their babies to like them the most. Especially when parents work outside the home, the baby is left in the care of grandparents or grandparents. Grandparents will often ask, \”Baby, do you like your parents or your grandparents the most?\” Of course, babies who have lived with their grandparents for a long time will say \”grandparents\”. The grandparents are happy, but the parents on the side are much sadder. She worked hard to earn money just to give her baby a good life, but in the end, she was no longer close to her baby. It’s sad to think about it! But if you say you love your parents the most, your grandparents may say that your baby is a white-eyed wolf who works so hard to take care of you, but in the end still kisses your parents! Asking this question makes some people smile, while others feel sad and lonely! Why bother! Effects on babies: 1. Losing innocence and frankness and learning to \”make the most of the situation\”. Your sadness and happiness are all seen by your baby. Initially, the immature baby likes to do as he pleases, but he gradually learns to answer questions based on your expressions. No matter who asks, the answer is always yes. Some babies really like them, but some are trying to please their parents against their will. Is it okay to learn to read people’s faces and act according to the circumstances from an early age, losing the ability to make independent judgments and self-expression? 2. Self-centered. In order to make the baby love themselves more, every family member tries their best to please the baby, and the baby may gradually become self-centered and arrogant. \”I\’m the little sun, look at everyone surrounding me!\” At this time, it\’s not the baby\’s face that looks at you, but the way you look at the baby\’s face! 3. Dependence on one parent and resistance to the other. If you ask your baby who he likes best for a long time, he will form his own thinking. Even if you say you like them all, there will definitely be a bias. When parents quarrel, parents will try to win the baby to their side. When the baby realizes his own importance, he will stand on one of the \”teams\” and fight against the other party together! thereby excluding the other parent. The point is, what does the quarrel between parents have to do with the baby? Why drag the baby into the \”fire of war\” and make the baby hate the other parent? Dad, mom and baby together form a family as a whole. Baby\’s interest in mother and fatherInterest and status are equally important. Once this question is asked, the baby will think whether my mother gives me more or my father gives me more. But in fact, parents love their babies in different ways. There are differences in form, but there is no difference in love! Although today’s babies are very smart and have all kinds of witty and naughty answers! But try not to ask! Maybe Mommy just wants to know her position in the baby\’s mind, but don\’t force the baby to say things that go against her will! Don’t get angry because of your baby’s answer! If you really want to ask, please don’t force your baby to choose one or the other! In addition to parents asking this question, some relatives and friends prefer to ask this question. Their purpose of asking this question is nothing more than to amuse the baby. It\’s fine for lively children, but it will inevitably cause trouble for shy and introverted babies. So please don’t let others tease your baby for entertainment purposes. Don’t tease other kids by asking this question!