Daughter, I hope you can be a little \”bad\”

During an argument, he strangled her neck with both hands and suffocated her to death. After killing his wife, he put her body in a freezer for 105 days. This is the simple case of the recent high-profile case of killing his wife and hiding her body in the refrigerator. It is sad that the deceased is gone. The murderer has also surrendered, and I believe he will receive the punishment he deserves. But as parents who lost their only daughter, we can\’t imagine their pain. How they will spend the rest of their lonely and desolate life. They must have regretted countless times why they didn\’t stop their daughter from marrying this son-in-law who they didn\’t like. As a person with a daughter, when I saw the news that the girl was hurt, I couldn\’t help but feel nervous. I wanted to give everything I had to protect my daughter for the rest of her life. But \”it is not up to the mother to control the child\”, and I also know that as the daughter grows up, many things are beyond the control of the parents. The older the daughter, the less the parents can do. I also know that no matter how much parents do, it is impossible to prevent all accidents from happening, but at least they can reduce some unnecessary harm. Rather than raising my daughter to be a good girl in the eyes of everyone, I hope she can be a little \”bad\” as she grows up. Yang Liping, the victim in the wife-killing case, was described as \”good\” by everyone who knew her. In her father\’s eyes, she is well-behaved and has a good temper. In her mother\’s eyes, she has been well-behaved and kind-hearted since she was a child. Even if her kitten dies, she still wants to give it a decent burial. In the eyes of her friends, she is always the quietest one among them. She was a good child and a good student when she was a child. When she grew up, she was a serious and responsible teacher. She was so kind to everyone. But in her heart, she actually longs to be a different version of herself. Japanese rock musician MIYAVI is her idol. This musical young man is a bit rebellious, and his visual style, multiple tattoos all over his body, unique nose and lip rings, and guitar skills have attracted public attention. This kind of character with internal and external conflicts destined Zhu Xiaodong to be a disaster that she could not escape. He dressed in an unusual way, a bit like her idol; his native family was unhappy and had no one to take care of him; he once suffered from cancer, so he hid in order not to burden her, and only came back to find her after he recovered. His completely different personality from hers, his misfortune, and his \”love\” made her feel that he was the Prince Charming she was looking for. She would spend her whole life making him happy. This was her mission. She wanted to save him. Only she can save him. She had been good since she was a child, so she couldn\’t imagine how complicated he was. He talks about his misfortune to everyone, not just her; he left not because of cancer, but to be with another girl; he looks ordinary, but is actually an internet celebrity. She didn\’t know anything that he didn\’t want her to know. She only knew that she wanted to love such a person. This may be a fate that many good girls cannot escape. I still remember Guan Ju\’er in \”Ode to Joy\”. She is also such a good girl. She never goes against her parents\’ wishes. She has been outstanding all the way and is the best-behaved one in everyone\’s eyes. But a good girl can also be crazy sometimes, that is when she meets the person she thinks is right. Xie Tong became her doom. He was different from the boys she had known along the way. He got into gang fights, was expelled from school, and his ex-girlfriend committed suicide because of him. When Guan Juer knew this, she felt that she loved him even more.. He can give her unexpected surprises and romance, and his temperament is what she likes in her heart. For him, she, who had never resisted her parents since she was a child, could fight against her parents. She, who never blushed, could break up with her friends. She loved him hopelessly. Fortunately, they didn\’t end up together. Good girls have almost no rebellious period since childhood, but it does not mean that they are not rebellious in their hearts. Good girls are more likely to be fooled by people\’s appearances and are more likely to show their sincerity without warning. Good girls are more likely to meet bad men. In addition to being easy to be unkind to others, good girls are more likely to be hurt and dare not resist. Do you still remember the tragic news at the beginning of the year that the girl was sexually assaulted by her tutor for a year? In order to improve his daughter\’s academic performance, the girl\’s father spends 160,000 yuan every year to hire a famous teacher to tutor his daughter in her homework. And such a sanctimonious person actually molested and sexually assaulted a girl in her home under the eyes of her parents. The girl\’s parents did not expect that this person would be so bold. Although they were not watching in their daughter\’s room, they were usually at home. Even so, the girl was still hurt, and she was hurt for more than a year. I think this child must be a good child in the eyes of her parents and teachers. She has been taught to be obedient and well-behaved since she was a child, so when she was violated by her teacher, she did not dare to refuse, resist or tell her parents. She also told her parents tactfully that she did not want to ask for a tutor, but her parents kindly blocked her. If she had been a bit bad and yelled \”gangster\” or \”go away\” when she was violated for the first time, her parents would have rushed into the room and nothing would have happened in the future. Or she could tell her parents how hurt she was, and it wouldn\’t hurt as much. Most of the girls who are violated are good girls, and most bad guys don\’t dare to touch bad girls because they know they won\’t get anything cheap. Of the five beauties in \”Ode to Joy\”, my favorite is actually Qu Xiaoxiao, the \”bad girl\” in everyone\’s eyes. She has experienced the world and is very accurate in judging people. She knows what she wants and what she can get. She has the means and ability to live a free and unrestrained life. She can also sacrifice herself for her friends, give up all her property for her parents, and put down her dignity for her business. Such a girl who lives a transparent life will not let herself get hurt easily. With such a daughter, parents will have less worries. Therefore, I hope that my daughter can be a little \”bad\” when she grows up and not be a good girl. If you are a little \”bad\”, you can not suppress your heart, live according to your inner wishes, and be your true self, instead of being calm on the surface and hot on the inside; if you are a little \”bad\”, you will see that there is not only There is a good side and a bad side. You can evaluate a person objectively, instead of giving yourself up easily just because of a few good words or a few surprises. If you are a bit \”bad\”, you will not give up easily to yourself. Sincerely, I don’t hope to be a savior on my own because of sympathy or pity. Even if you give everything, you may not save some people’s evil; if you are “bad”, you are not afraid of destroying your beautiful image in the eyes of others. , bravely say \”no\” to the hurt around you.\”, don\’t let bad people take advantage. If you are \”bad\”, you don\’t have to live in other people\’s eyes or words, and don\’t care what others think of you, instead of being controlled by others and letting others control your life. I know, do A good girl and a well-behaved girl are what everyone wants to see, but I still hope that my daughter can be a little \”bad\” and that the bad ones can protect themselves.