Dealing with Adolescents: The Top Tip: Two Words

I chatted with my classmate for an hour yesterday. My classmate used to work in a research institute. Three years ago, he was transferred to a 985 university as a teacher. She thought that being a teacher would be easier than before and she would have time to take care of her children. Unexpectedly, teachers in colleges and universities are also very busy. They have to give lectures, lead students, and do projects. They are even busier than before. It turns out that the work in the unit is classified as confidential, and the work can only be completed in the unit. You cannot take it home or work remotely. After she came home, the child felt unconvinced when he saw that his mother was idle, not working, and still trying to take care of me. Working in a university is not as relaxing as we imagine university teachers to be. They don’t have winter or summer vacations, and it’s even more common for their parents to work from home. They go home and work overtime every night and work overtime on weekends. Her husband holds an important position and is busier than her. The two are husband and wife and comrades-in-arms. They don\’t play games when they go home. They live very self-disciplined lives, learn from each other and make progress together. In the environment where the couple was motivated and motivated, something magical happened. The two children take the initiative to study at home and are extremely self-motivated, so there is no need for her to be overly concerned. Her eldest daughter started school and was promoted to the second grade of junior high school, and her second daughter was the same age as my second daughter. She had been waiting for puberty to arrive, but it didn\’t seem to happen to her child. The relationship between the couple is healthy and the children are nourished in a loving and accepting environment. Mom and dad work so hard that the two children think that studying hard is a very normal thing. The two of us lamented yesterday that this is the power of role models. Parents set an example and children will understand naturally without preaching. If parents are self-disciplined, it is natural for children to be self-disciplined. The best way to get along with adolescent children is two words: Model 02 psychological counselor Xu Xu described it in her book \”It\’s Better to Understand Children than to Manage Children\”. In order to set an example for her children, she enrolled in an English class with her children and became the largest English student in the class. In order to set an example for her children, she wanted her son to see her mother\’s perseverance and spent six years losing 50 pounds. My son watched the whole process. Xu Xu’s husband is doing business and needs to socialize. In order to set an example for his children, he quit smoking and drinking. It is much easier for women to lose weight and for men to quit smoking than to scold or complain about their children. But for the sake of the children\’s growth, the mother finally succeeded in losing weight and the father succeeded in quitting smoking. The son grew up in this process and cultivated the child\’s perseverance. Finally, he was admitted to the ideal university. The child is healthy, sunny, positive and optimistic. After I broke my bone, I only stopped updating for one day on the day of surgery and insisted on updating articles every day. My parents said that writing articles requires your eyes every day. You have to lie down and write on your mobile phone. You are so tired. Take a good rest and never write again. A very important reason why I continue to write every day is to set an example for my children. Let your children see that no matter what they go through, they still have to do what needs to be done, life continues, and pain is not a reason for you to lie down. Complaining is a day, being positive and happy is a day, and my children will read my articles every day. They know that their mother can help others every day, which is also meaningful. I write every day and they write essays. There is nothing to complain about. I write two to three thousand words every day. I tell my children that the maximum length of an essay is 800 words. If you can’t write it, you should experience more life, read more books, think more, and learn more. 03 CCTV’s famous host Dong Qing, after giving birth to a child, I don’t know whether I should continue to work or focus on raising the child at home. When she was in a dilemma, her good friend told her: \”What kind of person do you want your child to be? It\’s very simple. Just be that kind of person.\” This sentence was like an enlightenment. Dong Qing said: \”I You should work hard to make yourself better so that when your child truly understands you in the future, he will love and respect you. He can learn some good qualities from you. I don’t want to give up the possibility of continuing to grow. \”I don\’t want to stop because of my children.\” So she started preparing for \”The Reader\”, not only as the host, but also as a producer. Over the years, I have been communicating with parents on the front line, and many parents do not want an immediate solution. Instead of complaining that it is difficult to take care of your children, in fact, when you focus on your children, it becomes increasingly powerless sometimes. Put your attention on yourself and see how you can set an example for your children and lead by example, and you may suddenly become enlightened. The power of role models is endless. I hope parents all over the world can give their children strength.