Destroy a child and let him indulge in \”junk happiness\”

Recently, the topic on Weibo about \”the true status of students taking online classes\” has attracted the attention and discussion of tens of millions of netizens. One of the highly praised videos shared by a blogger made people sigh: In the video, some children were sleeping while attending class; some children were listening to classes on computers and playing games on their mobile phones. What’s more, with Coke, milk tea, ice sprite in the left hand, and fried chicken, burgers and French fries in the right hand, you can find happiness among the snacks while attending class. In order to enjoy short-term happiness, these children are unwilling to get up early and sleep until they wake up naturally every day. In the pile of various learning software and materials, I lie down and fall asleep. I don’t want to take online classes, study MOOCs, or do homework. In a state of confusion, I spent day after day. Be willing to become a captive of fragmented entertainment and let yourself be overwhelmed by unbridled sensual enjoyment. How can a child who is addicted to junk happiness like this have a future? Although I gained short-term satisfaction, I lost my self-control and learning ability in this happiness. I was too lazy to think and progress, and let my future be stolen little by little by this happiness. No wonder some people say, destroy a child and let him indulge in pleasure. Junk happiness is slowly destroying your child. There is a topic on Zhihu: \”How do you think the best way to destroy your child is to give him a mobile phone?\” Some netizens replied: \”Playing with mobile phones is not terrible, it is terrible It’s junk happiness. Don’t let your children indulge in the junk happiness of playing on mobile phones.” What causes junk happiness? That\’s something that gives people short-term pleasure. Psychologist Adam Alt said: \”Entertainment products such as games, gossip, and live broadcasts are like drugs. They can make people addicted if they are not careful.\” Once children taste the sweetness of junk happiness, they will become addicted and can\’t help but think about it. Wanting more can even lead to losing one\’s will and neglecting what should be done. How terrible is junk happiness? Take playing with mobile phones as an example. The United States once launched a survey: scientists spent 10 years tracking 100 children. Among them, 50 often played with mobile phones and the other 50 had no access to mobile phones. Ten years later, the ending is shocking. Among those children who often played with mobile phones, only two went to college. Of those kids who didn’t have access to cell phones, all went to college. Among them, 16 children received full scholarships. Mobile phones satisfy children\’s temporary happiness, but the junk happiness created by mobile phones kills children\’s self-control, their learning ability, and even their ambition. Junk happiness not only widens the distance between children and their peers, but also destroys children step by step. Junk happiness is as harmful as poison. If you look carefully, you will find that those children who love to play games, watch videos, watch TV series, and are addicted to junk happiness have one thing in common: they are interested in short-term pleasure. Have no interest in anything outside. A mother in the group of precious mothers said: \”Before playing games, my child was well-behaved and obedient. Her grades were also very good in the class. The teachers all praised her. This child is so smart. However, since the child became obsessed with games, , every day when I go home, I don’t do my homework, I don’t want to eat, I just want to play with my mobile phone first. In one semester, my grades plummeted. NowChildren make noises every day and want to play. If they are not given, they will start wiping tears and rolling around. Even smashing things. Hey, I shouldn\’t have let him play games at all. \”I used to think it was okay for children to play games, but when I discovered the seriousness of the matter, it was too late to regret it. Once children have experienced the pleasure of games, it is difficult to get out of it. At this time, if someone stops them, they will become a different person. People lose their temper and make a big fuss. Faced with this situation, parents are either helpless or violent to stop it. Obviously, neither of these is a good way. Therefore, do not let your children indulge in junk happiness. Once If you fall into it, you can only sink step by step. Parents are the wall between children and junk happiness. When children experience the pleasure of this kind of \”junk happiness\”, they have no self-control at all and can afford it and let it go. If parents do not interfere, children will indulge in it. Therefore, it is the primary responsibility of parents to prevent their children from falling into junk happiness and return to normal learning. When children are frantically testing on the edge of junk happiness, it is better to try these three methods : 1. Teaching by words is not as good as teaching by example. Children are born to imitate, and parents, as their children’s first teachers, are important objects for their children to imitate and learn from. The famous father of Apple, Steve Jobs, never played with electronic products at home. A reporter once interviewed him Question: “Are you playing with your mobile phone at home? \”Jobs replied: \”We limit the presence of electronic products in our house. \”So, every day after dinner, there would be a scene like this in Jobs\’ house: the children would read together and talk about various topics. No one wanted to read on their mobile phones and iPads. Mr. Yang Jiang also said: \”Okay \”Education, the power of role models is very important.\” Parents use their own actions to lead their children, which is more convincing than telling thousands of truths. If you want your children to read more, exercise more, and not be overly addicted to mobile phones, you must first serve as a role model. Take action and use the power of example to influence your children in a subtle way. 2. Cultivate children\’s ability to \”delay gratification\”. In order to prevent their children from becoming slaves to junk happiness, many parents believe that as long as they do not show their children mobile phones, it will be enough. So Forcibly confiscate and prohibit them from playing with their mobile phones. This is not the smartest way. There is a term in psychology called the \”forbidden fruit effect\”, also known as the \”Adam and Eve effect\”, which means: the more forbidden something is, the more likely it is to hook them. It arouses people\’s curiosity and desire to explore, the more they want to get something. Children have strong curiosity and rebelliousness. The more parents don\’t let their children play with mobile phones, the more children want to play. Parents can\’t completely prevent it. It is impossible for children to stay away from these entertainments forever. Cultivating children\’s self-control is a long process, and strict prevention is never the best choice. Step by step is. When children particularly want to play games, we should turn prohibition into discussion, and we can discuss it with He said: Play after eating or finish homework before playing. The child will feel that his parents have not rejected him, and I can still play after a while. If the child can keep it up every day and know that he should do business first and then have fun, in the long run, Then he won’t fall into junk happiness. 3. Don’t go away if you can accompany him. Mr. Deng Jiaxian, the father of two bombs, is a father who is very good at playing with his children. Although he is veryAlthough he is busy, he will play with his children whenever he has time. Take your children to go hiking, swimming, or walking. He would put the children on his bicycle, take them for a ride, race and play games with his son, and even set off firecrackers together. Long Yingtai said: \”Play is the foundation of knowledge in the world.\” Children are immersed in nature from an early age, receive the influence of humanistic atmosphere, and grow up with the company and care of their parents. Children will naturally broaden their horizons and have a broader world in their hearts. You won’t be addicted to the world of small mobile phones. Parents should try to spare time as much as possible, run with their children in nature, put down their mobile phones, throw away their iPads, and forget about electronic products. Only by sincerely accompanying children and taking the initiative to care for and get close to them can children gain true happiness under the protection of love and forget the \”beauty\” brought by the virtual world. It is said that education depends on parents’ financial resources, but it is better to say that education depends on parents’ care and companionship. Whether children are poisoned by junk happiness has little to do with the virtual world. It mainly depends on the attitude of their parents. The lack of parental education is the root cause of children’s obsession with junk happiness. I hope every parent can fill their children\’s hearts with love and companionship, lead them by example, and lead their children to increase the width of their souls and the thickness of their lives.