Didn’t expect you to be such a kindergarten teacher? For the sake of your child, please communicate with the teacher like this

Today I would like to share two things with you. The first thing: 3-year-old Qiqi went to kindergarten for the first time. Mother sent Qiqi away with great reluctance, and finally stopped Qiqi\’s anxiety for the time being, and then turned back uneasily. When she picked up Qiqi in the evening, her mother got angry – Qiqi peed on two pairs of pants, cried and threw herself into her mother\’s arms, saying that she was hungry and had no food to eat. The mother thought angrily: \”It must be the kindergarten teacher who is irresponsible and takes such care. My Qiqi has been asking for help to go to the toilet for a long time! Besides, she can\’t even eat enough!\” The second thing Son: Recently, I often wonder about life late at night. Because the manual work that Maodou brought back to kindergarten became increasingly difficult. Those handicrafts ask parents to help their babies \”make fruit dolls and vegetable dolls\”. It was said that we finished it together, but Maodou, who was only three and a half years old, must have been watching me finish it. At most, he just helped me get something or clear the table. It is said to be an assignment for children, but it is actually an assignment for parents. What mother is not busy? While I was doing my homework for Maodou in the evening, I was anxiously thinking about the topic for tomorrow’s article, and reminded myself not to forget to book the train tickets for my parents to come to Beijing. Oh, by the way, Maodou’s dad has a suit to iron for his meeting tomorrow. After going back and forth, I was really exhausted. What would you do if you were faced with the situation that Qiqi’s mother and I were in? 90% of mothers will complain behind their backs and then deliver it the next day! I did some math and came across a surprising fact: the kindergarten teacher is actually the person who spends the longest time with my child. I sent my child off at 7:30 in the morning and ended school at 5:00. My child actually had to spend more than eight hours with the kindergarten teacher! I have maximized my time with my children. From 5 o\’clock after school to going to bed at 9:30, it only takes more than 4 hours. Oh my gosh, there are always people asking how to communicate with my mother-in-law. Isn’t there anyone who wonders how to communicate with the person who has spent the longest time with my children? After the age of 3, parents can only accompany their children every night, and the child\’s \”significant other\” second only to their parents is the kindergarten teacher! How to communicate effectively with your child\’s kindergarten teacher has a great impact on the quality of your child\’s education between the ages of 3 and 6. Okay, it’s time for Maodou Mom to get some useful information. What kind of people are kindergarten teachers? After growing edamame in the United States, we considered immigrating to the United States. But we couldn’t just sit back and live with that little savings, so we asked our friends for advice on what kind of jobs we could find in the United States. My friend said without hesitation: I want to be a kindergarten teacher! The work is intense, the wages are low, and the responsibilities are high. Few people in the United States are willing to do it, and there are very few people who can compete with you. \”Dad Maodou and I looked at each other and were stunned. It\’s true that \”men will be silent and women will cry\”! Basically, the salary situation of kindergarten teachers is like this: △I don\’t know the salary in middle schools and elementary schools. But kindergartens at home and abroad are basically the same. Some mothers asked: I go to a private kindergarten. The tuition is so expensive and the teacher’s salary is also very low? Answer: Yes! The teacher’s salary in public kindergarten is set by the Education Bureau with reference to it. It is very It is difficult to raise wages. Companies and civil servants have all raised wages, and they have only raised a little bit accordingly. Private kindergartensteacher? Haha, most of the income goes to the kindergarten investors and is used to pay expensive land rent. The teacher who works closely with the children every day will not receive much dividends. Let’s talk about the work intensity of kindergarten teachers. Their job is really not just \”playing with their children for a while\” that only parents see. That\’s just the tip of the iceberg that you see. You only saw a teaching lesson about \”observing flowers growing\” for your children, but behind it are teaching aids, lesson preparation, environmental decoration, regional layout, lesson plan design, various teaching materials and other environments that parents cannot see. When encountering a big event, The Education Bureau will be even more tired when it comes to inspect and conduct evaluations. Moreover, kindergartens have to make their own teaching aids and toys (in order to save money). Several teachers face about 30 children, and each one has to do a lot of manual work. The person who spends the most time with your child every day is basically such a living situation in our snobby metropolis! Back to Qiqi’s mother. When kindergarten first starts, teachers’ work is the most intense. The Ministry of Education stipulates that the maximum student-teacher ratio in kindergartens shall not exceed 1:7, that is, one teacher shall not teach more than 7 students. But reality? Hahaha. In big cities, there are many school-age children and few kindergartens, and 1:10 is also very common. Some of these thirty children cried so hard that they couldn\’t breathe, some spilled soup all over them, some had their toys robbed, some wanted to pee but didn\’t dare to ask… And these thirty children, Everyone’s personality is different! . Qiqi peed her pants when she first entered the kindergarten. She was a little hungry because she was not used to it for the time being, which is normal. Therefore, the first key point to communicate with kindergarten teachers is: don’t expect too much from them. You know, this is just a profession, and it is a profession with low financial returns. It is not a nanny for children. Most of them choose this career out of their inner love for children. Therefore, we need to be more considerate, with less interpersonal routines and more sincerity and understanding. Before preparing to enter kindergarten, parents can start their children\’s independence as early as possible. Don\’t leave it to the kindergarten teacher when he is almost 3 years old and can\’t eat or take off his pants by himself. Say \”Teacher, it all depends on you.\” You! Take more care of us!\” It\’s not that the teacher doesn\’t want to pay attention, but he really can\’t take care of us. If parents value their children\’s listening, speaking, reading and writing skills, they should spend a lot of time at home reading with their children to stimulate their intelligence, instead of letting their children play with mobile phones at night and saying to the teacher during the day: \”Teach us more knowledge and arithmetic!\” If the child cannot speak in a coherent manner, it is the kindergarten\’s fault that it has not fulfilled its responsibility. Some parents think that they are \”god-like consumers\” after spending money, and put all the responsibility for establishing their children\’s learning habits on kindergarten teachers. In fact, the people who have the greatest influence on their children are their parents! Three rules for communicating with kindergarten teachers: I have three golden rules for communicating with kindergarten teachers. Whoever uses them will know: First, complain less and use more sincere communication to solve problems. Second, establish a positive \”personality\” of kindergarten teachers. Don\’t put negative labels on kindergarten teachers without communication. Third, communication is by no means requiring teachers to cooperate with themselves unilaterally. True communication is expressionExpress your own ideas and listen to the teacher’s ideas at the same time. As I mentioned earlier, I was almost going crazy from being tortured by Maodou’s handiwork. A child of just a few years old couldn’t make a doll with seams and scissors! Many mothers may have only one solution: complain secretly and endure three years of kindergarten. But that\’s not what I did. I found a Friday afternoon, waited for most of the children to leave, and had a serious face-to-face communication with the teacher. Me: Teacher Chang, is it convenient for you? I have something to communicate with you. Teacher: No problem, you say. Me: That’s right. I think the handwork that Maodou brought recently is a bit beyond the capabilities of the children in the small class. For example, he couldn\’t complete the eggshell puzzle he brought on Wednesday, so I actually did most of the homework for him. I want to hear your point of view first. You must have the starting point of kindergarten to do this. Teacher: Our original intention in setting homework is to allow children and parents to spend more time together, because many parents play on their mobile phones and watch TV when they get home. Take the opportunity of this assignment for parents and children to complete it together. So the difficulty is a little higher. Me: I understand, this is a good intention. However, this is too difficult, and the parents have to do it for them. I think the difficulty can be reduced a bit. It still needs to be done by him, because it is his creativity and handiwork. Otherwise, no matter how beautiful it is, it will still be cheating. What do you think? Teacher: Yes, next time we will lower the difficulty level, just a little outside the child’s comfort zone. As you said, parents guide, not complete for their children. However, please understand that sometimes it is a task in the garden, and we have no choice but to lower the difficulty, but we still have to do it. I thought about it and thought it was acceptable. The future manual work, no matter what kind of edamame is made, even if it is only a little bit completed, it is training himself, and it does not have to be beautiful or good-looking. I thanked him and went home with the edamame. I got the results I wanted, using nothing more than the Diamond Rule of communication with my kindergarten teacher. First, I did not complain about the teacher. I believe that through communication with the teacher, the problem can be improved. Second, from beginning to end, I set the teacher\’s \”personality\” as \”communicable and with a good starting point.\” I would like to think of the teacher in a better light, instead of assuming in the dark department, \”Don\’t teachers just want to do beautiful handwork and get more bonuses?\” If I had thought of the teacher in such a bad light from the beginning, I would have been dead today. There are not so many routines in communication between people. If you think of the teacher sincerely, the teacher will also be sincere to you. Third, I am not asking teachers to \”listen to my parents\” or \”I want to dominate teachers\” from the perspective of a consumer. I am willing to listen to the teachers’ opinions, based on the consensus of what is best for the children, and of course based on the reality of kindergartens. Some mothers may say: That might be your Maodou mother’s kindergarten? I have to say: not really. It is the most ordinary kindergarten in Beijing, not a bilingual private kindergarten with tuition fees of tens of thousands. However, I am willing to communicate with the teacher sincerely. The teacher feels my trust and is willing to make changes. That was when Maodou first entered the kindergarten. I was worried and gave him a positioning smart watch. The teacher talked to me and said: This kind of positioning watch is a plastic watch.Unexpectedly, children can easily break the toys, which can distract their attention, and they can also easily have a comparison mentality with toys. I think what the teacher said is reasonable, and I happily accepted the suggestion. In this way, the communication between parents and teachers became harmonious little by little. Some mothers will ask again: What if the kindergarten is very powerful and you don’t want to? I want to say: If you communicate several times and find that you have different ideas, there is no need to force them to merge. Change the garden! There is always a kindergarten that suits your child. What scares me the most is that my mother keeps complaining about the teacher but does not try to solve the problem at all!