Do parents need to deliberately train their children’s time management skills?

Now I have a 4-year-old and 2-month-old girl at home, and I would like to ask two questions about how to improve her time management skills. For example, if he wants to go out to play, shouldn\’t he change his clothes and shoes quickly? But he just whined and played with toys before going out instead of making preparations for going out. How to get your children to say goodbye to procrastination? 15 lessons on efficient time management to stimulate children’s drive mp3 [Tools + Methods + Concepts] 01 First of all, you pay attention to the child’s perspective. If you want your children to adapt to you, that requires a process, and letting your children adapt to you is never the purpose of educating your children. It\’s not about letting the child adapt to your speed, but that you have to adapt to the child\’s speed. This is a conceptual issue, or a conceptual issue. Second, was it your idea or his to go out to play? If it is your idea, of course he will be slow to act because it is not his need. This is the second question. If you want him to cooperate with you, you have to let him know about it and let him approve of it. Third, children are very focused when playing and will put aside all kinds of thoughts. The parent is an adult and his rational thinking is relatively mature, so he knows what time he plans to do. If he doesn\’t do it, what will be the consequences? What would it mean? Parents know these things very well, but how can a 4-year-old child know these things clearly? It is impossible for a 4-year-old child to know these things, and even if he knew, he would not understand them. So from this perspective, children are very focused when doing things, and they focus on the current work. So if you want him to be on time, you have to make it clear in advance. For example, if you have to go out in 10 minutes, you have to tell him 10 minutes in advance, honey, we should go out in 10 minutes. Remind me again when there are 5 minutes left, dear, I have to go out in 5 minutes. Make sure that he is within this 10 minutes or longer, and ensure that he can reach a milestone in his current play progress during this time. If you really can\’t reach a milestone, I think you should listen to your child, go later, delay it a little longer, and wait until the child\’s things are done before going, so that he will be happy. If you insist on dragging him away, and you make him angry, no one will get a good result. So I suggest firstly, remind him in advance; secondly, if it doesn\’t work, let the child play enough. Walk. If you’ve had enough fun and it’s too late, then don’t go. Nothing is particularly important. Some parents like to plan, think about a lot of details, make a lot of preparations, and even invite a lot of people. 02What problems will occur? Because we say that children are very focused when playing, so it is easy for them to miss time. You have too many plans, the complexity of your plan is too high, and there are too many people involved. This plan must be completed. But sometimes it\’s really him who\’s procrastinating, and he really can\’t get it done. It\’s equivalent to worrying about those things every day, but it brings troubles to your own life and brings conflict factors between you, your parents and your children. So let me say, take care of your children, be content with the situation, be spontaneousfor. For example, when my daughter was 0-3 years old, I personally took care of her. At that time, I made sure to have two hours of outdoor activity time every day. If the child gets up and wants to play with something specific and plays for a long time, we will go out later. If he gets up early and he doesn\’t play anything else, let\’s go out earlier and later. It doesn\’t matter if we go out earlier. Sometimes we have fun playing outside. The weather is nice. If there are children, we can play a little longer and eat later when we come back. If you feel that you must eat on time, you must abide by the contract, or what must be done at the agreed time. Son, there must be too much in your mind. Let me tell you, you will be anxious and angry every day, so I have no plan. Of course, I also have a big plan. I go out for 2 hours every day. Sometimes I don’t know where I’m going. I get up early in the morning, put things in order, and then go out. So sometimes you take things too seriously, which increases your troubles and makes both of you feel bad. 03 Of course, many parents say that Teacher Tao needs to develop the child\’s time management ability since childhood and develop the habit of eating on time and sleeping on time. You\’re right, we need to have a big plan and a big concept, and we can\’t take care of our children haphazardly. We have a concept, but you shouldn’t take this matter too seriously. Really, don’t take it too seriously, it’s not important. Many families control their children\’s behavior and study habits very well when they are young, and their study habits are very well controlled and cultivated. You have to know that if you let your child do something so perfect, he will exert extra willpower and self-discipline, and his entire spirit will be oppressed. Therefore, human growth is not as simple as we think. It is not as simple as you think. We must keep our promises and work on time. Do you think that if you do this well, your children will become talented? There is still a huge gap. What\’s really important? What is really important is strong spiritual vitality, curiosity, thirst for knowledge, dreams and goals, paving the way for natural sciences, humanities, history and art, early education, and acquired education. These are what are truly important. 04As for this time management, I will also say a few words. Generally speaking, a child should follow a society\’s requirements and should follow the rules of work and rest. But these standards are already strict enough for children and there are enough, so we don’t want to add more to our family. And you have noticed that many parents feel that after listening to other people\’s lectures and reading an inspirational book, they feel that behavioral habits, time management, quality control abilities, and efficient abilities are the prerequisites for a person\’s success. Totally wrong. These abilities are an external form that is naturally displayed by a person who wants to succeed, especially wants to succeed, and has been pursuing success. To put it bluntly, if a person wants to succeed, if he is not self-disciplined and not efficient, it will definitely be a waste of time and it will definitely be difficult to succeed. So these qualities of self-discipline or time management are because he particularly wants to succeed, so he can achieve it. Rather than one person doing it first, he can succeed. This is simply wrong. If a person doesn’t want to succeed, how can he achieve it? You have to know that self-discipline and efficiency require willpower. byThere used to be a parent who was from Tianjin. Later, they immigrated to the United States, whether it was the United States or Canada. When they went abroad, his child still had problems. A parent started consulting me when his child was in junior high school. He showed his child the 7 habits of successful people from an early age and strictly followed these 7 habits. When the children were still in elementary school, the class cadres had strong learning ability and strong self-consciousness. By the first grade of junior high school, they gradually became more mature. The reason is that when children need to be free and unrestrained, they are too self-disciplined and too focused on meeting the needs of adults, and the child\’s self has not developed. In the end, it was very, very bad. Immigration abroad was relaxed enough. There were no Mathematical Olympiads, no rankings, and we were still flat. Because the actual investment is too great when you are young, I suggest not to make these an important goal in raising your children.