Do these three things well and you will be the best parent

Raising a child may be one of the hardest things in the world. From the time he or she is born as a small child until he or she grows up, he or she is completely trusted in the hands of his or her parents. This is the greatest gift from heaven to parents, and it is also the greatest test. As Tetsuko Kuroyanagi, the author of \”Little Doudou by the Window,\” said: \”Education and growth should be a chorus of freedom and innocence.\” Perhaps what parents can do is to care for, educate, and guide their children with love. Not only should children have excellent abilities, but also their shining hearts should be preserved from being worn away, so that children can grow into their best self. Children are like seedlings, they need an environment to grow freely. Children are like seedlings, they need care, and they also need space to grow freely. As cultivators and gardeners, adults should use the scissors in their hands carefully and only cut off dead branches and leaves, and never force them all into the same shape. \”Little Doudou by the Window\” tells a story about letting seedlings grow freely. This book is an autobiographical novel by the author Tetsuko Kuroyanagi, a famous Japanese host with outstanding achievements and the first UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in Asian history. At the beginning of this story, her name was Xiao Doudou, a curious and hyperactive child who lay by the window looking at the scenery all day long and was abandoned by the school in the first grade. Her mother chose a new school for her: the small Ba Academy. The principal, Mr. Sosaku Kobayashi, is a gentle adult who is kind and patient with the children. On the first day of school, he chatted with Xiaodoudou for four hours. She had never been taken so seriously by adults. The principal teaches everyone different courses, organizes activities for the children, gathers to tell stories, holds sports games where the children can win prizes, and takes the children for a walk in the sun after completing their homework… He firmly believes that every Children are all good children. They are not weird children or bad children. Like all children in the world, they will grow into useful people. In the little Ba Academy, the little Doudou sitting \”by the window\” is no longer an unwanted child who is rejected. She has truly grown into a good child who is accepted by everyone. The warm days in school also laid the foundation for her lifelong character of being generous and gentle to others. Some readers who read the story even said with emotion: If possible, I don’t want to be a little red flower, I want to be a little Doudou. Education is not a factory assembly line. Only by respecting the differences of each child and encouraging the growth of each child can children become adults with colorful personalities and a love for life. The best education is to discover the good qualities of children, protect their growth through the influence of the environment, and let them flourish naturally. Education is not filling a bucket of water, but lighting a fire. When raising children, interfering and controlling their lives is often counterproductive. This is human nature. Even adults, when forced to do something they do not dislike, will suddenly become frustrated and lose interest in the matter. Forcing children to learn and grow is killing their autonomy and extinguishing the fire in their hearts. What children need is not to be pushed forward, but to find their own legs. In \”Galaxy Tutorial\”, Ma Fei, a poor child who hates studying and skips classes all day, understands the meaning of studying after witnessing his father Ma Haowen working hard to support them.His father did not force him to study. When he was lying on the small bed, his father was drawing drawings in the dim light. He asked in a low voice: \”Then can I not sleep?\” Ma Haowen knew the child\’s little plan. He did not order or preach, he just said lightly : \”You never have to ask dad about your own affairs!\” After receiving an unexpected answer, Ma Fei was stunned for a long time, and for the first time he began to think about why he was studying. Finally, looking at the bent back of his hard-working father, he picked up the textbook and looked through it. Good education comes from the words and deeds of parents and from daily details. Because education is not about filling a duck or a bucket. Ten thousand sentences of preaching and persecution are not as good as letting the children think about themselves, why do I have to study hard and what do I want to do? Being forced to learn is never better than wanting to learn. Teaching by example is better than words. Let children learn from their parents\’ examples, make decisions independently and be responsible for themselves. They will know that no one is forcing them to move forward, but that they should work hard for themselves. And which child is really willing to let things go without any enterprising spirit? Everyone wants to become a better version of themselves. When a fire is lit in a child\’s heart, he will burn. We must not only take care of the child\’s body, but also take care of the child\’s mind. Children are the most sensitive. They don\’t know many things, but they also know many things. They know how to make progress, care about face, please adults, and also feel sadness and joy. They are not ignorant and immature bodies, but shining souls. As children grow up, it is important to take care of not only their bodies, but also their minds. The documentary \”The First Time in Life\” tells the story of a group of children learning poetry at Jianshui Middle School in Jianshui Town, Yunnan. They are not rich children with superior conditions, but poor children in remote mountainous areas. Many of them are left-behind children. Someone asked: What is the use of learning poetry for children? These children may never receive the material blessings brought by poetry throughout their lives. Poetry cannot increase their college entrance examination scores, or help their families harvest an acre of millet. The crew uses their footage to answer these questions. The poems written by the children are shown in the camera one after another, delicate, sensitive, but gentle. Mu Qingyun is a girl in the class. Her father died in a car accident, and her mother went out to work to raise her two children. When she has a video call with her mother, she always only has food and clothing, and the weather is fine or rainy. But on this day, the embarrassment between them that they had nothing to talk about was resolved by poetry. Mu Qingyun took out her notebook and bravely read the first poem he wrote to his mother. \”The little bird is the child of the big bird/The white clouds are the children of the blue sky/The street lamp is the child of the night/When my mother went to Guangdong/I put my shoes next to my mother\’s shoes/Because I am my mother\’s child\” after reading the poem , both mother and daughter had tears in their eyes. Her mother couldn\’t say any words of praise, she just asked her if she felt wronged and would she be willing to forgive her? The girl sobbed and said she wanted to read a poem to her mother every week. One comment on Douban said, \”Children who learn poetry will not smash glass.\” They may not be able to achieve great success by relying on poetry, but they have gained a harbor in their souls because of poetry. Children who are spiritually cared for will not be self-conscious even if their external conditions are poor.I\’m closed off. Only by opening your heart can you express your thoughts about the world and your love for your family. Their hearts are not made of stone, but warm, capable of beating, crying, and laughing. When they are no longer used to silence and are no longer ashamed to express love, the feelings between family members can flow, and they have become better versions of themselves in this difficult but beautiful world. Therefore, as a parent, you must learn to care for your child\’s soul and guide your child\’s spiritual growth. This is the only way to truly care for your child\’s beautiful life! Only children raised with love can treat the world with love. Before teaching knowledge, the most important education that should be given to a child is to help him grow naturally and teach him how to treat the world correctly and how to treat his own soul correctly. Children who grow up in love will eventually become a light that both parents are amazed by. That’s all we shared.