\”Do you like this? Can we eat it?\” I don\’t know how many children have been delayed by this sentence.

I found, \”What\’s the point of liking this? Can it be used as food?\” is really one of the things parents love to say. \”I like to draw.\” \”What\’s the use of drawing? Can it be used as food?\” \”I like to play with her. She is my friend.\” \”Don\’t play with poor students. What\’s the use of making friends like this?\” \”Mom, I want to travel.\” \”What\’s the use of traveling? Can I make money?\” It seems that in the eyes of some parents, with \”scores\” as the standard and \”money, power and fame\” as the standard, people in the world All things can be divided into \”useful\” and \”useless\”. If they are useful, they will be loved and if they are useless, they will be discarded. The pragmatism of quick success is not only rooted in our interactions as adults, but has also spread into the education of our children. Yesterday\’s \”useless\”, today\’s \”useful\” Dan Ma, a high school classmate, has been a fan of Japanese comics since junior high school. There is a pile of comic books collected from him in the homeroom teacher\’s office. His extreme interest in Japanese comics led him to learn Japanese intermittently. As a man of science and engineering, he used his spare time to take a Japanese language certificate that had nothing to do with work. A few years ago, the company happened to send someone to Japan. Although he was just a junior employee with three degrees and no background, he was the only one in his department who could speak Japanese and understand Japanese culture. He was required by the other company as soon as he was interviewed. Now he is there. Things are going well here, and I\’m ready to settle in Japan. I also have a best friend who is a big fan of American TV series and behaves like a foreigner all day long. I used to think she was very pretentious and exaggerated. A friend told me a few days ago that she is now very prosperous! Because she likes American dramas, she is so fascinated that she often imitates the pronunciation in the dramas. After graduation, she took the IELTS test once and got a 7.5 in speaking! Afterwards, she summarized the methods that she used to teach herself English in her spare time, and started teaching English online! It attracted a large number of people like her who had no money to go abroad and wanted to learn spoken English well. Besides, as long as I am interested in something, I will study it whether it is useful or useless. I opened a public account two years ago. With my love for promoting parent-child reading and family education, I leisurely read and wrote articles at home for more than half a year with no income and relied on my husband to support me. At that time, my mother-in-law was confused: My son is as busy as a spinning top every day. Why can my daughter-in-law be so \”useless\” and leisurely and calm? Unintentional insertion of willows and willows creates shade, and uselessness can lead to calmness. Unexpectedly, the initial \”useless\” persistence has now gradually accumulated hundreds of thousands of readers on the public account. Many people around me just think that Danma was lucky enough to catch up with the good opportunity for the development of the official account. But who knows how much \”useless\” accumulation is behind this? I took art design as an elective in college, so in addition to writing, I am now a part-time designer. I studied children’s books a lot in my spare time in college, and finally got the children’s book editing position I wanted. I was obsessed with movies, so I can recommend it to you and your children. Hundreds of movies; studying like crazy in newspapers and magazines, so now I can quickly integrate information and write articles… The small hobbies in my life suddenly became a big springboard for my career. These are all the original me, completely Something unexpected. Bai Yansong once said something that touched me very much: \”Everything I have done and all the books I have read are like trickles that continue to flow into the river, helping children grow slowly and become magnificent and profound. How do you knowWhich incoming stream makes the Yellow River the Yellow River and the Yangtze River the Yangtze River? \”Those \”useless\” experiences often determine a child\’s lifelong ambition and vision. Those \”useless\” efforts are all about retaining an opportunity to transcend oneself outside of everything known. Maybe you are also educating your children to learn more. A foreign language usually has a skill, but if this kind of guidance is motivated by utilitarianism, the child will not do it out of his original intention, but out of pressure. He just treats it as a task, how can he enjoy and study it? For example It is easier for children to persist in doing things that are useful, interesting and passionate throughout their lives. Doing \”useless things\” is the best rest. Mike Nagel, a famous child development expert, has confirmed after years of research: childhood has the opportunity to run more Children who move more, daze more, daydream more, and play more casually in the natural environment will show unusual explosive learning abilities during another critical period of brain development in adolescence. We live in a world where usefulness is worshiped. , the era of high efficiency, but in fact, the right brain only works when you are relaxed. This also explains why many major breakthroughs occur in seemingly impossible places. Whether it is Archimedes\’ bathtub or Newton\’s head. apples, or the ping pong table placed in the Google office. The so-called creativity is exactly the sequelae of doing \”useless things\”. Learning is actually similar to eating, and you always have to leave some time to digest and absorb. Among the techniques of our Chinese painting We also pay attention to leaving blank space. That part of the space where nothing is drawn may just allow people to better appreciate the theme that is to be highlighted. Not doing anything is sometimes to do it better. Waste some time appropriately and do something. Useless things may achieve better learning results. What we think of as \”playing with things\” may just be because of short-sightedness. Gao Xiaosong once said: Allow children to do useless things, such as playing, chess, calligraphy and painting, such as love and waiting. If a child I was taught that I can only take classes that are useful for getting into higher education, I can only do things that are useful for getting a job in college, and I can only do things that are useful for getting a job after I work. Isn’t it a waste to be born as a human being? As a mother now, what Dan’s mother enjoys most is spending time with her children. \”Useless\” moments: quietly looking at Dingdang\’s sleeping little face, looking at his smooth skin and the fine velvet on his skin; not telling stories, not speaking English, doing nothing, just playing with the children on the grass. It’s a purposeless game. I don’t expect to teach my children anything, but I expect what my children will bring to me. I know that these “useless” moments of love will silently nourish my children’s lives and will be the foundation of the relationship between me and my children. The warmest memories of my life. Life is not meant to be used. Rather than being a useful person, I hope that my child can become: an interesting person, a person who loves life, and a person who can be in ordinary or rushed situations. In the gaps of life, those who stop to enjoy life. The soul of a child belongs to tomorrow, to a tomorrow that we cannot even dream of. Parents cannot use their own experience today to decide what kind of fruit their children should grow into. The only thing we can do Just do your best and teach by example! Do your best to let him see the vastness of the world: be exposed to the richest and most wonderful words, music, art, movies, nature…respect childrenThe choice of children provides the most tolerant soil and air for their growth. Stop using “useless” to measure your child’s education, because you never know how those seemingly useless little things will help your child at a critical moment in life.