Does your family also set rules for your children?

As the saying goes, without rules, there is no circle. But will all parents set red lines for their children that cannot be touched in their lives and cultivate their children\’s sense of rules from an early age? Not everyone is a social person. In society, we need to abide by various rules, establish a \”rules awareness\”, and be less ignorant and fearless. Various rules spread throughout human society are to better protect us. Obeying rules is to protect oneself. My mother must follow the rules at all times and in everything. She has taught me to abide by the rules since I was a child. To be honest, when I was a child, I always felt that she was rigid and dogmatic, and I often resisted and opposed her. But as I grow older and have more experience, I feel more and more that my mother is right to ask me to follow the rules, and I have naturally developed a habit. On the contrary, it is a bit uncomfortable not to follow the rules. My mother didn’t give me any extra rules, I just abide by the daily rules and order. For example, when crossing the road, you have to \”stop on red light and go on green light.\” As long as the red light is on, you are not allowed to pass even if no vehicles are passing. Sometimes when I see others passing by, I want to go with the crowd, but my mother drags me back until the green light turns on. rise. Once, a man crossed the road without looking at the traffic lights and was hit by a speeding car. Witnessing this scene with my own eyes, I was scared to death. At the same time, I was extremely lucky to have my mother to restrain me from obeying traffic rules. I understand that following the rules is actually a kind of protection for myself. @ 张皖宁 Thanks to my parents. Ever since I can remember, the impression in my mind is that my mother kept telling me how I should do things, what I couldn’t do, and why. My father also told me the rules from time to time. When I was a child, I really felt annoyed. I wondered why other children could eat sweets freely but I couldn\’t; why couldn\’t I eat jelly while playing; why should I have a quota when buying toys, but I couldn\’t afford them… I was confused. There are many things. But when I saw my neighbor’s kid who couldn’t leave his mouth, he grew into a fat man weighing 130 pounds at the age of 10 and had to attend a weight loss summer camp during the summer vacation; when I saw my mother’s colleague’s little daughter being quilted because she was laughing and eating jelly. When I choked to the point where I almost couldn\’t breathe; when I saw my cousin who had been spending money lavishly since he was a child, and his uncle\’s factory failed to perform well and closed down, but he didn\’t know how to be considerate… I gradually understood the good intentions of my parents. Thanks to them for helping me develop good habits when I was a child, know how to abide by the rules, and let myself live comfortably within the surrounding area. @蓝如wash Let children learn to abide by the rules. Sometimes adults always look at children\’s behavior from the perspective of adult society. Some behaviors that we think are wrong are just self-initiated learning during their growth, but they are not yet capable. To fully comply with the requirements of the \”rules\”, this requires parents to consciously cultivate their sense of rules. But this kind of rules is not based on parents\’ preferences or habits. They must adapt to their growth stage, tell them what they can do and what they can\’t touch, and make it a living habit. @Liu Dan Rules and constraints make the whole family happier. The key to educating children is not only to let them understand the importance of rules, but also to abide by them. No rules, no standards. There are rules and regulations, and if you don\’t abide by them, you won\’t be successful. childWhen I was a kid, my wife, kids, and I would all sit together and make rules. Let children understand that everyone is equal before the rules. Children grow up in rules, and we become more mature in rules. Children develop good study and living habits through rules. According to the rules, she only has 1.5 yuan of pocket money every week. Although the money is not much, she has developed the habit of saving since she was a child. Do your homework by yourself without anyone else, and develop the habit of conscious study. Don\’t be picky about eating, and do what you can do by yourself. This is a good living habit for children to develop. Getting up every morning and running, and exercising consistently for more than ten years, the child has a healthy body. In order to set an example for my children, my wife and children also set rules for me. For example, newspapers should be put away, and everything should not be placed randomly. My children and I also set rules for my wife, requiring her to only lose her temper three times a week, read a book every day, etc. There are also rules that the whole family abides by: clean the house thoroughly every two weeks, get up at 6:30 in the morning, go to bed at 9:40 in the evening, etc. Everyone follows it carefully. Rules constrain the behavior of the whole family. The children have become better and we have gotten rid of bad habits. More importantly, the rules make the whole family feel happier than before. @正来福 Good habits are developed slowly. Nowadays, some people do not abide by the rules, challenge the bottom line, insist on going their own way in public, and go their own way. In fact, this is all related to the fact that when they were young, their parents did not set rules at home or strictly enforced the rules. Good habits should be started from an early age and developed slowly. I remember that when my daughter was very young, something happened at a neighbor’s house that shocked me. The neighbor\’s child knocked over the thermos bottle on the table. The boiling water scalded the child, leaving large scars on his face, neck and chest. It not only caused physical harm to the child, but also left mental scars. A shadow that is difficult to erase. This incident made me think: It is impossible for me to guard and protect my children every step of the way. I need to teach my children to learn self-protection and know what to do and what to keep out of touch. Therefore, it is stipulated that electricity, gas, thermos bottles, etc. at home should not be touched casually. My daughter was still young at that time, and she didn’t understand the truth, so I pulled her to the thermos bottle, removed the cork, and when the hot steam came out, I put her little finger near the mouth of the bottle, and my daughter immediately retracted her finger. , several times. Then I told my daughter: You can’t touch it! From then on, even if the thermos bottle was placed on the ground at home, my daughter would not touch it, and no similar dangers occurred. For example, you have to look at the traffic lights when crossing the road, queue up when taking a bus or shopping, not stay outside overnight, greet your parents when you go out, make appointments with others on time, and don\’t miss appointments casually, etc. After these good behavioral habits are developed, abiding by the rules will come naturally. This is not only conducive to the improvement of a person\’s overall quality, but also a kind of self-protection. @ LiuQin Parents should set an example. When it comes to rules, I immediately think of a parent who gives me a headache. That student majored in preschool education, started in junior high school, and went to a five-year college. An interview is required when registering, because our school’s preschool education is extremely popular and there is a long queue of students for interviews. The scene was in good order and the interview was relatively fast.It won\’t be a long wait either. The office building is a smoke-free building. The words \”smoke-free building\” are big and red and very conspicuous. The student originally wanted to wait in line, but the parents who accompanied her were impatient. Her father complained while smoking, and her mother urged her father to find someone. After my father made a phone call, a school teacher came over. It seemed that the relationship had come and gone. The teacher was helpless and led the student into the interview office. Unexpectedly, when registering for school, this family walked to the reception desk of my class and it turned out that this student was assigned to my class. While going through the procedures for the students, I reminded them of some precautions. When I saw the students\’ appearance, I reminded the parents that hair dyeing and perming are not allowed in the school, and asked the parents to bring their children to have them corrected. Unexpectedly, the student\’s mother said that her child was born with \”a little yellow hair and a roll\”. After school started, a classmate told me that there were cracks in the bed. While filling out the repair form, I asked her what bed number it was, and she said it was No. 7. I checked the dormitory allocation list and she should be in bed No. 2. It was so strange. I asked who was in bed No. 2 now, and it was the student. This student has always had some minor problems at school. During military training, he complained that he was not in good health and sat playing with his mobile phone. He encouraged other students to violate discipline, did not attend morning exercises, arrived late and left early in class at will, and left the classroom midway. He simply does whatever he wants, without observing discipline at all, and has no sense of rules at all. I talked to her to criticize education, and she spoke very well. As soon as I approached her, she expressed her attitude to me. She had a good attitude, but her behavior remained the same afterwards, which reminded me of her parents. Parents are role models for their children, and children are the shadow of their parents. Failure to follow the rules may seem convenient at the time, but the harm is far-reaching. In order for children to grow up healthily, parents must set an example, set a good example for their children, and pay attention to the cultivation of rule awareness in family education. @武宝平 @ banzhibin: Everyone will wait for traffic lights where there are traffic police, but some people choose to \”ignore\” the traffic lights when there are no traffic police. At this time, compliance with the rules is still forced by external coercion rather than internal consciousness. Only by cultivating rule awareness in long-term practice can compliance with rules be changed from \”I want to do it\” to \”I have to do it\”. Making compliance with the rules an inner consciousness improves personal cultivation for individuals; it also represents the progress of civilization for the entire society. @Liujiayue: The rules are actually very simple. They are to tell children what they can do, what they cannot do, and how to do it. These simple rules are also applicable to each of us adults. From food, clothing, housing, and transportation to how to treat others, if we insist on it for a long time and practice it personally, we will interact with each other in a subtle way. Influence each other, create a good family tradition, set rules for the children, and also set rules for yourself. @Caiqinqin: Only when a child transitions from heterodiscipline to self-discipline can he truly become sensible.