Dong Yuhui: The most expensive educational resource is not the housing in the school district, but the views of parents

Dong Yuhui has talked many times in the live broadcast room about the impact of his parents\’ three views on his growth. Dong Yuhui was born in a rural area, and his ancestors were farmers for three generations. Logically speaking, such a family has a very strong desire for material things, but this is not the case for Dong Yuhui\’s parents. They love books more than material things, and they also guide Dong Yuhui to read. Therefore, Dong Yuhui\’s material desires are not high. Some time ago, after the \”Little Composition Incident\” happened, many companies offered him sky-high salaries, but he declined them all. He said that making money has never been the first pursuit in life. Dong Yuhui said that after he became popular, he appeared on a local TV station, and his parents were very happy to see it. Later he appeared on CCTV. When their son appears on CCTV, probably all parents will show it off everywhere. This is human nature. But Dong Yuhui\’s parents remained silent and did not show off to anyone. They also told Dong Yuhui to keep a low profile: showing off will make people hate him. You can also feel his low-key humility in Dong Yuhui. This is exactly why \”mother-in-laws\” like him. Children hide the truest qualities of their parents. Dong Yuhui also said: The truly valuable educational resource is not expensive school district housing, but the correct values ​​passed on to children. Parents\’ three views will infiltrate into the child\’s soul and affect every step the child takes. If children\’s education is compared to a river, improper education in society and schools will only pollute the water flow. If parents have incorrect views, it directly pollutes the source. I read a true story. The boy grew up in a wealthy family. Whenever he got into trouble outside, his parents would use money to help him settle it. Gradually, in the boy\’s mind, there is nothing in this world that money cannot solve. When he grew up, he did everything he could to make money, and eventually turned to crime and was imprisoned. Parents are their children\’s first mentors and their children\’s best guides. If parents have incorrect views and cannot distinguish between right and wrong, their children will definitely go astray. \”China Daily\” reported such a news. A pair of parents took their 6-year-old child on vacation abroad. After boarding the plane, the child kept disturbing the passengers sitting next to him and kicked each other many times. The passenger found the child\’s father and hoped that he could take good care of the child. Faced with the child\’s rude behavior, the father not only failed to stop it in time and give the child a correct values ​​education, but continued to let it go. Three hours later, the passengers finally had enough and stood up to accuse the family. After hearing this, the child\’s father became angry on the spot and excitedly stepped forward and grabbed the other person\’s neck. Because of the physical beating, the family was refused entry by customs after the plane landed and was deported back to the country. As children grow up, they will inevitably make mistakes. Making mistakes is not terrible, what is terrible is the wrong guidance of parents. Parents who have incorrect views and indulge and protect their children without any bottom line will only ruin their children\’s future. Swiss child psychologist Jean Piaget said: \”The personality and character of parents will be passed on to their children like germs. In the end, the child\’s outlook and behavior patterns are guaranteed to be the essence of your bones.\” The family of origin is A child\’s life background affects the child\’s life. Writer Li Yueliang has a classmate named D, whose parents both work in public institutions and are obsessed with power. The content of the family chat after dinner is either about how to get promoted or who is getting promoted in the unit.. Ever since he was in elementary school, his parents have asked D to be elected as a class cadre. \”Being a leader is the winner in life\” has become a value engraved in his bones. But the biggest trick of fate is that D is not suitable to be a leader. He lacks leadership skills and his eloquence is not good. On the contrary, he has strong learning ability and is more suitable for taking the academic route. At the request of his parents, after graduating from graduate school, he took the vocational examination and worked at the grassroots level for eight years. Because he could not handle interpersonal relationships well and had no hope of promotion, he felt that his life was a failure. Later, a colleague who entered the company at the same time as him and was two years younger than him was promoted. This incident had a huge impact on him and he suffered from depression ever since. Now, except for the Spring Festival, he will go home to visit his parents once, and he will not go to his parents\’ house the rest of the time. Because his parents are always concerned about why he hasn\’t been promoted yet. What’s even more frightening is that to this day, D’s parents still can’t understand why their son suffers from depression, why he doesn’t want to go home, and why he hasn’t been promoted yet? Li Yueliang said with emotion: The native family basically creates a person\’s three views, and the three views will directly determine a person\’s happiness. The family of origin determines the child\’s understanding of the world, his view of life, and his measurement of value. If you are selfish, cold, and money-loving, the children you raise will be cold and utilitarian. If you treat others sincerely and are open-minded, your adult children will be kind and strong, gentle and independent. Parents\’ outlook, like a lighthouse, can influence the course of their children\’s lives. I think of the experiences of two child stars, one is Deng Minghe and the other is Zhao Xinpei. When it comes to Deng Minghe, many people are unfamiliar with it, but you must have heard of \”New Year Painting Dolls\”. 6-year-old Deng Minghe once appeared on CCTV\’s Year of the Dragon Spring Festival Gala. His festive image was loved by many viewers, and he was affectionately called the \”New Year Painting Doll\” by everyone. After the Spring Festival Gala, Deng Minghe received various commercial performances, and the continuous activities made the 6-year-old child exhausted. Deng Minghe\’s parents didn\’t take it seriously, and even though he had a high fever, they allowed him to attend the performance rehearsal even though he was sick. Due to long-term lack of sleep and mental stress, Deng Minghe suffered from leukemia. After treatment, Deng Minghe\’s condition gradually stabilized. When he was discharged from the hospital, the doctor specifically asked him not to overwork himself. But his parents only had money in their eyes, so Deng Minghe started taking commercial roles again just one month after he was discharged from the hospital. In the end, Deng Minghe\’s leukemia relapsed and he died after resuscitation failed. Compared to Deng Minghe, Zhao Xinpei is much luckier than him. After \”Journey to the West\” aired, Zhao Xinpei, who played the role of Red Boy, quickly became popular because of his cute appearance. Many directors, advertising companies, and brokerage companies came to the door and offered extremely high salaries. With these remunerations, adults no longer have to go out to work hard, and Zhao Xinpei will soon gain both fame and fortune. But in the face of the sudden temptation, Zhao Xinpei\’s parents maintained their rare sobriety and rationality. They did not want to consume their son and turn him into a money-making machine. Instead, they asked him to leave the entertainment industry and return to school to continue studying. Zhao Xinpei was very interested in computers, so his parents spent all their savings to buy a computer for him and sent him to further study. After graduating from high school, Zhao Xinpei was admitted to the Computer Science Department of Peking University and was recommended to the Chinese Academy of Sciences for further study, where he received a doctorate. Later, he founded a company with his friends and invested in many companies. Now he has a net worthOver 100 million. The final fate of many child stars is to be manipulated by adults like dolls and turn into sad money-making machines. Why is Zhao Xinpei an exception? Because he has a pair of parents with extremely upright views. An excellent family must start with companionship, be immersed in education, and be loyal to three views. The influence of parents on their children is like the relationship between soil and vegetation. If the soil is fertile, anything you plant will grow well; but if the soil is poor, anything you plant will quickly wither. Parents with upright views are the greatest blessing for their children and the most powerful spiritual nourishment for their growth. ▽Soong Ching Ling once said: \”A child\’s character and talent are, in the final analysis, most influenced by family and parents. School plays an important role in the development of young people, but what leaves an indelible mark on a person is Family.\” A child\’s future is hidden in his parents\’ words and deeds, and even more so in their parents\’ outlook. What three views you sow in your children will determine who your children will become. Give it a thumbs up and encourage all parents.