Don’t be held hostage by your imagination, determine the direction and take steps first

The day before yesterday, when I was listening to the class monitor\’s lecture on the Analects of Confucius, the passage about Ran Qiu struck me immediately. Ran Qiu said: \”It\’s not that I don\’t speak the way of Master, it\’s because I\’m not strong enough.\” Confucius said: \”Those who are not strong enough will give up on the middle way. Today\’s female painting.\” Meaning, Ran Qiu said: \”It\’s not that I don\’t like the teacher\’s teachings. , because the ability is not enough.\” Confucius said: \”The ability is not enough, and you will stop when you can\’t walk anymore, but now you are drawing a line to block the ground, and you have not set off at all.\” Ran Qiuzhen refused to follow Confucius\’s instructions because of his lack of ability. Do what you say? No, he just imagined a lot of difficulties for himself before taking any action. In the past, I was exactly the same as Ran Qiuzhen. Before doing anything, I always considered many issues and imagined many difficulties for myself. The result was that before I even started doing it, I was already scared, for fear that I was not capable enough to do it. Well, something went wrong, so I just left it alone, procrastinated and avoided. It can be said that he was completely caught up in his own imagination. Just last night, I went through this process. Last night, Rooney was sleeping with me. I heard him snoring and breathing through his mouth. I was very worried and kept thinking: \”Is the adenoid hypertrophy returning again? Do I need surgery this time?\” Huh? Which hospital should I go to? It’s almost impossible to get a call from Children’s Hospital, and I don’t know if surgeries performed by other hospitals are reliable? Forget it, I heard that adenoids will automatically shrink with age, but What if adenoids develop into adenoids before they shrink? The most terrifying thing is to breathe with your mouth open for a long time. If the brain is deprived of oxygen, it may also affect intelligence…\” Just like this, I thought and thought, and the more I thought about it, the more worried I became. The more I thought about it, the more anxious I became, and I couldn\’t sleep all night. It wasn\’t until dawn that I started to regain my senses. I quickly took out my mobile phone and chose a nearby tertiary A hospital to register. I went to the hospital the next day, and the doctor said there was nothing to worry about. Just take some anti-allergic medicine and drop it on your nose. Sure enough, after following the doctor\’s instructions, he took the medicine and dripped it into his nose. Two days later, Rooney\’s snoring was much quieter when sleeping. When I usually think about public account articles in my mind, I always think: \”Do readers like this topic? Are the things I write meaningful to readers? What if I lose followers after writing it? It might as well be I won’t write.” In this way, every time I think of a topic I want to write about, I imagine many “enemies” that hinder my progress. As a result, my writing often fails halfway, which is why the updates of my official account articles are unstable. One of the big reasons. It can be seen that a person\’s mental model has a huge impact on his life and work. Based on my experience, I have found that there are three kinds of inner demons that hinder us from taking further actions: The first is the obsession with imagination mentioned above. People often begin to imagine various difficulties before taking action. The result is that they artificially create a \”stumbling block\” for themselves, causing them to stagnate out of fear. From this point of view, sometimes having too much imagination is not a good thing. People who insist on doing one thing are more likely to succeed. The second is to be skeptical about things. When you are not sure whether the path you want to take is the right one, it will be difficult for you to muster the courage to take a step. Even if you take a step, you will stop and go.Stop, hesitate. The third is the inherent inertia of human beings. Sometimes, even if we know that the path we are taking is the right one, we still stay in the comfort zone and refuse to take a step because of our habitual inertia. There is no way, human genes are determined in this way, and it is really difficult to overcome this. not easy. So how do you overcome these inner demons and move forward with determination? The first step is to set small goals and try in small steps. No one can achieve success in one step. First of all, we must give up the idea of ​​perfectionism. When you first start doing something, if you think that you can achieve it in one step, it will inevitably create a lot of \”imagined difficulties\” in your mind, which will make you fearful and suddenly lose the courage to take a step forward. At this time, what we have to do is to let go of all obsessions, set a small goal for ourselves, take the first step, and then slowly explore forward in small steps. For example, when I first started writing public account articles, I thought of a topic and wanted to write a complete article immediately. However, every time I thought about spending a lot of time looking for information, thinking and organizing the text, my heart began to waver. . Later, I no longer forced myself to write an article at once, but set a small goal for myself. Whenever I have an idea, I would take out my phone and write a little bit every day. When I have accumulated enough material, I will find time. Focus on organizing the article. This approach not only reduces anxiety, but also makes it more efficient. Friends who have run a marathon will know that if you focus on the finish line when you start running a marathon, then you will keep running no matter what. Professional marathon runners will take a good look at the route before the race, divide the entire route into small segments of goals, and then run one goal after another, so that they will reach the finish line unknowingly. The second step is to see the big picture clearly and find the path that suits you. When we try to take steps to do things, we will inevitably see many different viewpoints and hear many different ideas. At this time, we will begin to doubt whether the path we are taking is the right one. Due to the lack of professional judgment, we often feel that \”what the public says is right, and what the mother-in-law says is right.\” Many people will be confused and anxious at this step. When they don\’t know what to do, they simply give up and move forward. In fact, what we have to do at this time is to think clearly about what we really want, first make sure that the general direction is not wrong, and then choose a path based on our initial judgment, while maintaining attention to other information, and then try in small steps During the process, keep thinking and adjusting directions until you find a path that suits you best, and then move forward with confidence. All roads lead to Rome. As long as you keep the general direction correct, you don\’t have to worry too much about the specific methods. Just find the right way to the end. For example, when I was running a public account last year, when I saw that there was no increase in readers, I started to get anxious and doubt the meaning of doing this. Then I thought, am I opening a public account to increase my followers and make money? What does this matter itself mean to me? What can I get out of it? After thinking about these issues clearly, I no longer struggle with them. Public account writing can not only inspire readers, but also sort out my own life and thinking. Many times, when I encounter a problem, I write it out and write it down.Just open your mind and find a solution. The benefits that writing brings to me are incomparable to anything else, so no matter whether the number of readers of the public account increases or not, I will continue to write. Sometimes what I write is not suitable for publication, so just keep it as a diary. The third step is to turn the action into your habit. Why are children always reluctant to brush their teeth, but we adults feel no burden when brushing our teeth in the morning and evening? If we don’t brush, we can’t eat or sleep? That\’s because brushing teeth has become a part of our lives, and children have not yet developed this habit. They will find brushing teeth very painful. Faced with self-inertia, many people will rely on their inner willpower to overcome it. When they fail, they start to feel guilty and blame themselves. But psychologists tell us that relying on willpower to overcome human inertia is simply anti-human, and few people can do it. The only way to overcome inertia is to make action a habit, because habits don\’t require too much of your attention and willpower. If what you have to do becomes as simple as brushing your teeth and eating, can you still not persevere? It should be noted that when cultivating habits, you should not be greedy for too many habits. Cultivate only one habit in a period of time. Only the so-called thin water can flow long-term. For example, if you want to cultivate both the habit of reading and the habit of fitness, it is best to do it one by one. First, spend 21 days reading every day. After the reading program is automated and becomes a part of your life, you can then arrange the time. Keep up with fitness. Judging from my personal experience, many things were difficult to imagine at the time, but it is not as difficult as imagined to actually do it. There is a saying in \”Wei Xue\”: \”Are things in the world difficult or easy? If you do it, the difficult ones will also be easy; if you don\’t do it, the easy ones will also be difficult.\” If there is something you want to do, don\’t think about it. More, take action first.