Don\’t be reluctant to let your child endure hardship, that is the path he will take sooner or later

We often say that noble children come from poor families, and children from poor families become rich early. But when I went home to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year this year, I encountered another scene – ordinary working-class people actually raised a \”rich second generation\”. Part1 On the third day of the first lunar month, I went to my aunt’s house to pay New Year greetings. My aunt kept pulling me and insisted that I go and persuade her daughter. Lily will take the college entrance examination in a few months, but she is still playing games every day. I walked into Lily\’s room, and she was lying in front of the computer playing games and had no time to talk to me. While she was busy playing, I secretly observed that this little girl didn’t have the ability to make money yet, but her spending power was quite high. Apple computers, iPhones, MCM backpacks… Although these were not very expensive, my aunt’s family was just ordinary. For working-class people, the annual income of a couple is only more than 100,000 yuan. The sum of these three things alone is almost more than one-fifth of the family\’s income. \”Sister, I\’m playing games with my classmates. I\’ll talk to you later during dinner.\” Before I could speak, Lily shut me out. I couldn\’t persuade Lily, so I had to go out to persuade my aunt. I saw that she was still wearing old clothes from a few years ago. I couldn\’t help but ask: Why did Lily buy such expensive mobile phones, computers and bags? The aunt said helplessly: There is no way, these things are too expensive, but she can\’t withstand the child\’s plea. Lily said that her classmates all had them, and it would be too embarrassing for her not to. I made a fuss several times, and even said that I didn’t want to study if I didn’t buy it. After listening to it, I felt angry and funny. I wouldn’t study if I didn’t buy it. Lily’s move was really cruel. Auntie was busy greeting guests and didn\’t have much time to chat with me, but she repeatedly told me to advise Lily to study hard. I looked at the wrinkles in the corners of auntie\’s eyes and sighed. Looking around, there are many parents like my aunt. Their logic is: as long as their children are willing to learn, I will pay no matter how much money they have. However, can blindly satisfying children make them motivated? Part 2 While many working-class parents spend almost all their income to protect their children\’s so-called face, many parents from rich families are cultivating their children\’s independent and simple character. The same child wanted to buy an Apple computer. Li Wei, the wife of New Hope Group Chairman Liu Yonghao, said that after some research, she found out that an Apple computer cost more than 10,000 yuan. After discussion, she finally bought him a second-hand product for more than 4,000 yuan. Is it necessary for a wealthy entrepreneur to be so frugal? Li Wei said that this is to help children develop a rational consumption consciousness. Even the children’s scooters were bought from the second-hand market. Not only does he save money on shopping, Li Wei also has many seemingly bizarre educational methods. For example, when her daughter was in junior high school, she lived on campus. Every weekend, other parents would carry their children to the dormitory with large and small bags. They would also help their children pack their luggage, clean their beds, and turn on the water. They would not leave until everything was arranged. . But Li Wei is a \”hands-off shopkeeper\” and lets his daughter clean up and fetch water by herself. Although her daughter will tell other classmates: \”My mother never helps me with things,\” she has long accepted this rule. There is another thing that is simply jaw-dropping: until the child is unable to stand on his own, he can only fly economy class. Every time he travels, Li Wei and his husband sit in first class, while their children sit pitifully in the back.noodle. Some people say that these parents are too worried, but Li Wei said that she was actually worried and secretly observed her child\’s reaction. As a result, her son not only calmly asked the stewardess for water, but also took the initiative to chat with the uncle next to him. The chat lasted half an hour. Behind all the seemingly bizarre education methods, Li Wei said: The first thing children need to learn is to endure hardship. Because life is a long journey, and no one can guarantee to be a lifelong \”winner in life.\” Whether raised poor or rich, helping children establish the ability to live independently, independent personality and the habit of independent thinking is the ultimate goal of education. Only an independent person can truly remain calm and move forward without hesitation, no matter in good or bad times. Part3 This era is really changing quietly. More and more working-class families have cultivated \”rich second generations\” who want to \”buy, buy, buy\” whenever they open their mouths. However, many parents of wealthy families insist on raising their children from an early age. Learn to endure hardship. Why is the difference so big? In fact, there are two different thinking modes behind it. The sentiment of many working-class parents, represented by my aunt, is: Although our family\’s economic conditions are not good enough, we cannot wrong our children no matter what. It doesn\’t matter if parents save a little. If the children\’s requirements can be met, they must satisfy her. What the aunt doesn\’t know is that her so-called satisfaction of the child is not true love, and it cannot help the child grow up healthily physically and mentally. Because when children are growing up, they have long developed the habit of reaching out and asking for things, without any regard for the current situation of the family. There is a saying that goes like this: Once a child understands their parents\’ temper, they may not take them seriously. To put it bluntly, Lily knew that her aunt was soft-hearted, and she knew that as long as she cried and made trouble, she would definitely be able to get rid of her mother, and it worked every time. And the aunt\’s heartfelt devotion only satisfied the child\’s self-esteem and endless vanity. What is the result of such efforts by parents? There are many negative cases in society. A few days ago, I saw such sad news. On the street, a young girl dragged a sanitation worker by his hair and dragged him for several meters, refusing to let go, and kept cursing. It turned out that the girl was the daughter of a sanitation worker. She came here every now and then asking for money, and would beat her and scold her if she didn\’t. This sanitation worker is nearly 50 years old, and her monthly salary is only a few thousand yuan, which is not enough to cover her daughter\’s expenses. Such a white-eyed wolf child is detestable, but why she behaves like this is probably inseparable from her parents\’ indulgence since childhood. The most terrifying thing is that parents from poor families raise their children to be children from rich families. Part 4 The voice of many wealthy class parents represented by Li Wei is: Our family’s economic conditions are very good, but this is the result of our parents’ hard work. If children learn to get something for nothing from an early age, how will they deal with setbacks when they grow up? Therefore, they clearly have a lot of money, but they turn into \”misers\” in front of their children. The children will complain at first, but when they grow up and experience the complexity of society, they will eventually understand their parents\’ original difficulties. US President Trump is such a parent. When his daughter Ivanka was still a student, he was already a wealthy real estate developer. Once, Project IvankaGoing on vacation and wanting to buy a new swimsuit, she came to Trump\’s office with a good friend to use his credit card. Unexpectedly, Trump bluntly rejected Ivanka in front of other girls: You have no shortage of swimsuits and don’t need to buy new ones. Of course Ivanka was very sad, but she had no choice but to study hard silently. After she took the job, Trump\’s style never changed. Ivanka bought a small apartment in his father\’s real estate project. She made her own money to pay the down payment without even internal discounts. She also had to pay the mortgage and interest to her father on a monthly basis. In such a family environment, Ivanka has known since she was a child that no matter how much money her father has, it is not hers. So she studied hard and graduated from Wharton School with honors. He could obviously rely on his reputation to make a living, but he went to work for an unknown real estate company in order to start at the grassroots level and accumulate experience. After he had real skills, he came to the Trump Organization to hold relevant positions and assist Trump in his development. Real estate business. As a rich second generation, Ivanka did not enjoy preferential treatment. She relied on her own ability to become a real rich and beautiful woman. Not only did she have her own business, she also gave speeches to support Trump\’s presidential campaign, winning applause from around the world. Part5 No matter how hard it is to produce a noble son from a poor family, only a noble family can produce a noble son. Although this conclusion is somewhat absolute, it is not unreasonable. A noble child comes from a poor family, and the most valuable thing lies in the child\’s spirit of hard work and struggle. But nowadays, parents from the wealthy class are increasingly aware of the importance of cultivating their children\’s spirit of enduring hardship, while parents from poor families are advocating: using their only salary to satisfy their children\’s vanity. After all, the one who can really produce a noble son must be from a noble family. The so-called expensive does not mean being rich in an absolute sense. It depends on the educational philosophy of the parents, the structure of the parents, and the mentality of the parents. In this era of widespread material abundance, meeting the basic needs of children for food and clothing has long been no problem, but being able to have a correct understanding is still a test for all parents. True love does not mean taking out all the things parents can give, but cultivating children\’s independent ability, simple character and fighting spirit. As Li Bo, a cultural scholar and professor at Nanjing Normal University, said: \”Real education means that no matter how rich you are, you still have to suffer for your children. Who do you see who has not experienced the ups and downs of life? Children need normal training, rather than just giving them various Excellent conditions.\”