Don\’t blame your children for crying unreasonably, they may be going through a sensitive period

My colleague’s child is three years old this year, but he has very little confidence. He often cries because of the same things. He runs slower than other children, eats slower than others, and does crafts slower than others… The parents are very distressed. Sometimes Encouragement is useless and may even be counterproductive. How can we cultivate children\’s self-confidence? Hear what child psychology experts have to say! When a three-year-old child cries when something happens, it is not because he lacks self-confidence, but because he pursues perfection. For three-year-old children, it may be too early to say whether they have self-confidence. Children at this stage are prone to crying when something happens. In fact, it is not a matter of self-confidence, but a matter of perfectionism. We know that children will have some sensitive periods at different stages of development. The sensitive period shown by children around three years old is that they enter a stage of pursuing perfection. They often feel that they are awesome, strong, powerful and can do many things. Therefore, once he does not do well, they will feel very depressed and anxious. However, because they are too young, they have no way to do better, so at this time they can only let everyone know how they feel by losing their temper and crying. It is extremely normal for children to have such emotions, and parents must be able to accept their children\’s emotions. All children will have this reaction at this stage. Don\’t think that your children are difficult to manage or take care of, or even think that they have no self-confidence. Don’t rush to help your children solve problems. Feel your children’s emotions first. When their children are upset, many parents use various methods to help their children solve problems. In fact, at this time, it is more important to empathize with the child, and then solve the problem with the child. We only need to tell the child: \”Baby, mom knows that you didn\’t do this well, which makes you feel particularly frustrated and disappointed. How about we work together? Under what circumstances do you think you can do this well?\” ? What kind of help do you need from your mother?\” By using this method of communication several times, the child will slowly find a way to deal with the problem. In fact, you can wait until the children are three and a half to four years old. After this stage, they can accept failure. At this time, with correct guidance, the children\’s self-confidence can be cultivated. The last thing I want to emphasize is that parents must learn to accept their children\’s failures. If parents cannot accept them, their children will be afraid of their own failures. Therefore, when children have various emotional reactions when encountering problems, we do not evaluate the children\’s so-called success or failure, but quietly accompany and observe them, and then give appropriate encouragement and correct guidance, we can make them happy. They successfully passed through this sensitive period of psychological development.