Don’t blame your children for these things they did wrong in kindergarten

As a parent, every time I hear my children make mistakes in kindergarten, I always feel nervous and want to criticize and educate them. But, dear parents, some \”mistakes\” are actually an inevitable part of a child\’s growth. Don’t rush to blame them! First of all, children make mistakes in kindergarten. In fact, many times they are just part of exploration. Just like when they first learned to walk and stumbled and fell, we would not blame them for not walking well. The same goes for making mistakes. The first thing: Unwilling to share toys. Many parents will hear the teacher say: The child is unwilling to share toys in kindergarten today. At this time, the image of a \”little domineering president\” is automatically generated in the parents\’ minds, and their hearts are filled with anger. In fact, it is completely normal for children to not want to share toys. Children have not yet truly understood the meaning of \”sharing\”. For them, toys are their own \”little world\” and they do not yet have the consciousness to share them with others. Moreover, there is a term in psychology called \”awareness of ownership.\” When children reach the age of 3 to 4, they begin to clearly understand the concept of \”this thing is mine.\” So, don’t be too anxious, guide them slowly, and don’t just judge them just because you “don’t share” once. The second thing: The teacher was distracted in class and disobedient. The teacher called and said, \”Your child was distracted in class and disobeyed instructions.\” When the parents heard this, they immediately frowned. \”Why are you so misbehaved? Are you too pampered?\” But in fact, children\’s inability to concentrate, especially in kindergarten, is because their concentration has not been fully developed. According to research, the average concentration of young children can only last 10 to 15 minutes. Therefore, it is not intentional for them to be distracted in class. Instead of blaming, it is better to help them gradually improve their concentration, such as playing some small games at home to gradually train their children\’s concentration. The third thing: lying. Many parents immediately get red-eyed when they hear their children lying: \”How can you lie! You must educate your children well!\” In fact, lying is also a part of growing up. In their little minds, lying is sometimes not malicious, but to avoid being scolded or to make themselves look \”good.\” Children begin to have \”imaginary thinking\” around the age of 4. They can imagine different scenarios, and lying is sometimes a product of this kind of thinking. Rather than getting angry, discuss the difference between truth and falsehood with your children to help them understand the importance of honesty. The fourth thing: Arguing with children: \”Your child got into a fight with a classmate today, which really gave the teacher a headache.\” At this time, the parents\’ faces were red, and they wished they could take their children home and teach them a lesson. But the fact is that conflicts between children are often a process in which they learn to deal with social relationships. They are not very good at expressing their emotions in words, especially when their own little world is violated, and they tend to express their dissatisfaction through actions. At this time, parents should help their children learn to use language to express their emotions instead of simply \”scolding and getting physical.\” Teach them to say \”I don\’t like what you\’re doing\” instead of pushing. The fifth thing: Children cry in kindergarten every day when they go to kindergarten, which makes parents feel very depressed. \”So much has been doneOh my God, why are you still crying? ! \”In fact, children have different adaptability to new environments. Some children are naturally more sensitive and experience separation anxiety more strongly. Moreover, crying is a way for them to release their emotions. At this time, what parents should do most is Give them enough sense of security, tell them that kindergarten is a place where they can have fun, and tell them clearly every day: \”You will have a lot of fun, and I will pick you up on time!\” \”In this way, their anxiety will gradually weaken. So, parents, you really don\’t have to worry too much about these \”mistakes\” your children make in kindergarten. They are exploring, learning, and adapting to the world in their own way. And As parents, what we should do is be more patient, blame less, and accompany them to grow together.