Don’t let these little details ruin your child’s good education

Well-educated children will be treated more gently by the world, because well-behaved and well-mannered children can bring inner joy and comfort to others. Some children are losing points in their education because of some inadvertent details. The child\’s way of speaking reveals his upbringing. My friend Xiaoya is a primary school teacher. She shared something with me: There is a child in the class who is quick to respond and has strong absorptive ability, and his test scores are very good every time. It is said that such a child should be the teacher\’s pet, but almost every teacher dislikes him. She gave me an example: For example, the math teacher asked the child to ask the class teacher to get the class sign-in sheet. The child ran over to the class teacher and said: The math teacher asked me to get the class sign-in sheet. Then he took it and walked away, went over to the math teacher and put it in front of him: \”Here you go.\” The teacher was stunned when this happened for the first time. He gradually discovered that this was the way this child spoke. He did not address people and rarely used honorifics. When you need to borrow a classmate\’s pen, just touch the other person: I don\’t have a pen with me, give me your pen. After using it, just put it in front of others… What a good child, but because of this way of speaking, he suddenly became so unlovable. Xiaoya mentioned this issue to the child\’s mother, but the child\’s mother didn\’t take it too seriously. While promising to talk to him after she went back, she said that we didn\’t understand these little things when we were children, and it would be fine when we grow up. However, we all know: adults who do not know etiquette were once children who did not know etiquette. Don\’t think that children are young. The better their cultivation, the more they need to be cultivated from an early age. Appropriate language, good rules and etiquette training can make children like and respected. And rude words and deeds will definitely tarnish the child\’s advantages. It is not particularly difficult to call someone \”teacher\”, have a title for someone, and say \”please\”, \”thank you\”, \”hello\”, \”sorry\” and other ordinary polite words. If such a simple thing cannot be done, such a child does not look very well-educated. A child who loves to laugh at other people will make him look uneducated. The daughter of a friend of mine is sweet-looking, has strong language skills, and looks particularly cute. But many people who come into contact with her don\’t like her very much because she always says hurtful things. For example, one of her mother\’s friends had just had double eyelids, and the swelling in her eyes had not completely subsided. When the little girl saw it, she said directly: Auntie, why do you still come out to scare people with such ugly double eyelids? For example, when some children are painting and see that it doesn’t look good, they will directly say: Why do you draw so ugly? When something embarrassing happens to others, she will definitely use her keen insight and strong language skills to describe it vividly: \”When our Chinese teacher was giving us a lecture, that spitting star actually sprayed the classmates in the front row. Face.\” \”Our Ban Qiqi is so funny. When the teacher asked her to get up to answer a question, she farted very loudly.\” My friend knows about this problem in her daughter and can discipline her, but on the one hand, she feels that her child is Tong Yanwuji, on the other hand, I feel that the child is not evil-minded, but he speaks too bluntly and does not take it seriously.. What is Tongyanwuji? Another explanation for Tong Yan Wuji is that children are always cruel and can be irresponsible. Children can be irresponsible in what they say, but parents must be responsible for their children\’s lives. This kind of language will reduce points for children\’s upbringing. Parents should teach their children the correct way of upbringing: tell their children not to make negative comments easily about other people\’s things and appearances; when encountering other people\’s embarrassment, help them resolve it. Help others resolve it, and if you can\’t, learn to remain silent. If you can\’t achieve adult beauty, you have to avoid exposing others\’ shortcomings. Because when you laugh at others, it will not show that you are smart, but it will show that you are uneducated. Being too stingy and short-sighted will also detract from his education. I remember that there was a child in my daughter\’s class who valued her own things very much. She would not let others borrow her erasers, pencils, etc., and would often say: \” No, my mother won’t let me lend things to others.” He gradually became less gregarious. Being able to share is a passport for children to integrate into the environment. For children who cannot share, the environment may close a door for them. Parents should let their children know that sharing and helping each other can bring greater happiness to their children. Children\’s learning supplies and toys are not that valuable, but knowing how to share them, and the relationships built through sharing are priceless. A child who can share will gain more positive energy, and the whole society will be more gentle to him. There is also a child whose family background is pretty good, but his eyesight is short-sighted and he is particularly greedy for other people\’s things. If someone else has a rare thing, they will find a way to take it for themselves, hide it secretly, or get it by threatening or deceiving them. Such behavior will especially detract from the child\’s education. Tell your children that they must think highly of themselves and not be greedy for other people\’s things. This is the rule of life. If you really want it, tell your parents and I will buy it for you. Don\’t reach out to someone who doesn\’t belong to you. The hand you extend will make others despise you in their hearts. A good education can make up for the lack of ability. I once took care of a girl when I was a tutor. She is not very sensitive, and her ability to accept new things is also weak, but she is very popular, and her teachers, friends and classmates all like her. She is polite to everyone. For example, if a guest comes to the house, she will come out of the study room to greet her politely during our class break, and then continue studying. I would never use studying as an excuse to hide in the study, and not even say hello when someone came. She knows how to share. Sometimes, when I tell her a new problem-solving idea, she will be overjoyed and say, \”Wow, this idea is so amazing. I will definitely tell it to my classmates tomorrow.\” Never be afraid that others will learn better than you. Etiquette in life is also very good. When eating, chew slowly and try not to make too much noise; when answering the phone, the first sentence must be \”Hello\”; when taking the elevator, always politely guard the elevator and wait patiently for others. After taking it…so before every exam, her classmates would naturally make a copy for her when sorting out the exam points. Relatives and friends would always give her more praise and preference, including neighbors who would make special remarks from time to time. Give her some small gifts. I discovered from her that a good education can make up for a lack of ability to a certain extent.Adequate, good rules and etiquette education are the best talismans for children. People with quality will be more likely to get help from others wherever they go. There are some details that parents and children may not pay attention to, but in the eyes of outsiders, they are very dazzling, and they will also detract from the beautiful image because of these small details. Let the children understand some rules and principles through the influence of their ears and eyes, so that the children can become well-educated and liked and respected by others. These good upbringings will protect the children in their future life.