Don’t let your children grow up to be white-eyed wolves. It’s worth reading 3 times by all parents.

There are always some people who live a youthful and invincible life, and live a glamorous life, but they cannot see the parents behind you who silently support you; in order to let you live a better life, they are still humiliating the world. 1 You live a glamorous life, but your parents are talking down to you. Some time ago, I was chatting with a friend. He was traveling with a younger brother in Hokkaido, Japan. I asked him if he was having fun. He told me that he and his brother were not traveling together, so the journey was not very pleasant. He told me in detail that my younger brother was pestering his parents to go to Japan. His mother was worried, so she invited my friend to follow my younger brother there. His younger brother does not come from a wealthy family. He has just entered college and has no ability to make money on his own, but he has the ability to spend money like water. Let’s take a small matter as an example: Japan is very expensive, a piece of cantaloupe costs about 30 yuan. A friend asked me: \”Can you agree with a child who can\’t make money yet, and whose family is not very rich, who ate three slices of cantaloupe in one go without blinking an eye just because he was thirsty and refused to buy water?\” This child? , reminds me of a very impressive sentence: Your parents are still hanging on, but you are showing off your poetry and distance. 2 There are quite a lot of people like this around me. Another friend of mine has very ordinary family conditions, but lives a very \”high-end\” life. She found the lunch box at her workplace unpalatable, so she went out to eat out at noon every day, and would order a cup of milk tea for more than ten yuan for delivery in the afternoon. When I go shopping with her, she always drags me to eat at popular and expensive restaurants. When traveling with her, she always buys all kinds of overpriced food and souvenirs in scenic spots, spending money like water. The stinky tofu was not very tasty, so she tasted a piece, spit it out, frowned in disgust, and threw it away. I dare not advise her not to be so lavish with money. Every time I tried to persuade her, she would squint her eyes unconvinced, quote her two famous quotes, and speak confidently. The first sentence is, \”Girls, you should be rich.\” The second sentence is, \”When you go out to play, you must be happy and don\’t care too much about money.\” It seems that if I advise her to save appropriately, it will appear that I am too stingy and stingy. I thought she must have a well-off family, until I went to her home one time. She lives in a private house on the outskirts of the city. It is old and damp, narrow and small. To go from the first floor to the second floor, you have to climb a very steep staircase. Her grandma, wearing her high school uniform jacket, was sitting at home picking vegetables. She asked grandma why she didn\’t play cards. The old man said: I lost dozens of dollars in the past two days and I am not happy today. I borrowed their bathroom, and my grandma never forgot to tell me to use the water in the bucket that has been used to wash the mop. Don\’t press the button, because the water will splash as soon as it is flushed, which is a waste of money. It was such a frugal old man who gave all his savings piece by piece by selling vegetables to his granddaughter and allowed her to squander it. At noon, she had dinner with her parents. Her father stated that he did not expect her to make money to support the family. The little salary she earned could be used for food and clothing. Later, that friend asked me to travel together during the holidays. She mentioned to me that it was cold to commute to and from get off work in winter. She was planning to buy a car, and her family agreed to buy it for her. Hearing this, I could only smile and didn\’t know what to say in response. 3 There is a joke that goes like this, \”I regard money as dirt, and my parents regard me as a septic tank.\” In our generation, manyPeople are like this. Some time ago, there was a discussion on the Internet about whether children should be raised poor or rich. People who advocate rich raising asked: Should boys be raised poor? How much hatred does your child have against you? I also want to ask those children who squander their parents’ hard-earned money: Do they want their children to be rich? How much do your parents owe you? I know a boy who paid IOUs to his parents for all his expenses from college to work. The money I spend on my occasional trips is also earned through my part-time job. After working, he took money from his monthly salary to repay his parents one by one. When children become adults, parents no longer have the obligation to support them, and there is no need to discuss the topic of raising them in poverty or raising them in wealth. But the reality is that many people get married and let their parents pay the mortgage. If you are like me and come from an ordinary family, then you should know very well that every penny your parents earn is not easy. When parents are sweating profusely under the scorching sun and doing physical work, when parents are doing mental work in a small cubicle with sore backs and backaches, it really doesn’t matter if you consume their day’s salary with just one big meal. Any trace of guilt? When your parents are being yelled at by your boss, when your parents are being yelled at by customers, you are spending your days enjoying friends and carefree, aren\’t you really intolerable? When you are fully equipped with iPhone, iPad, and Mac, your parents have to think about buying a 10 yuan 100M data package for a long time, and finally are not willing to buy it; when you are wearing a brand with a name you can tell, a pair of When the shoes cost several thousand yuan, your parents are wearing old shoes that you have eliminated. They don’t understand the brand you are talking about, and you still laugh at them for being behind the times; when you feel that your knowledge, literacy, and vision are far superior to your parents, so When you despise your parents for \”having never seen the world,\” have you ever thought about it. In fact, it is your parents who lift you to a higher place, so that you have the opportunity to see a bigger world. You live a youthful and invincible life, and you live a glamorous life, but you cannot see behind you, your parents who silently support you, and still humble themselves to the world in order to let you live a better life. Don\’t think of your parents only when you are short of money. They are not ATMs. They have warmth in their chests and emotions in their heartbeats. Our parents love us, and it’s not easy to love us. If you are far away, call your mother. There is no shame in saying thank you to her; if you are close by, remember to go home for dinner. If you can buy a small gift, I believe your mother will talk about it for a long time when everyone meets you… Don\’t forget Yes, I also said hello to my father. 4 Many parents unknowingly cultivate white-eyed wolves. At night, the food was on the table, and I called my daughter: \”It\’s time to eat.\” \”Wait a minute,\” she replied. I ate first. A few minutes later, my daughter came over, glanced at the table, and asked, \”Where\’s my food?\” With an angry and dissatisfied look on her face. I was shocked. Her expression and questioning clearly told me: You should serve me a good meal, why don\’t you? She is 7 years old and has good hands. She can obviously serve food by herself, so why does she think that I have to serve her food as a matter of course? I immediately found the reason. Although I have always warned myself not to do too much for my children and let them learn to take responsibility for themselves, like many mothers, I still unknowinglyI did a lot more for my children. I used to serve her rice all the time, so much so that she thought serving rice was something her mother should do for her. So, not only was she not grateful that I had been serving her rice, she was actually dissatisfied because I didn\’t serve her rice today. Yes, since it is what the mother should do, how can she be grateful? I realized that this was feeding into my daughter’s “feeling of deservedness.” \”Well-deserved\” means that someone feels that others owe him something, or that others must give him special treatment. People with this tendency believe that others (especially those close to them) should give them what they want. If others give it to them, they think that is what they should do, and they are ungrateful; if others do not give it to them, they think that others are too disrespectful. Yes, so I feel dissatisfied and resentful. People with a strong sense of well-deserved may become a \”white-eyed wolf\”. I don\’t want to raise my daughter to be a white-eyed wolf. It is my duty as a mother to raise her, and I do not expect anything in return from her. However, if she grows up and takes everything I do for her as a matter of course, and if I do less or don’t do it one day, she will resent me… If this happens, it will be my tragedy. So, I told her that my mother had just thought about it, maybe I had been serving you rice before, which made you feel that serving you food was what your mother should do. I think this is very bad. From today on, serving food is your own business and should be served by yourself. Since then, I have become more vigilant about whether I have done too much for her. I often remind myself not to do things for her that are within her scope, and assign some housework to her so that she can take on the responsibilities of a member of the family; When the time comes, invite (and ask) her to help, let her understand the hard work of our work; teach her to express gratitude. If she expresses gratitude, she will get more. If she is not grateful, I will not do that for her next time; reduce material satisfaction and let her understand that not everything she wants can be obtained. I see many parents unknowingly raising white-eyed wolves. They do too much for their children. On the way to or from school, most children\’s schoolbags are carried by their parents, and the children feel at ease and walk empty-handed. They have clothes to eat and food to eat. They don\’t need to do housework, as long as they study well; material enjoyment is excessive. Satisfied, many primary school students have their own mobile phones and computers… These are all contributing to children\’s sense of well-deserved. Today he thinks you should carry his schoolbag and buy a mobile phone for him, and tomorrow he will think you should find a job, buy a car, and buy a house for him. If one day you can\’t give him what he wants, he may become resentful. As I write this, I think of Wang Jiajing, an international student who committed matricide at the airport a few years ago. He has stayed in Japan for five years and has never worked. His tuition and living expenses depend on his mother\’s monthly income of 7,000 yuan. His mother borrowed money everywhere and couldn\’t come up with the money, so he stabbed his mother nine times at the airport when she came to pick her up. A 24-year-old young man should be self-reliant and rely on his own work to pay (or partially pay) for studying abroad. But he was content to enjoy the greenhouse life that his mother had worked so hard to provide. When his mother couldn\’t provide the money, he ignored his parents\’ kindness, and his resentment turned into nine dollars. This case reminds parents how important it is to teach their children to be responsible and grateful! A person who knows how to be gratefulAs a child, he will be grateful for what others have done for him, cherish everything he gets, and feel happy and blessed to have everything in front of him. Parents should remember: if you don’t want to raise your children to be “white-eyed wolves”, then don’t do too much for your children; don’t encourage your children to feel deserved, and teach them to be grateful.