Don’t let your laziness and blindness ruin your children’s reading

Every time I talk about reading, the articles are relatively long, with more than 3,000 words. It is recommended to save them and read them slowly! I hope it can help you, parent-child reading together, Fish Dad will accompany you… I am often asked: Is my child born not to like reading? At this time, I must advise you to stop. Because once you have such an idea mentally, you will often act in this direction. When your child behaves unsatisfactorily, think of him as being like that. In my heart, I felt that my child looked like me and didn\’t like to read, so I labeled him as \”doesn\’t like to read\”. It seems that after having this label, I can no longer be blamed for this. Just like we often say that adults should also read more and set an example for their children. At this time, many people will give a reason – no time. You see, it’s not that I don’t want to read, it’s that I really don’t have time. I even thought to myself that I was living a good life even though I didn’t study much. Then I can feel free to be lazy and let my laziness grow wildly. Is it really so busy? This is actually just an excuse. You can always find a bunch of things to say that you are too busy. So I didn’t even have time to wash my hands first, find a good seat, have a cup of tea, and then read something formally. Because reading is such a serious thing! I\’d better deal with these trivial matters of life first, and then day after day, reading will be delayed. Parents who do not have the habit of reading have actually deprived their children of the best role models. A mother told me that she doesn’t like reading, but in order to set a good example, is it okay to read some fashion magazines sometimes? Of course! Who says you must read classics? It doesn’t matter if you read a story and have a close friend! The key is that you have to read it and pay attention to it. Once parents give up cultivating their children\’s reading habits. The child\’s reading journey is basically ruined. Some people say that this hat cannot be placed on the parents\’ heads, because reading is the child\’s own business. Let me ask you this: a one or two year old child cannot read but can read pictures. Have you ever thought about letting him read picture books? Have you prepared a small bookshelf for your children to store their own books? Do you have any books at home for your children to read? Have you read storybooks to your children? Do you spend more time at the mahjong table, or do you spend more time reading with your children? When a person really pays attention to this matter, you will find that you have time. When you have such determination, you can defeat inertia. Our family also suspended parent-child reading for a while, but soon resumed. That was when Xiao Xiaoyu had just entered kindergarten, and things at home suddenly became messy. I had to urge him to go to bed early at night, but it was already very late after dinner. So the bedtime stories are on hold. At first, I didn\’t feel anything. But one day, my son said, \”Dad, let\’s eat early and wash our faces early, and then you can tell me a story.\” Seeing my son say this, I said let\’s get up quickly and make time to tell stories. Sure enough, I still squeezed out 30 minutes, and then started reading together with my children before going to bed every day. It has persisted for more than a year now. So a lot of so-called busyness is just a circle we draw for ourselves and then trap ourselves in it. Then put reading aside with peace of mind. It seems that children losing time for reading make no difference. But in fact, children have missed many wonderful things. Don\’t let your laziness ruin your child\’s reading. Of course, many parents who want to read to their children have a headache about what to read to their children and how to read it. For example, several mothers whose children were just over one year old told me: \”I want to cultivate the reading habit of my children, and I bought a lot of books, but the children just don\’t read them, and even throw away the books as soon as they are read. Is this the case with my children?\” I don’t like reading!” I understand mothers’ anxiety very well. I remember that when my son was over 1 year old, I took a picture book home. I excitedly called him over. He thought I was playing with him, so he came over. At first it felt good to hold the book and swing it around, but after a while it became boring and stopped playing. But I wanted to hold him in my arms and tell him stories. Unexpectedly, he struggled but disagreed. He would rather practice walking on the sofa than read a book. I\’m also a little disappointed. Then he went through the process of eating, tearing, and throwing away books. But I didn\’t give up, I still greeted him and showed him as usual. Once, a book \”Little Black Fish\” caught his attention. He saw prawns on it and all kinds of fish. He started pointing at the pattern and then looked at me. At that time, I was filled with ecstasy. Tell him what the little fish are doing and he starts to listen. But I could only listen for a minute or two at a time before running away. But it was a magical twist. Since that time, he began not to reject my reading game with him. Slowly, until I am now 5 years old, I have read nearly a thousand picture books. Now he can read for more than 30 minutes at a time. If the adults are not thirsty, he can continue to listen. While we were busy with housework, he would read by himself. Many weekends it was quiet at home, and I went to look for him worriedly. It turned out that a man was reading picture books in his room. So be sure to stick with it. Because the child\’s attention span will gradually become longer and longer. Children\’s interests will continue to open up. Your dedication and hard work will eventually bloom. How to read to children? A mother said that every time she reads picture books to her children, she always feels something is wrong. I can even fall asleep reading it myself. How should I read to my children? Let’s first see what the child likes? Children generally like exaggerated emotions, especially boys. If you read that when dinosaurs appear, you can give them a few bluffing roars or give them a little more descriptive description. I wanted to pique their interest even more. Children also enjoy seeing physical performances. When reading picture books, if you can add a little acting according to the plot. The kids will have a blast. Especially the participation of fathers can enhance the atmosphere of parent-child reading together. If you can\’t let go outside, you must let yourself go in front of your children. I am actually also a person who is nervous when speaking on stage. But in front of Xiao Xiaoyu, I can feel as free as a child. Then read it with emotion. He could feel my heart and enthusiasm. The wonderful thing is that the eyebrows are facing each other and it feels great. When their children reach elementary school, many mothers say that their children still rely on themselves to read aloud. Then you must remember to encourage your children to read aloud. Mom reads one to you, and you also read one to mom. The stories chosen can be brief and adapted to the child\’s reading ability. Of course, for Xiaodoubao who has just entered first grade, you should read with him. After all, what they prefer is the feeling of their mother reading to them. In this special period of transition from childhood to childhood. They don\’t want to grow up so quickly and be pushed away by their parents. No matter what stage you are at, read with your children. Don\’t pay too much attention to \”reading strategies\”. For example, some parents make reading plans for their children and must follow this. Or it stipulates which books the children should read, and there is no way for the children to read other books if they want to. Moreover, some parents like to let their children do various reading assignments and write down everything they read. It\’s as if children are faced with a gluttonous feast, but are told to write \”what they think after eating\” every time they take a delicious bite. It\’s off-putting. If this continues, it will only dampen children\’s interest in reading. What to read? I think the most important thing is interest. And cannot be trapped by utilitarian purposes. Many of us now read books with a purpose. For example, studying for professional exams. Or read to improve your skills. Few people say that they just read casually for the sake of reading something. In fact, the adult world is more stressful, so there is nothing wrong with spending your limited time reading these books. But for children, they shouldn\’t be trapped like this. I think children’s reading must be free. In the book \”The Power of Reading\”, Professor Stephen Krassen, a world-renowned linguist and reading education theory researcher, has proved the importance of \”free reading\” after many rounds of practice. He advocates stress-free reading and reading for interest. There is no need to write a book report, answer questions after each chapter, or look up a dictionary for each new word. So, choose reading materials for your children. You can also be more relaxed and don\’t be too restrictive. Some parents immediately feel uneasy when they see their children reading a fantasy novel. There are also parents who are worried because their children are addicted to Jin Yong\’s novels. Actually it doesn’t matter! At least it proves that the child has his own hobbies and he lets you know about it. What parents need to do is encourage and guide. For some children, their reading journey ends before it even begins. What is the cause? I think the influence of parents is actually very important. My grandma could not read or read, but she encouraged me to study at that time. As long as I was studying in the room, she would not ask me to work. She felt that I was doing something very important. More importantly, she has always lived frugally, but she never said a word when she saw me buying books. I remember that some of the books I was most fascinated by when I was a child were Xue Rengui\’s Conquest of the East and Generals of the Yang Family. Once, a teacher confiscated a copy in class, so he frugally bought a copy and gave it to his classmates. Unexpectedly, the teacher returned it to me later. He also told me: \”The books you read are good, but you should not read them during class. After school, read casually and read more.\” I have always been very grateful to my Chinese teacher. Later, Gu Long and Jin Yong read one after another in primary school. However, my appetite was whetted and these books could no longer satisfy me. I started reading literary books such as Robinson Crusoe, Bailuyuan, and The Romance of the Three Kingdoms. Later I read some essays, biographies, popular campus novels, everything. Only after experiencing it myself did I realize the difference. Martial arts are as good as martial arts, and literary novels are as good as literature. I still have a wide variety of books on my shelves today. The biggest advantage of this kind of experience is that it allows me to taste the sweetness of reading and develop this habit. Reading is like eating vegetables. You can\’t always eat one dish. Therefore, you cannot read one kind of book when reading. But some parents are really overly worried and afraid of reading bad books to their children. What is a bad book? Some mothers said that children should read warm fairy tales and see the truth, goodness and beauty, and not be spoiled by those ugly things. So Snow White was changed again and again, and the evil queen was gone. In the end, they are all good people. Even the big bad wolf has disappeared and turned into Uncle Big Bad Wolf to help you guide the way. But are there really no bad people in our world? One day when I saw the news about child abuse, I told my children, if a bad person bullies you, you must tell your mother! \”What is a bad person?\” the child asked. Maybe you are speechless because you have never told your children what bad people look like. Some mothers even dare not show the Kingdom of Beasts to their children for fear of scaring them. But are children really so afraid of those \”cute\” monsters? Therefore, don’t read books to your children that some people think are “castration”. A child\’s heart is not as fragile as you think. Don\’t let your laziness and blindness ruin your child\’s reading.