Don\’t raise your children in a garbage dump, you will regret it for the rest of your life!

There is a kind of education called releasing children\’s nature. They put children on the pedestal and regard releasing children\’s \”nature\” as inevitable, legal and natural. Of course, the final result is that the children do not grow up to be what their parents want. Bears, wild, uneducated, and unruly children have become the best synonyms for such children. This is not nature education, it is garbage education. It sounds irritating and heartbreaking, but it is very realistic. In a certain cinema, everyone was watching the movie seriously. Only one child jumped up and down on his seat and laughed from time to time. From the time he entered the theater to now, he had been making trouble for almost half an hour, and his mother was right next to him. An adult next to me couldn\’t bear it and asked the child\’s mother, \”Can you please control your child? It\’s too noisy.\” The child\’s mother didn\’t even look back and said, the child was born like this! Then continue watching the movie. After that, the child left his seat and ran around in the cinema. After running for a while, he got tired, but found that his mother could not be found because it was too dark inside. Then she cried and called her mother. After shouting several times, no one responded. A strange man shouted at him: Your mother is dead! The child stood there stunned, not daring to move. In China, there is a kind of education that is highly regarded as releasing children’s nature. All characteristics of a child can be attributed to nature. Whether they are good or bad, they are all naturally reasonable and cannot be argued or suppressed. A Tsinghua professor was indignant: The biggest scams in Chinese education are happy education, the uselessness of academic qualifications, and the release of children’s nature. These three scams are gradually distorting the growth of Chinese children. Children have no sense of rules. In a hot pot restaurant in Wuxi, Jiangsu, the adults were all dining at their seats. There was only one child running around in the aisle, running from one end to the other, and then from that end to this end. His mother followed slowly without scolding or stopping him. They must have felt that their child was lively and cute and there was no need to take care of him. When he ran to a corner, he happened to bump into the waiter who was turning. The waiter had a pot of grilled fish in his hand. The child\’s forehead happened to be pressed against the hot grilled fish pot. The tragedy happened instantly and the child was burned in many places. Afterwards, the child\’s parents arrogantly demanded 390,000 yuan in compensation without any appraisal or legal procedures: \”It doesn\’t matter whether it\’s money or not. Whose child is so burned that he\’s not worth 390,000 yuan?\” All responsibilities as parents are thrown away. Why do Chinese children generally lack a sense of rules? Because in the eyes of many parents, children\’s nature is higher than rules. Children are naturally active, so they can run, make noise, and make unbridled noises. In China, more and more children are ignoring the rules, and more and more tragedies are happening as a result. Children have no sense of awe. Just a few days ago, a murder occurred in Longhui, Hunan. A 73-year-old grandmother was killed in front of her home. The police immediately rushed to the scene. In less than 5 hours, the case was solved: The murderer was a 13-year-old child. On the afternoon of the incident, the child lingered near the grandmother\’s house and was scolded by the grandmother. Without saying a word, the child picked up a bamboo strip knife at the door, rushed straight to the old woman, used all his strength, and stabbed the old woman on the head.The old man died on the spot. Later, the child took away 700 yuan from the old man and finally fled the scene. A similar incident occurred not far away in Shaodong, Hunan: On October 18, 2015, three left-behind children discussed going to Xinlian Primary School for a walk. Since it was a holiday that day, the school gate was closed, so the three people climbed over the wall to get in. After entering the school, they pried open the door of the canteen and stole the bread, lollipops and other food inside. They happened to be discovered by the female teacher on duty. For fear of being caught, the three children directly beat the female teacher alive with wooden sticks. Beat him to death and then escape. The next day, the three children were arrested by the public security organs. Left-behind children can be regarded as the most complete free-range, with no one to take care of them, let alone no one to care about them. Their nature is released in the most complete way. However, the final result ends in tragedy, and even the most normal growth cannot be completed. There is a devil hidden in the heart of every child. Without restraint and discipline, unconditional release and release will only make the child lack the most basic sense of awe. Children have no sense of self-discipline. The writer Mao Nan met a mother in a very ordinary family, with ordinary parents and ordinary children. She said that after reading a book by a famous expert, she decided to imitate his parenting method-free range. My mother never cares about what time she gets up or what time she goes to bed, because she feels that her children have a sense of responsibility for themselves; as for academic performance, interest is the most important, and she will never force anything. The results of it? Three years later, a tragedy happened. Not to mention her grades, which were originally above average, but after three years, they were basically at the bottom. Other children had one or two specialties, but what about her children? No special skills. She is very good at playing games. Other children never bring their mobile phones to school. Her children never care about it. They play mobile games for more than eight hours a day. They are often late for school and even secretly spent two thousand yuan on games… She didn\’t understand why such a good education method would end up like this. In fact, this is not the only child who has been ruined by breeding. I have never doubted that children have a sense of self-management; what I doubt is that children\’s sense of self-discipline is not as strong as imagined. But it is infinitely exaggerated by many parents. Maybe in the end, it is not the children who control their destiny, but the mobile phones. A child who does not know how to self-discipline will never have a future. Putting and releasing will only cause the child to lose the most basic control. In the future, such children will not have any competitiveness. Children are not well-educated. I saw a joke on the Internet. A girl was queuing up to buy milk tea. She was lining up well. Suddenly a child, who looked like 7 or 8 years old, ran up and jumped in front of her. His mother was behind. . The girl couldn\’t stand it. She was like this at such a young age, and it would happen again in the future. She asked his mother, how do you discipline your children? His mother said nonchalantly, \”The child is like this, please give in.\” The girl suddenly said: \”Why should you let him? He is so ugly!\” His mother was so angry that her face turned green, and she took the child and walked out. I saw an even weirder one a few days ago. At around 1:00 noon on March 27, two children were riding an elevator in a community in Zhengzhou, Henan. One of the children had a sudden idea and tried to do stretching exercises in the elevator., while supporting the wall with his hands and his feet against the elevator door, then pushed hard. Unexpectedly, the safety door on the inside of the elevator suddenly flew out, and the main control panel of the elevator was ejected from the wall. If it were not protected by the outer wall, the consequences would be disastrous. What’s even more unexpected is that after the incident, the mother of the naughty child forwarded the surveillance video to the owner group, making unreasonable comments: \”Is this elevator made of paper?\” \”If you want to say that the property management has to thank my son?\” All three views were affected. subversion. Such naughty kids are everywhere and hard to guard against. Behind every naughty child, there must be incompetent parents. They chose to close their eyes to their children\’s willfulness and ignorance, and also chose to give up their responsibilities as parents. They certainly didn\’t expect that behind the herding, there must be bears and willfulness, without exception. The most powerless education: free-range education. Over the years, free-range education has been praised by many parents. Children should be happy and free, release their most perfect nature, and let them grow up independently and freely. It looks beautiful, but in reality it is terrible. Many parents are not \”freezing\” at all. What they see as freeing up is actually giving up and indulging, and in the end it becomes a violation of precepts or even a crime. The book \”Unequal Childhood\” writes: At least to a certain extent, the American elite generally practices collaborative cultivation, which can be roughly understood as \”captivity\”, while the parenting methods practiced by the working class and the poor are natural growth. , which is what we call \”stocking\”. Look, the \”stocking\” that you praise so much is just the helpless choice of the people at the bottom of the United States. Just like most Chinese people, they don\’t have enough time and money to educate their children. The more serious reality behind the scenes is that children who are free-range have no ability to compete with children from elite families. The price of free-range education may be that you will forever lose the path to upward mobility. The famous educator Ushinsky once said: If you develop good habits, you will never be able to enjoy the interest it brings you throughout your life; if you develop bad habits, you will repay endless debts throughout your life. In fact, it is the same in any country. Elite education has never been free-range! Don’t cross the “boundary” Education scholar Ding Lin once told a story. Some time ago, an American guest came to her home—a little girl in third grade. Like all children, the little girl has no resistance to candies. After finishing the first one, she still wants to eat the second one. She asked her mother if it was okay. Mom said clearly, no. The little girl had no choice but to accept it calmly. Many people like to talk about how free and advanced foreign education is, and how respectful it is of children\’s wishes, but they intentionally or unintentionally ignore that there is a clearly visible boundary in front of this freedom. Some things can be done, and some things must not be done. Do. Obama is the President of the United States and the winner of the Nobel Peace Prize, but there is one identity that makes him even more proud – the father of two children. Obama\’s education for his children can be called a model of elite education in the United States. Obama has two daughters. When they were 10 and 7 years old respectively, he formulated nine family rules. The content is not complicated, but it is highly operational and very meaningful: Family Rule 1: No unreasonable complaints, quarrels or troubles. disgustingLaugh; House Rule 2: You must make your bed, not just look tidy; House Rule 3: Do your own things, such as making your own cereal or pouring milk, folding your own quilt, setting your own alarm clock, getting up and dressing yourself; House Rule 4: Keep the toy room clean; Family Rule 5: Help parents share housework, $1 per week; Family Rule 6: No luxurious gifts or gorgeous parties on birthdays or Christmas; Family Rule 7: Turn off the lights on time at 8:30 every night . House Rule 8: Arrange a fulfilling after-school life: dancing, rehearsing, playing piano, tennis, and rugby; House Rule 9: No chasing stars. Looking at it this way, you will find that what Obama attaches most importance to is the development of rules, and they are all practical and operable things in life. Parents should give their children freedom, but this freedom is not unlimited, rule-less, or uncontrolled, nor is it indulgence or inaction. There is nothing wrong with a certain amount of release and tolerance, but before release, there must be a clear boundary. Some things can be tolerated, but some boundaries must not be crossed.