Don’t think that your children are “wasting their fortune” by tearing up books and missing out on the golden enlightenment period of reading.

Recently, I was recommending picture books to several friends who are mothers, and I discovered a problem like this. Several mothers said, \”My children tear up the books as soon as they get them. A picture book that costs more than 20 yuan, in an instant It was torn off. So I won’t buy it for him.” Some mothers said, “I want to buy it for him when he is older.” Another mother said, “I don’t think my son is good at reading and doesn’t like reading.” It can be seen from this that, Some mothers have no idea of ​​reading to their children. Yesterday after work, I saw a scene in the community. I didn’t take any pictures, but I remember it deeply. It was a child about 1 year old lying on the mahjong table and falling asleep. Several adults gathered around waiting for Mayu. These parents probably have never known the \”taste of books\”. Okay, let’s go a little further and start our topic today. Before we begin, let’s consider a few questions! If children are not exposed to books, how can they know how to care for them? If children are not exposed to books, how do they know that there are such things as books in the world? If children are not exposed to books, how will they know what is in them? If children are not exposed to books, how can they fall in love with books? Why do children tear up books? 1. Scientific interpretation: \”Finger sensitive period\” is causing trouble! (0-2.5 years old) Children coordinate the relationship between the brain and body through exploration with their hands. Hand exploration is a very important cognitive process. Hand activity is not a brief movement, but an act of exploring the world. The world comes alive at the touch of a child. It can be said that the sensitive period of hands is the beginning of children\’s understanding of the world. Take the simple act of tearing paper. Scientists believe that when children tear apart paper, they are conducting a complete scientific study. After children tear apart the paper, they first think about what the paper is made of, then smell the smell of the paper, taste the taste of the paper, and then Shake the piece of paper in the air and listen for the sound it makes. This set of actions mobilizes all the children\’s brain cells for research, so next time you see a child tearing pieces of paper, be sure to follow the child\’s scientific exploration. 2. There is no awareness of money in the child\’s world. In the child\’s world, there is no such thing as us adults. They will not think that tearing a book is destruction, nor will they think of how much a book is worth, which will be a waste. For children under the age of 3, their thinking is very simple. They don\’t even realize that the action of tearing a book will cause the book to be torn into pieces. Tearing the book is just an action they enjoy endlessly. This action is very cool in their eyes, but mothers can rest assured that the behavior of their children tearing up books has nothing to do with whether they like reading. Don\’t assume that just because your child tears up books, he will be a child who doesn\’t like to study in the future. 3. The child enjoys this process. If the mother is careful enough and observes the child\’s action of tearing the book, she will find that there is a happy expression on the child\’s face, and the action is different every time. Tearing it apart without blinking, gently and sometimes very quickly. When completing the tearing action, the child\’s thinking is active, and he will think about how to tear. Wang Huiwen, chairman of the Early Education Committee of the Chinese Montessori Society, mentioned that children usually start to like tearing up books when they are 9 months old. Around this age, children have not really reached the stage of \”early reading\”.\” stage, they prefer to learn hand-eye coordination. How to deal with children tearing books? 1. Treat the pile of broken books calmly. When the child tears the book, the mother should not scold the child, but should understand the child tearing the book. It is a kind of learning behavior and a need for children to grow up. Don\’t beat or scold them excitedly, otherwise the child will think that it was the book that caused him to be beaten and scolded, and he will blame the book for his mistakes, then he will hate the book even more. That will have a great impact on the child\’s future learning. Of course, blind indulgence is not advisable. You must tell your child that this behavior is wrong. When you say it, pay attention to your tone and tell him calmly. Destruction will make it impossible for his book to come back, and those lovely characters will disappear. Let the child realize that his behavior is inappropriate, and he will restrain himself next time. 2. Just make the mistake the wrong one, and let him tear up enough at one time! In order to let the child Children grow faster. Mothers should not scold their children, but should encourage them as much as possible. Sometimes, even if mothers tell their children not to tear up books, children may not be able to control themselves. Mothers may wish to prepare a small book for their children Basket, put discarded advertising paper, old newspapers, etc. in it, and let the child fully complete the tearing action. When the child thinks that it has been torn up enough, he will shift his interest to the next hand movement and will not do it again. Obsessed with tearing up books. Make mistakes and let him tear up enough at one time! 3. Tell him that the books you tear are his own. Every family will have a certain collection of books. This is not only conducive to personal growth, but also conducive to creating a good environment for children. A family environment with a bookish atmosphere. Of course, having many valuable books ripped out is a very painful thing for a book lover. Mothers can tell their children in advance: \”The books on the bookshelf at home are very important. ! The child cannot tear it off! Because it was meant for you to read when you grow up. If you tear it up now, there will be no books left to read when you grow up! \”When children are 1 year old, they already have a sense of themselves. When they feel that tearing the book will harm their own interests, they will be more restrained. 4. Make up the book with the child. When the child tears the book, this is What a great opportunity for parent-child crafts! Parents must not reprimand their children. After telling their children that their behavior is wrong, they should start to repair the books. Parents can gently pick up the books that have been torn by their children and let their children get glue or strips. , join the torn books together with the child, and paste them together. During the process of pasting, the children will definitely grab it and paste it themselves. At this time, the mother should not worry about the mess made by the children, but should patiently teach the children the steps of pasting. . Children understand that pasting is not easy, and they will consider whether it can be torn before tearing the book. Parents must let their children know the hardship of labor. Some mothers like to silently patch up books when their children are asleep. This is It is not advisable, the child must be involved, otherwise, how can he feel this painstaking repair process, and how can he learn to cherish books? 5. Choose the right book for the little one. For those babies over 1 year old, you You need to choose a book that is suitable for him. He will not be able to understand your preaching, and it will be difficult for him to understand the hard work of the repair process. Therefore, you can choose some books that cannot be torn apart.Rotten cardboard books, cloth books, and plastic books can also be replaced with other old magazines to help children get through this period smoothly. Never let your children have no contact with books just because they tear up books. This is a pity.