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The winding path is for the different scenery at the corners. Life is long, and eventually there will be a bright future after all the hardships have been exhausted. After EA and ED, a Princeton mother recalled the emotional journey of her daughter being rejected by Yale University a year ago, but receiving a letter of admission from Princeton University… Last week was the release of Early Admission and Early Action results for prestigious universities in the United States. During this period, the circle of friends warmly congratulated and praised the lucky students who were admitted early. I attended a community event with my daughter on Saturday morning and met a girl who was studying painting with her. She had recently won the grand prize in a United Nations painting competition and learned that she had been deferred to the normal application process by Yale Art Institute. I met an old classmate in the evening. Her daughter was deferred from MIT. I know both of these kids are great. When I heard the news about deferral, I was about to say a few congratulations or words of relief, but I immediately realized that this was obviously not the outcome that the children and parents expected; I really want to say that being deferred means that you are qualified and there is still hope of being admitted. But I also know very well how many outstanding students apply to Yale and MIT, and it is impossible for the school to admit so many students. I also believed that they would eventually go to a good university, but in the end I couldn\’t find the right words to comfort these two children. I haven’t heard any news about anyone being rejected in the circle of friends. One is because my children have all gone to college and are not in the circle of fresh graduates. Second, no one will post the \”rejected\” result in Moments. When we praised the students who were admitted early, I was actually thinking about the \”rejected\” students there and whether anyone was comforting and encouraging them. What outsiders see is only the result, no one knows the emotional journey along the way. Maybe many people don\’t care about the process at all, they only care about the final outcome. The scene of my daughter applying to college came to mind. Everyone knows that she went to Princeton University. In fact, her favorite university in her last year was the Yale Art Department. She also experienced applying for Yale Early Admission and being deferred and rejected. During a snowstorm in February, we took our daughter to visit eight campuses on the East Coast. There were several schools she liked. But along the way, Yale left the deepest impression on her. The beautiful campus; the amazing library, the lingering museum; the aroma of food wafting from the student cafeteria; the school introduction video played by the Admission Office, which does not have a \”serious\” academic style, but uses an opera performance to present student life of colorful. The temperature of minus 20 degrees and the snowstorm trip did not diminish her enthusiasm at all. From then on, she began to yearn for the Yale campus, hoping to study art there. She made various efforts, including applying for an art school portfolio, and applied for Early Admission (Early Admission) to the Art Department of Yale University with three or four good friends, all talented and outstanding art students.n). We know that the Art Department of Yale University may be recognized as the highest institution of Fine Art, but the admission rate is less than 5%. In addition to strength, it also depends on luck. The child\’s college application process is basically self-care, and other than urging her not to wait until the last minute to submit her application, nothing else can help. The Early Admission application deadline seemed to be Friday. We knew that our daughter had submitted all the application materials a few days in advance, so we asked her to relax, finish one thing, and stop thinking about it. It\’s like winning the lottery, there\’s chance and luck. Unexpectedly, she checked on the application website again on Saturday morning. \”Oh, no. Why?\” She cried. \”What\’s wrong?\” I was making breakfast in the kitchen. \”The application website said that my application materials were incomplete and missing a letter of recommendation from a teacher.\” She seemed about to cry. \”Why didn\’t you remind the teacher earlier?\” I stopped what I was about to blurt out. These words couldn\’t help at the moment. \”The teacher has many students. When did you last tell the teacher? Have you followed up with the teacher recently?\” I asked. \”The history teacher promised to write me a letter of recommendation. He reminded the teacher two weeks ago, and told the teacher a week ago.\” The daughter said with grievance. \”Do you have the teacher\’s phone number?\” I asked. Today is Saturday. \”There is no teacher\’s phone number. We all talk in person and sometimes via email,\” the daughter said. The teacher\’s personal phone number was not found. \”Do you have the phone number of the college counselor? You can ask him.\” The husband reminded me. \”I don\’t have his personal phone number,\” the daughter replied. What can we do at this time? I suddenly realized that parents must not be as anxious as their children at this time. Parents must be calm and mentally strong in order to support their children\’s spiritual world when they are lost. \”Child, there are many things in this world that we cannot control and grasp by ourselves. All we can do is do what we can do well. Let\’s see what else we can do now? For example, send an email to the teacher?\” My tone was very calm, without any discomfort or complaint. My daughter sent an email to her teacher and the school counselor. At this time, I called my daughter and husband to have breakfast. My daughter rushed out of the kitchen and living room and rushed to the backyard. She couldn\’t hold back her tears and started crying. My husband and I did not follow her out, leaving her alone to \”vent\” her disappointment, helplessness and grievances. I put the breakfast porridge, eggs, and my daughter\’s favorite side dishes on the table and sat down to wait for her. The husband calmed down and started to go to the Yale application website to learn about the situation. After a few minutes, my daughter came into the house and sat down. The eyes are still a little red and teary. My husband found that “the website is not updated at any time.” Maybe the teacher’s application materials have been sent, but the website has not been updated. I also found that if the student’s application materials are not complete by the deadline, they will not be accepted. However, if the school or teacher has special reasons,If materials are not delivered on time, they can still be collected. So you can go to the school to check with the teacher on Monday to confirm. If the teacher fails to send the recommendation letter in time for special reasons, it can still be submitted. The husband said to his daughter calmly and rationally. My daughter was back to normal by this time. \”Okay, I\’ll ask on Monday.\” We started to have breakfast. I said to the child again: \”Didn\’t we say that going to this kind of school is like winning a lottery? You have to be mentally prepared. Don\’t get too hung up on which school to go to.\” \”I know. But it\’s still hard not to think about it.\” said the daughter. My daughter went to school to meet with her teacher on Monday and found out that the teacher had already submitted the recommendation letter before the deadline. \”You don\’t have to think about it anymore. Just like you put your heart into painting, don\’t think about whether you will win the prize after you finish the painting.\” I asked again. My daughter said I got it. The early admission results came out, but we didn’t stare at the results or take the initiative to ask. Until that night, my daughter told us that she had been deferred from Yale. Several students who were very strong in drawing were rejected, and another student was deferred just like her. We say it lightly that these Ivy League schools cannot recruit so many students. Before the results of the Ivy League schools were released, my daughter received admission notices from several schools one after another. One of the accepted schools invited her to visit and provided her with air tickets and three days of food and accommodation. We went with her and were really happy for her and felt These schools are very good. She also felt in her heart that several schools liked her, but I knew she was still waiting for Yale\’s admission results. On the evening of 3/31, I was still working in the office. I have received the admission results of several friends’ children through phone calls and emails. I am not anxious about the results of my daughter\’s application to Ivy League schools. I also believe that my daughter has made enough mental preparations and her heart is strong enough by this time. This little girl who has been very successful and strong since she was a child has been able to face \”rejection\” calmly. \”The frustration. My daughter opened the Yale application results first and was rejected. She paused for a moment, accepted it calmly, and still encouraged herself. Opening the Princeton application results, she was admitted. There is no sadness or joy, but humility and joy arise from the bottom of my heart. \”I am lucky. Thank you for accompanying me all the way.\” My daughter called my office. For some reason, my eyes suddenly blurred. It was not because she could go to an Ivy League school, but because I knew that my daughter\’s wings were already full. , is about to sail away from me.