Educate children to be independent, but also teach them to learn to leverage

When she was washing her daughter\’s clothes at night, Li Jie found some blood on the child\’s pants. The child is in the first grade of junior high school. The menstrual period this year must have started again today. Thinking that her child had grown into a little woman, Li Jie felt inexplicably soft in her heart. After cleaning up the house, Li Jie knocked on the door of her child\’s room, wanting to chat with her and ask her how her day was at school. The child didn\’t want to talk much, so the mother had no choice but to directly ask if she felt uncomfortable during her period today. The child hesitated to speak, lowered his head and continued to do his homework. \”Then mommy will make you a cup of brown sugar water. After drinking it, go to bed early today.\” Li Jie stood up and prepared to leave. The child suddenly stopped her, \”Mom, I forgot to bring Sophie today, and I didn\’t dare ask my classmates to borrow it. There were so many people in the canteen, and I was embarrassed to buy it in front of the boys. Why was I so careless when I went out at noon. \”Li Jie\’s heart trembled. She had taught her daughter the physiological knowledge of menarche and the selection and use of auntie towels. How could she have neglected how to ask for help when she forgot to bring auntie towels outside? Thinking back to my junior high school years, how cautious I was when I secretly took out a replacement towel from my desk and went to the toilet. I also didn’t dare to say that I wanted to buy a towel for my aunt when I saw the male shopkeeper. Li Jie said to the child: Mom was just as shy as you back then, but when faced with this kind of situation, you still have to be brave enough to ask for help. You can ask your close female classmates if they happen to have extra ones. Sharing little secrets between girls can also enhance the relationship between classmates, so that they won’t be embarrassed to ask you for help next time. If there are none, go to the female teacher. Maybe the teacher will prepare some spare ones in the office. If there are many people in the canteen, you can find a suitable opportunity to ask the teacher for a leave at the end of the class and go shopping in the name of the toilet. look. After thinking about it, Li Jie added: You see when we go to the mall on weekends, there are reminders in the hotel bathrooms saying that when good friends come, you can call the service desk to ask for delivery. Every woman has this unexpected need, so don’t be too shy to speak up. After coming out of the child\’s room, Li Jie secretly reflected in her heart that she usually teaches her children to be independent, but forgets to teach them how to ask for help outside the home. And there will be many opportunities for her to seek help from others in her future life. There are many examples in life of children not asking for help. There was a news report that an 8-year-old girl lost her parents and cried alone on the roadside for a long time. Fortunately, she was discovered by the police in time in the evening. The little girl was able to name her parents\’ full names and remember her home phone number. Eventually police contacted her family and took her home. After returning home, her parents asked her why she didn\’t find someone to call and what she would do if she met a bad person late at night. The child replied that he didn\’t know how to find someone to help him call his parents. When I hear adults making phone calls, they often say \”hang up and save some money on the phone bill.\” What should I do if I ask someone to call me but I don\’t have the money to pay for the phone bill? Children are innocent little angels, but when they are placed in a society with unknown risks and encounter difficulties that they cannot solve, they feel helpless. They call for their parents in their hearts, but they don\’t know how to feel their helplessness. Many bullying cases in schools are often the result of bullied children not knowing how to seek help. This little one in schoolIn the group, children often have conflicts over some small conflicts. If not handled well, they will form cliques and the conflicts will escalate. Those who are bullied are often children with more withdrawn personalities. Bad children with violent tendencies are often afraid to tell their parents, teachers, or seek help from other students because they have spotted them. It is true that the legal system is progressing and campus bullying has been included in the scope of legal education, but educating children on how to reasonably avoid conflicts and how to find someone for help when encountering bullying is still important to their healthy growth. To teach children how to ask for help, we should not only pay attention to the cultivation of children\’s awareness of asking for help, but also encourage children to implement the behavior of asking for help. 1. Pay more attention to strengthening children\’s awareness of asking for help at home. While educating children to develop independent living habits, parents should not forget to tell children that when they have difficulties, they should ask their parents for help in time. Don’t ignore your children’s need for help just because you think your children are sensible and well-behaved. When children ask for help, parents should attach great importance to it and help them solve the problem appropriately, positively guide their children to find the positive effects of asking for help, and strengthen their children\’s awareness of asking for help. 2. Properly train children’s skills in asking for help when going out. When taking children out to shop, travel, or participate in group activities, we will encounter some small communication and collaboration obstacles. Parents can let their children appropriately seek help on their behalf. Help and try to find a solution. Let the children personally make a call for help, communicate with others to redeem a seat, etc. The children get exercise, and parents accompany them to observe carefully and give encouragement, which can often yield unexpected results. 3. It is important to cultivate children\’s helpful character and let them know that they can ask others for help when they have difficulties. It is also a complementary behavior to further educate children to lend a helping hand in time when others are in trouble. Helping others is a virtue and an important channel for the soul to gain happiness. In the process of helping others, children can better understand that cooperation is an effective way to solve problems, and they will be more willing to ask others for help when they encounter problems in the future. 4. Guide children to understand and accept the concept of teamwork. It is summer vacation, and children will inevitably watch cartoons at home. If you find some good teamwork stories in the film while watching it with your children, you may wish to discuss it with your children. And I really like the classic line in \”Super Wings\”: It\’s time to call in Super Wings to help. My dear children, in real life, parents, friends, teachers, kind passers-by, and police officers may all be super wings who can lend a helping hand when you encounter difficulties. Call them bravely!