Educational methods to teach children self-discipline

Every parent hopes that their children will be self-disciplined, have internal drive, learn consciously, and develop good habits. But things go against expectations. In reality, children need to be pushed by adults everywhere. They need to be pushed to get up, to eat, to do homework… Many times, children directly confront their parents. If the parents say to go east, the children must go to the west. Take a look, if the parents yell once, the child dares to yell at the parents three times… The parents can\’t bear it anymore and start to use \”family methods\”, all kinds of threats, all kinds of punishment measures, they are endless, spanking, spanking, no watching TV, no Playing games, not giving pocket money… It is difficult to make a child become self-disciplined by punishment alone, and it is likely to be counterproductive in the long run. Punishment will only make children who make mistakes become more careful, and they will try their best to avoid these punishments, but children will not think about the mistake itself. If they do not recognize the mistake, they will not change their behavior from the heart to correct the mistake. At the same time, punishment also brings many sequelae. Although punishment brings short-term behavioral norms, children are very resistant in their hearts, and resistance leads to resistance. Parent-child conflicts become more intense. Punishment can only control children\’s bad behavior in the short term. It does not teach children the correct behavior. In the long run, children do not correct their bad behavior. Today I will share 3 ways to replace punishment and help children become self-disciplined. 52 compulsory lessons for Chinese parents in the critical period of their children\’s growth mp31 express their strong dissatisfaction and expectations. For example, if a child always interrupts others, we do not criticize, but tell the child: \”I am very unhappy when you interrupt me like this.\” If we express dissatisfaction to the child, the child will realize that his behavior is wrong and think about how to do it. Change your behavior. For example, if a child provokes and bullies a girl at school, there is no need to threaten the child with punishment. Tell the child our expectations: \”I hope you can be a modest gentleman who respects women.\” Tell the child our expectations, and the child will know which behaviors are correct and which behaviors If it is wrong, the child will have the ability to distinguish and be a self-disciplined child according to our expectations. 2 Tell the child how to correct it. For example, if a child always interrupts other people\’s speeches, we do not need to criticize the child for being rude, but tell the child: \”I hope you can wait until others have finished speaking before starting to speak.\” Criticism and reprimanding will make children resist. , children are unwilling to cooperate with their parents, will not realize their mistakes, and will not be willing to take responsibility. Tell the child how to correct his bad behavior, and the child will know what to do, which can effectively help the child change his bad behavior. 3. Let children experience the consequences of bad behavior. For example, if a child always swears and refuses to change despite repeated admonishment, then we tell the child: \”If you swear again, your parents will ignore you. Parents will only communicate with children who do not swear.\” If we We have pointed out that the child\’s behavior is wrong and told the child how to correct it. If the child still goes his own way and does not correct it, then we must let the child experience the consequences of the bad behavior so that the child can realize the seriousness of the problem. If we can avoid punishment and choose to use the above three methods, coupled with a respectful attitude and a gentle tone, the child will definitely be able toFeeling the sincerity and respect of parents can not only increase the relationship between parents and children, but also cultivate a good child with self-discipline.