Eighty percent of children fail the anti-trafficking test! Safety education hidden dangers that parents don’t know about

The movie \”Lost Orphan\” is adapted from a real incident of searching for a son. In the movie, Andy Lau plays a father who has been on the road for fifteen years, just to find his abducted son. He said: \”It has been fifteen years, and only on the road do I feel like I am a father.\” This is the epitome of a family whose child was abducted, and this is the voice of a father who has lost his child. When a child is abducted, it is simply a nightmare for families, so we have been working hard to prevent such things. I believe parents will tell their children: \”Don\’t trust strangers easily!\” \”Don\’t eat food given by strangers!\” \”Don\’t talk to strangers!\” \”Don\’t walk with strangers!\”… But are these warnings really useful? Recently, Ganzhou City, Jiangxi Province launched an anti-abduction test. The staff pretended to be liars, lying to the children that they were friends of the children\’s parents, and used snacks and toys to attract the children. Unfortunately, 42 of the 50 children tested were simulated abducted. Many parents are shocked and anxious by this result, especially those who believe that their safety education is in place and are confident that their children can successfully prevent trafficking. Why do we work so hard on safety education and our children “listen” to it, but are they still easily deceived by scammers? This should be explained from the cognitive aspect of the child. When a stranger appears in front of a child, how does the child judge whether his words are credible? Research on what kind of cues young children use to make trust judgments shows that children use more emotional cues than cognitive cues when making trust judgments. In other words, which clue provider they like more, and which clue provider says they believe more. Whoever is more popular with children and is more liked by children will be more likely to be trusted by children, and the younger the child, the more \”willful\” the child will be. This makes sense: when the liar brings out the snacks and toys that the child likes to play with, the person\’s favorability in the child\’s heart rises linearly. At this time, the liar claims to be a friend of his parents, because Their emotional value in children\’s hearts increases rapidly, so the possibility of children choosing to believe them also increases rapidly. Why do children forget what their parents keep repeating when faced with liars? This is determined by the child\’s memory development. The memory of kindergarten children is intuitive, mechanical, not random, easy to remember and easy to forget, and imprecise. These characteristics lead to parents repeating words over and over again, and children forgetting them quickly, especially when the situation the child faces is inconsistent with the situation he heard. So when parents and children repeatedly emphasize \”don\’t eat from strangers\” and \”don\’t go with strangers\”, the children may remember it, or they may turn around and forget. When faced with the endless tricks of scammers, children may not be able to put them into the situation that their parents are telling them to do. For example, the liar does not directly give the child delicious and fun things, but puts the toys there so that the child can actively choose to play with them. He hides and observes himself, and then comes to the child when the child is having a great time and says The toy is my own and I want to play with my children. What will the child think at this time?Woolen cloth? First, I recall the advice from my parents that I can recall (don’t eat food from strangers, don’t trust strangers), and then the uncle and aunt in front of me didn’t give me anything to eat, but just wanted to play with me, so I’ll play with him. At this point, the child is likely to distinguish the liar from the strangers, so when the liar proposes to take the child to play more interesting toys or games, the child will follow because he feels that the other person is not a stranger. . Many parents in the movie \”Orphaned\” are confused about how to provide effective safety education to their children. In fact, any education must be combined with the child\’s own development. Instead of worryingly repeating the \”strangers and bad guys theory\” to their children every day and making their children lose their sense of security from the outside world, parents should weave these instructions into various short stories and tell them to their children to teach them how to deal with bad people. self-help method. However, we have to admit that although we have tried our best to provide safety education to our children, children are affected by the limitations of their psychological development. We cannot be too optimistic and rely entirely on safety education. To prevent children from being abducted, we can also use The following points: 1. Try not to show off your children in public places such as WeChat Moments. 2. Pick up your children after school in time. If you don’t have time, inform your spouse in advance to pick up your children. Try not to ask others to pick up your children. 3. Try not to let your children play outside alone. 4. When you are out with your children, don’t “ignore” or “forget” the children around you just because you meet acquaintances to chat or see something you are interested in. 5. Wear electronic products with positioning effects on your children, such as GPS positioning watches. 6. In public places with many people, use a leash to hold your child by your side. (Note: Some parents will lower their vigilance because the traction rope ties their children to them, and play with their mobile phones. In this way, bad guys can take away the children just by cutting the rope, and the traction rope greatly restricts the child\’s freedom. Once parents untie the shackles of the traction, the child may run further in excitement, so it needs to be used with caution) The movie \”Dear\” although children are not abducted frequently, but once it happens, the damage to the child and the family is irreparable. , so we must do the best we can, actively prevent this kind of thing from happening, and protect our children from growing up healthy and healthy by our side!