Enjoy money and love, no discipline, kid, how is that possible? This logic does not hold

Yesterday, the two children had a great time eating the KFC bought by their father. Before I wiped off the oil on my little mouth, I started to complain about my father: \”When we watched Running Man on Saturday, Dad took care of us and didn\’t let us make any noise.\” Me: \”When you watched Running Man, you laughed for a while and then laughed for a while. You know how to dance, but Mom still finds it noisy at home. Isn’t it normal for Dad to control you?” Daughter: “We want to be free, relax, and don’t want Dad to worry about me. Didn’t Mom stop me from talking to me?” Why not this time?\” Me: You were too noisy last time. Dad said you were crazy for being so loud. Mom will never allow anyone to use hurtful language to define you or hurt you. If dad uses hurtful words, mom will of course stop dad\’s behavior. So, at that time, my mother immediately criticized my father. As a father, how can you use such language and at the same time set a boundary with your father? You must never say this in the future. It is our common goal to protect our children and use civilized language to control them, but my mother did not say not to let my father control you. Daughter: \”We just want to have a good time.\” Me: Then you can discuss it with your father. This is your relationship with your father. You have to face it personally. If your father uses hurtful language, you will report it to your mother. Otherwise, your mother will not participate. There is also a distinction between strict and gentle teachers in your school. Your dad is not like your mom who has been studying for more than 20 years. He understands, allows and accepts his children in everything. 02 I tell my children these things: 1. While enjoying your father’s money and love, don’t discipline them. You have the final say in everything. How is this possible? This logic doesn\’t hold true. Don\’t care, and don\’t enjoy dad\’s material conditions, don\’t enjoy dad\’s frequent cooking for you, and don\’t eat the snacks dad buys. Dad expresses love with actions, unlike mom who talks about love in words. To enjoy the generous conditions provided by dad, you have to accept discipline. When you grow up, you don’t have to rely on your parents, you make money on your own, buy your own house, and see if your father takes care of you? Enjoy the sunshine without looking back. This logic does not hold. Study hard, get into college, and get rid of this kind of discipline. The higher you fly, the freer your life is and the easier it is for us. 2. What a guardian should do is to regulate the child\’s behavior so that the child can better adapt to society. The family is the training ground of society, and the collective environment is mutual respect and care for each other. When there is a conflict, you have to find a way to solve the problem. Mom can\’t be with you forever. Getting along with dad is to practice problem-solving skills. 3. There must be a win-win mentality. Mom doesn’t want you to feel depressed or aggrieved, nor does she want you to be afraid of authority or live in the shadow of authority. Although your parents take care of your food, clothing, housing, and transportation, this is your parents’ responsibility and obligation. Mom supports you to talk to dad. Dad is just an identity and an ordinary person. You can put dad in a position of equality and respect and discuss a result that is acceptable to both of you. You can let daddy take care of you and have some fun on the weekend. How to convince your dad, use your brain to think. You can also watch TV quietly and take care of your dad who needs a good rest on the weekend. Understand your father\’s hard work, and he also needs your support and understanding. You can also discuss itTo a certain extent, for example, you can talk and laugh in a low voice without disturbing your father, and you can also watch it at a different time. The difference between humans and animals lies in their brains and flexibility in thinking. There are many options to choose from. In the end, the two children chose to joke quietly, and it happened that their father had something to do and went out. 03 I often receive messages from many parents, who accept their children unconditionally from the moment they are born. Give your children love and freedom, respect and understanding. I have read a lot of parenting books and have learned a lot about various educational concepts, such as non-violent communication, parent effectiveness manual, positive discipline, unconditional parenting, etc. Be strict with your children, for fear of harming them, you don’t dare to do this or that, thinking that children are like eggs, and they will break accidentally. As a result, the children have no self-discipline and have bad habits. In the end, they become rotten and really become egg. In fact, a child can come into the world and stand out among hundreds of millions of sperm competition. It is not so fragile. The child is as soft as water and as strong as a mountain. As long as parents can listen more to their children\’s voices, as long as they can be expressed, they will not be suppressed to the subconscious and will not cause harm.