Facing negative and complaining people [parents] is a lifelong nightmare for children

Parents\’ attitude towards the world will affect their children\’s attitude towards the world. This is what I have always believed. Tell me a very small thing. I took a taxi home with my son a few days ago. He happily got in with his schoolbag on his back. I didn\’t notice anything on the seat, so I followed him and sat in. \”Dad, look at my hands!\” His hands were full of colorful pink powder, covering the seat. The driver explained sheepishly, \”There was a man holding 99 blue enchantress flowers just now. It must be the gold powder sprinkled on them. I\’m very sorry!\” I saw that the child was a little nervous because there were a lot of them on his little hands. \”It\’s okay! This is not poisonous. The florist put it on the flowers. Dad will wash it for you when you get home later.\” He felt relieved, but still a little unhappy. \”I see you are really a dinosaur now. Look, you have grown little scales!\” \”Haha! Yes, I said last time that you would find me gold and silver jewelry to decorate me with. The scales, these are really sparkling.\” Just like that, he laughed happily. The driver also smiled in relief. Due to the recent rectification, drivers are worried about passengers\’ evaluations. If I had complained, I would have blamed the driver. What would be the consequences? I don\’t want to make too many assumptions. Because I don’t want my children to hear my complaints. Parents\’ non-complaining will make children feel the kindness and warmth of the world. I still remember that in May this year, there was a dragon boat race on the river near us. That day I took my son to see the preparations. But both sides of the river embankment have begun to be closed for management. But there are still some uncles and aunties climbing over the guardrails and getting in. When management arrived, they complained. He said that he usually exercises here, why can\’t he do it these days? They also complained that they were too much in the way, holding dragon boat races and blocking the road. I calmly pulled my son back. Tell him, \”There are many uncles preparing for the game by the river, so we won\’t go. Let\’s come back during the next game!\” \”Why do those grandmas quarrel with the police uncles!\” \”Because they don\’t follow the rules and disturb them. It’s my job as a police officer.” Suppose we encounter a traffic policeman on duty who slaps a ticket on our car for parking indiscriminately. Do you complain or accept it? There are really parents who are so angry that they kick the tires and complain angrily about the traffic police, saying that they are just trying to complete their tasks and that they are deliberately looking for trouble. There are also parents who complain constantly when waiting in line, and even take their children to jump in line. How can they teach their children well? I made a mistake, I missed the time, I came late, but I just didn\’t reflect on myself to see if it was my fault. Instead, it becomes a reason to complain and an excuse to break the rules. You do this while your child watches. Their values ​​are influenced bit by bit by their parents. I once saw a very touching story: a black taxi driver picked up a white mother and son. The child asked his mother: \”Why is the driver\’s uncle\’s skin different from ours?\” The mother smiled and replied: \”God created people of different colors in order to make the world colorful.\” When they arrived at the destination, the black driver refused to accept payment. He said: \”When I was a child, I asked my mother the same question, but my mother said that we were black. NoteDefinitely inferior to others. If she had given your answer, I might be a different person today… \”Everything we say is sowing different seeds. You treat the world with kindness and abide by the rules of this society. That will also teach your children to treat the world with kindness and abide by the rules. Parents\’ complaints will affect their children\’s emotional development. If you If you want to raise an emotionally stable child, you must first be emotionally stable. Instead of yelling and complaining because of a little stimulation. For example, taking your child out to the park. Suddenly it rains. You say: \”Really Damn it! This weather has ruined this weekend! Go, go, go back! \”Maybe you said it casually. But in fact, there is a kind of complaint in it, with your anger and dissatisfaction. Why can\’t you say: \”The park on a rainy day must have a different beauty! Let\’s go and see it together, we are so lucky! Let\’s take a walk in the park on a rainy day. \”At this time, the children can feel your optimism. They will also be in a good mood. If you encounter a traffic jam on the way to pick up the child home, you complain: \”It\’s really annoying. I\’m stuck in traffic every day. I have so many things to do. How can I finish it? \”Why can\’t you be more patient? We often say that we need to cultivate children\’s patience. This is the best opportunity. You can say to your children: \”There is a traffic jam, let\’s wait patiently!\” Why don\’t you tell me your story at school today. \”An optimistic and positive attitude is always more effective than complaining. Because complaining cannot solve any problems for us. On the contrary, positive emotions can allow us to face problems and solve them. Stable emotions are the best thing parents can give to their children. Gift. Complaining parents are a lifelong nightmare for their children. There is a type of parents who often blame others. This is especially true for their children. For example, they usually complain about their children\’s poor learning despite not caring about their children\’s studies. Either they blame the education system or the teachers, and they even blame other children, saying that they have brought up their children badly. They often say to their children: \”If I had to choose again, I would rather not get married. , I wish I didn’t have children, it just annoys me to death. \”Do you know why I often lose my temper?\” Just because you are disobedient, why can\’t you be better! \”If it weren\’t for giving birth to you, I would have divorced your father long ago. I can live better by myself!\” \”In this case, the impact on the child\’s heart is like a typhoon. Especially sensitive children, they will feel that it is themselves, so their parents are not happy, and they are the cause of this, which is unforgivable. So like this Children are prone to psychological problems in the future. They will take all responsibilities on themselves, as if they are the biggest trouble. Girls grow up, get married and have children. When encountering a domineering mother-in-law who bullies them, they will just swallow their anger and think that it is themselves. She is responsible for making her mother-in-law angry and causing discord in the family. Even if she is in pain inside, she will be willing to bear it. Psychologists analyze the psychological reason is that this type of people would rather make themselves miserable than let others Pain. Who caused it? Looking back on her growth experience, there is often a person standing behind herParents with mental illness. Another situation is the replication of parents’ psychological problems. Children also learn from their parents and put all responsibilities on others. He avoids problems and never dares to face them head on. In fact, if this kind of mental illness does not end here, it will really affect generations, creating a vicious cycle over and over again. Then take action, end it for yourself, and be a parent who doesn’t complain!