Family Affairs (in-depth and good article)

As the saying goes: \”Moral inheritance lasts for more than ten generations.\” What kind of moral inheritance can make a family or even a family more prosperous? Jin Ying, a scholar from the Qing Dynasty, wrote the best answer in his book \”Proverbs Lian Bi\”. A family that can maintain the following five family principles will have a hard time prospering. All Level 6 Longman children\’s English textbook tot talk electronic version whiteboard + teacher\’s book + student DVD + interactive software Diligence and thrift are the foundation of family management. In \”A Dream of Red Mansions\”, the Jia family is as rich as the rich, and they are relatives of the emperor, with huge money and power. But when it was passed down to future generations, the younger members of the family were greedy for pleasure and spent extremely extravagant and wasteful money on food and clothing, which eventually led to their decline. As the saying goes: if a person is diligent, he can make a fortune; if a person is extravagant, he will not be rich for long. Luxury is like a delicious poison that makes people fall in sweetness. Raising a luxurious descendant is enough to lead to the decline of the entire family. Only by staying diligent and frugal can we be content and cherish what we get. Zeng Guofan, an important official in the late Qing Dynasty, insisted on establishing himself with diligence and managing his family with frugality. He only had one dish for each meal, lived a very simple life, and never wasted or extravagant. Zeng Guofan also taught his family to be thrifty: in order to encourage his family to be thrifty, he stipulated that all female relatives in the family should spin cloth, even his own wife. In order to cultivate the habit of hard work in his children, he asked them to get up early and sweep the house, wipe the table, collect manure and hoe grass every day. It was by adhering to this family tradition of diligence and thrift that the Zeng Guofan family was able to take root and survive in that turbulent era. Zeng Guofan knew very well: It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. It is better to hand over the family property to them than to hand over their diligent and thrifty qualities. After all, only by knowing how to cherish can you be happy. Only by being diligent and frugal can you live a stable life. Harmony, the foundation of a harmonious family. Educator Kimura Kuichi said: The family should be a palace of love, joy and laughter. Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang\’s family have always been praised by the world, mostly because of their tolerant and harmonious family atmosphere. Once, the couple took their daughter Qian Yuan out to eat, but Qian Yuan always looked at the table next to her. It turned out that the couple at the next table were having a heated argument. After the argument, they looked at each other coldly and said nothing. Poor their children, they just sat there and looked at their parents with sad faces. Seeing this, Qian Yuan said to Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang: \”I think children of loving couples are very happy, so I am especially grateful to my parents for making me a happy child.\” \”Zhu Xi\’s Family Instructions\” says: \”Family family Harmonious, although the food is not good, there is still happiness.\” Life is a trivial life, with teeth touching tongue, pots and bowls touching spoons. No matter how close the relationship is, conflicts are inevitable. You might as well be more tolerant, care less, discuss big things and forgive small things. Only when a family respects, loves and lives in harmony can we overcome difficulties together and go a long way. As Yang Jiang wrote in \”We Three\”: \”We help each other and bear the difficulties together, and the difficulties are no longer difficult.\” \”No matter what is bitter and difficult, it can become sweet; with a little happiness, You will also become very happy.\” Prudence is the foundation of protecting the family. Life is like sailing on a big wave. If you are on the bow of the boat, if you are not careful, the boat will be destroyed and everyone will die. Many family turmoils come from imprudent choices. In the just-finished \”Golden Years\”, Jiang Nansun\’s father is like this. He is the only son of the Jiang family. He has a strong family fortune and excellent children, but he has neverDo things in a down-to-earth manner and have a \”gamble\” mentality in everything. When people reach middle age, they still take risks and choose to speculate in the stock market. As a result, they lose all their money and their lives collapse. It is in line with the old saying: \”Don\’t be ashamed of your parents if you keep your integrity, and don\’t harm your children and grandchildren if you are successful.\” If you don\’t follow the rules, it is your parents who will be ashamed. If you are not careful when starting a business, it will harm your descendants. Finally, he couldn\’t bear the pressure and jumped from the tall building. An originally happy family fell into an abyss after just one wrong step. There is a saying in \”Weilu Night Talk\”: \”A person who is responsible is a happy person, and there are few people who have no choice but to do their duty.\” Being responsible is a person\’s greatest wisdom. Don\’t be greedy, don\’t have delusional thoughts, and don\’t ask for a life that is beyond your reach. Only in this way can you have peace of mind and enjoy the blessings you deserve. So is a home. Be careful when sailing a ship that lasts for thousands of years. If you want to stay safe, there is nothing better than to act with caution. Thinking everything through, not taking your family\’s happiness as a bet, and not making risky choices is the best way to avoid disaster. Poems and books are the foundation of one’s career. For ordinary people, reading is the lowest threshold for nobility. For a family, there is no better habit than reading. Although studying is not the only way out, it is the fairest way. Fan Zhongyan came from a poor family and lost his father when he was two years old. He remarried with his mother and was ridiculed since he was a child, so he vowed to start his own business. From a poor boy with nothing to a famous minister, it was through reading that he changed his own destiny and that of his entire family. Fan Zhongyan specially wrote \”Instructions for Disciples\”, and talked about the importance of reading with sincerity: \”Don\’t be lazy in farming and reading, it is the foundation of a family; don\’t throw away writing paper, it is the treasure of the world.\” Once, his brother Fan Zhongwen came to ask Fan Zhongyan to give it to his family The child goes through the back door. Fan Zhongyan refused without even thinking about it, and only put forward two warnings: \”First, urge the children to study hard. They must study hard and study hard every day. They must not be allowed to muddle along and live in idleness.\” Second, let the children understand that only by successfully studying can they become officials and achieve success.\” This move may seem unkind, but it pointed out a clear path for the children of the Fan family. Under Fan Zhongyan\’s education, all the descendants of the Fan family made great progress in their studies. Most of their descendants became famous ministers and good ministers, becoming a good talker and respected by the world. Wealth and honor can only be passed down to three generations, but poetry and writing can last for a long time. Reading is not only the capital for a person\’s development, but also the driving force for the prosperity of a family. Loyalty and filial piety are the foundation of family inheritance. The ancient sages said: \”Parents are our greatest blessing.\” As the saying goes, you will reap what you sow. People who treat their parents better will have greater blessings and more favors. In a cultural forum, a lady asked this question: \”Teacher, my mother is not in good health. I am usually busy at work and have less time. I have to take care of both the children and my father; I want to give my mother a A nursing home with better conditions, okay?\” The teacher didn\’t answer and asked: \”Do you want your home to be well off? Do you want your children to be well off?\” The lady nodded. The teacher then said earnestly: \”If you can take good care of your parents, your children will be smart and worry-free, and all of them will be virtuous and filial descendants. In front of your children, treat the elderly with gentle words, that\’s good.\” Feed them well and feed them. When you prepare meals every day, tell your children to give them to your grandparents first.Think about it, the old man today is you tomorrow. When you get old, your children will also say, let your parents eat first, right? After saying that, the teacher sighed again: \”Many people go outside to find teachers to teach their children, but they don\’t know that a truly good teacher is their own words and deeds.\” \”The lady suddenly realized. There is a saying that goes well: If your parents are twelve taels, your children and grandchildren will give you a pound. Parents are the roots of a family. Only when the roots are well watered can they grow rich fruits. Parents should be filial to the elderly. , children will see him in their eyes and regard him as a role model. This is the \”father-shaped son\”. What kind of education there is, what kind of virtue will there be. In this way, passed down from generation to generation, the old people love their children, and the children respect their old people. Parents care about their children, children accompany their parents, and the family is harmonious and beautiful. This is the greatest blessing. ▽ There is a sentence in \”Life\’s First Lesson\”: \”Family tradition is not a textbook, not a classroom, not parents\’ instructions, not waving of sticks. But it is like air, with lasting penetrating power, and its influence is often better than other tangible education methods. \”A good tutoring style is a family\’s most valuable asset.