Faye Wong and Dou Jingtong: Good parents must first be good themselves

This year\’s Spring Festival Gala, I watched it in three days, for no other reason than to take care of my kids. When Na Ying and Faye Wong came on stage, they still felt like their eyes lit up. Na Ying is obviously older, and Faye Wong is no longer young, but as soon as they speak, it seems like time has returned to 20 years ago. The youth of our generation has their mark. Faye Wong attended the Spring Festival Gala, and her daughter Dou Jingtong posted a photo on Weibo, with a line underneath: \”Did you see, this is my mom, isn\’t she awesome?\” Through the screen, you can also feel her gushing and passionate emotions. Out of pride. This Weibo has made many mothers jealous. Over the years, Faye Wong\’s personal relationship has been criticized by some people, but she still maintains her own way of doing things, being wild and unrestrained. It stands to reason that her fame and complex emotions will have a great impact on her children, and their education will be affected to a certain extent. However, more than 20 years have passed and the eldest daughter Dou Jingtong has grown up. She has not become a troubled youth or decadent and gives up. Instead, she lives a real and peaceful life. Yes, in the eyes of outsiders, she may not be a perfect child in the standard sense, with her shortcomings and shortcomings, but she has found her own life and embarked on her own path. She can also be considered an enterprising person in the worldly sense. youth. What is particularly enviable is her relationship with her mother Faye Wong. The two are like mother and daughter, more like sisters. They support each other, appreciate each other, and do not interfere with each other. They are both close and loving. This kind of mother-daughter relationship is beyond the reach of many people. Some people say, how can we ordinary people compare with celebrities? They have money and leisure, and can provide the best conditions for their children. As for us, even though we try our best, we still can\’t keep up with them. I never like this kind of belittlement and shirking of responsibilities. Even though some differences are difficult to change, a good parent-child relationship cannot be established only by being rich and leisurely. The relationship between Faye Wong and Dou Jingtong is also the relationship between ordinary mothers and daughters. I think there are two reasons why they can form such a relationship. The first is Faye Wong\’s dedication to Dou Jingtong. She did everything an ordinary mother can do. Second, she lived out her life and set a good example for her daughter. She lived for herself first, not for her children. The second point is the most important, and it is also difficult for many ordinary parents to do. It is easy to ask for children, easy to pay for children, but difficult to be yourself, but if you can be a good parent, your children will generally be good. During the Spring Festival holiday, I met a distant relative. The parent-child relationship in his family gave me a deeper understanding of the relationship between parents and children. This relative has two children. The eldest daughter is in the first year of college and the younger daughter is in junior high school. The couple have been working in the city to support their two children\’s studies. The children see the hard work of their parents and are very considerate of their parents\’ hardships. However, the two children lack respect and love for their father, and they express disgust both inside and outside their words. In just a few hours of contact, I got a preliminary understanding of this relative. I always talk about how difficult it is for me in front of my children. The two children are not up to par, do not study well, and do not listen to the advice of adults. The children have long been annoyed by his nagging. After a long time, they will say, \”You just ask us to do whatever you want, what about you?\”? \”Look at himself again. After living for most of his life, he still can\’t control himself. He gets drunk when he drinks, makes trouble when he is drunk, and likes to take a sip. He has changed many jobs, but none of them lasts long. He has no skills and no diploma. , complained a lot but did little. Gradually, the three women in the family did not want to see him, which made him feel very uncomfortable. Such parents feel that they have given everything for their children, but the children do not appreciate it. Good parents are not Everything is for the children. As parents, they are first of all independent individuals, with their own lives, plans, and lives. Children are part of their lives, not all of them. Parents are the best frame of reference for their children. What kind of person your child will become does not require taking care of everything every day. Tang Monk will nag like a mantra and teach you step by step. Sometimes, you just need to be yourself, and your child will grow up like you. Faye Wong\’s \”free-range\” care, which seems to be indifferent, does not mean that she leaves her child alone, but treats her child as an independent individual. I will be myself, and you will be yourself, and everyone will live a happy life. Facts have proved that she The education is basically a success. Both daughters live a confident and free life. They may be unruly on the outside, but they are kind and calm on the inside. As parents, we all hope that our children will become dragons and our girls will become phoenixes, but please take care of yourself first and don’t take care of yourself. All your energy is focused on your children. In 2018, roll up your sleeves and work hard!