Finally there is a little guy who lets us learn to shake hands and make peace with the world

When Jay Chou\’s latest single \”Waiting for You After Class\” was released, he said: \”This song is a gift to myself and to my fans.\” However, attentive fans found that there was a sentence in it that stood out: \”Why didn\’t I study hard in the three years of high school?\” In fans\’ memories, the young man who sang \”I don\’t even know the answer to the test paper, it doesn\’t matter\” has not gone far, but outside of the song, he has already become the father of two children. This young man who once wrote songs to satirize paparazzi and even had physical conflicts with them. Shortly after his daughter \”Xiao Zhouzhou\” was born, he encountered a paparazzi following him on the street and unexpectedly gave him food. He sincerely said, \”Take it, I\’m embarrassed to stand here.\” After his son was born, he even gave up the rare Golden Melody Award ceremony and wrote on Facebook: \”Thank you to all fans and friends for your concern. It feels so special to accompany mother and son to watch the Golden Melody Awards.\” The young man who was so famous back then had already become soft and gentle inadvertently, and even became a little bit \”tacky\”: he began to pay attention to the child\’s excrement and peeing , will smile happily at being called \”daddy\”; will knelt down to observe her daughter\’s graffiti on the bathroom wall for a long time and post it on Weibo to show it; will lament the growth of her children and hope that she can personally take them to and from school. I hope they can stay with you when they grow up… It is said that the birth of children makes people more responsible. In addition, it will also make you slowly start to change inadvertently and reconcile with the world bit by bit. Even if you don\’t realize it. Such a soft little guy will make your heart soften and you will be willing to put away your edges and corners, and the years will be peaceful from now on. Some time ago, Han Han published a long article: \”Dropping out of school is a great failure and not worth learning.\” He finally admitted that this actually only proved that he was not good at a certain field and could only quit. Many years ago, he had been declaring and glad that he \”did not go to college.\” That stubborn young man wearing a racing suit, sharp-edged, and never giving in, quietly left the scene at some point, and was replaced by a middle-aged man who had a quiet life, and began to see people, things, and children from a father\’s perspective. When the number of people shouting \”national father-in-law\” became louder and louder on the Internet, he said a little shyly: He can not only hold a pen, but also a stick. Anyone who dares to snatch his daughter away without his permission will be ready. How about having your legs broken! No matter how cool a person is, he will be a little more nervous and a little less wise when facing his biological child. He is no longer the extreme young man who always uses inflammatory language to comment on life and criticize society. Accompanying his children has become the most important thing in his life, and being a loving father has also become an important life lesson for him. Fortunately, most of those who liked Han Han back then are now fathers and mothers. They understand George Han\’s transformation more. They said: I used to like the old Han Han, but now I like the current Han Han. When I returned home during the Chinese New Year, my old classmate Dabin asked everyone to have dinner with me. In the blink of an eye, the young teenagers became fathers and mothers. There were also many parents in the conversation topics.Short smokey smell. When Dabin was taking the college entrance examination, he wanted to go abroad. Unfortunately, by some mistake, the school he applied for was not accepted, so he had to go to a local university. Later, he applied for a graduate student in another place behind his parents\’ back. For this reason, he and his parents had to go to another place. Have a fight. In my impression, during those few years, he had been in conflict with his parents, wanting to be independent, free, free from restraints, and show off his individuality. I still remember that time, he said: \”I must go to other places! Stay away from home so that they don\’t care about me!\” At this time, while taking meat out of the steaming hot pot, he said: \”I am now , I don’t think about anything, I just want to make money for my son!” He also learned how to stew meat. In order to prove his skills, he took out his mobile phone and swiped through the photos to show everyone, “My son loves to eat very much! He said that dad’s skills are world-class. First! I said you will go to college at your doorstep from now on. If you want to eat, just call and dad will deliver it right away! Haha!\” A while ago, he took his parents on a self-driving trip to Changbai Mountain. I took various photos along the way and posted them on Moments. The smiles of the three generations put together look perfect. Only when you have a child do you understand that the control and nonsense of your parents in those years was all about love; only after you have a child do you realize that you have suddenly changed and become the person who loves to nag and worry; only after you have a child do you understand that what you were like back then Chicness, in the eyes of parents, is just willfulness and childishness; only when you have children do you understand that only living a real life is not a betrayal of youth;… When I went back to my hometown during the annual vacation last year, when I was packing my things, I accidentally saw the picture of myself in junior high school. I practiced writing, and one of the articles was called \”How to Cultivate a Scoundrel.\” I read it again and was surprised by myself at that time. The content is very simple. It is about our family of three traveling with my parents’ friends and their family. On the way, the other party\’s 3-year-old child wanted a toy in the window, but his parents refused to buy it. The child cried and refused to leave. In the end, the parents compromised and bought him the toy. At that time, when I saw such a scene, although I remained silent on the surface, I was so angry that I felt that some adults were not as good as me, a minor, in educating children! Don’t buy toys you don’t need! If he wants to cry, let him cry. If he doesn\’t get used to that problem! Otherwise, he will become a scoundrel. Let’s not talk about the writing style back then. Just by looking at the title, you can feel the dissatisfaction spilling out of the page. In the article, I also listed many examples to prove my point of view, which seems to be well-founded and extremely correct. What I couldn\’t understand at that time was not only this kind of \”indulgence\” towards children, but also the \”indulgence\” of many middle-aged women towards themselves. I don’t understand that they can discuss their children’s feces and urine without any scruples, that they can argue with vendors at the vegetable market for eight cents, that they can tolerate having no other pursuits in their lives except their husbands and children… Indeed, to this day, , some of my views at the time cannot be said to be wrong, but on the way forward, I no longer have the standard of \”absolutely correct\” in my mind. Even if it is a toy that you already have at home, it is okay to buy another one if the child is extremely eager for it and has no bad behavior; it is a rare opportunity to learn by yourself in front of the child who is waiting for food.Then give way, no suspense, no hesitation; raising a child is expensive and making money is not easy, so shopping around is a natural move and has nothing to do with being a philistine; while eating, I use my peripheral vision to observe not far away and sit on a small plastic basin A child who poops, this situation is not too normal… A child made me let go of my obsession and dislike, learn to be another person, and learn to make peace with life. And now I think about it, in order for us to move around the world with high spirits, the parents of the previous generation gave up many ideas and spent their entire lives in their seemingly mediocre lives. When the word \”greasy\” came up on the Internet a while ago, people panicked and quickly checked, fearing that they would be included in it and become the target of being disliked. And Cai Kangyong said: \”You always feel that your parents are out of date, but in fact they have seen everything you have seen, and you have not experienced what they have experienced.\” It may not be possible to leave your children behind and go to the gym to practice body curves. It’s no more fashionable than a woman who goes to the market to buy food without a face, and traveling around the world wearing bright clothes and angry horses is not necessarily more cool than giving up her dream of washing dishes and making soup. If you work hard for your family and children, even if you are a little greasy because of it, you still deserve to be respected and praised. Moreover, when we start to let go of ourselves and change our appearance, it may not be because we are greasy, but because we have someone we want to protect, so we give up the spring breeze and the quiet years, and choose to shield ourselves from the wind and rain and move forward with a heavy load. And finally there is a little guy who allows us to learn to make peace with the world.