For a good education, parents must speak well.

The math test papers were handed out, and Qianqian did very poorly this time. In the evening, her mother asked her: \”The teacher said in the group that the math test paper has been sent back, where is yours?\” Qianqian anxiously took out the test paper and showed it to her mother. Mom looked at the bright red 53 points on it, and her expression immediately changed: \”What books did you study? How did you get 53 points? Did you listen to the teacher? You couldn\’t even get a passing grade. Aren\’t you embarrassed? You Is your brain flooded?\” Her mother cursed her head and face. Qianqian stood motionless like a wooden figure. \”Look at how dead you are, why did I raise such a fool like you!\” Qianqian\’s tears began to fall in large drops, and her mother became even more angry, \”Are you still crying? Did I scold you wrongly? Did I wrong you? ?\” Mom excitedly threw Qianqian\’s test paper to the ground. She silently picked up the test paper and entered the room. Tears streamed down her face and she couldn\’t understand why her mother always lost her temper. She really wanted to be a good child who studied hard, but as her mother scolded her again and again, she became less and less interested in learning and often lost focus in class. She became more and more silent, and even less willing to talk to others. She also had terrible thoughts: It would be better to die than to be scolded every time. Weiwei also failed the test. When she handed her mother her English test paper, she said with shame: \”Mom, I\’m sorry, I didn\’t do well in the English test.\” Her mother took her daughter\’s test paper and read it carefully, \” It’s okay. The test is meant to check for omissions and fill in the gaps. It is just a test to help you find and solve problems. As long as you understand and remember what you don’t know, you will be better than before. There is one thing to remember, the same Don\’t make the mistake again next time.\” \”Oh.\” \”You\’d better correct the wrong questions in the wrong question book, analyze the reasons for the mistakes at the same time, and review the wrong question book frequently, so that you can avoid making mistakes next time.\” \”Okay.\” \”I believe you will learn every lesson well through your continuous efforts. Come on!\” \”Well, Mom, I will work hard!\” Weiwei nodded to her mother and entered the room happily. Doing homework. After another round of tests, Qianqian\’s scores were still at a low level. As for Weiwei, her English score has improved from the original 60 points to 79 points, and her scores in various subjects have also improved to varying degrees. Language has warmth. When parents educate their children, scolding them at every turn will make them feel like they are in the cold winter and make them even more hesitant to move forward. However, if they are tolerant and encouraged from time to time, they will be like a spring breeze and move forward bravely. Parents who don\’t talk well will slowly destroy a child. I have watched an educational short film called \”How Much Damage Can Verbal Violence Cause?\” The content in it is shocking. Maybe you have said some words to your own children: \”If you don\’t think it\’s embarrassing, I still think it\’s embarrassing!\” \”Just I’ve never seen anyone so stupid like you!” “Idiots are better than you!” “Look at other people’s children!” Six juvenile delinquents in Shenyang Detention Center told their stories. One of them, Zhang Qiang, said: “When I was 12 years old, When I was young, my parents divorced. My mother scolded me every day and often told me to die. She called me useless and useless, and never praised me. What she scolded me most was pig brain, pig brain, pig brain!\” Speaking of this, Zhang Qiang kept wiping tears. Several children talked about what hurt them the mostA few words: pig brain! waste! Just know how to eat! Shame on you! Everyone is better than you! Why don\’t you die! These violent words from parents have brought endless psychological trauma and shame to their children. In order to soothe and release their suppressed souls, they do not hesitate to resort to extreme behaviors to solve the problem. Research in trauma psychology shows that verbal abuse is tantamount to soul murder. How much harm can verbal violence cause? However, many parents are not aware of the dangers of violent language and believe that scolding their children is out of love. \”Hitting is for affection, scolding is for love\” has become a shield for most parents to commit violence. As everyone knows, for children, such violent language is devastation, even destruction! There is a question on Zhihu: \”How does it feel to be scolded by your parents so much that you want to commit suicide?\” This question has more than 3,000 followers and has been viewed more than 800,000 times. Almost all of the respondents under the question grew up being beaten, and every answer was a family tragedy. Almost everyone agreed that these experiences had a very negative impact on their personality development. Some of them have been depressed before, some are still depressed, some have come out on their own, and some can never get rid of their psychological baggage. Among them, one respondent said: \”The experience of being scolded to the point of wanting to commit suicide is not sad, but despair.\” Because of despair, this 14-year-old girl chose to commit suicide by jumping off a building. This is a piece of news I once saw: A 14-year-old girl in the third grade of junior high school was scolded by her parents for going home on Saturday night. She jumped from the 6th floor to her death in anger. The girl left a four-page suicide note before jumping off the building. The first three pages are obviously very emotional, with dozens of words \’go to hell\’ and \’why aren\’t you dead\’ written on one page. \”It is understood that the girl\’s parents have high expectations for her and often scold their children. The mother held her daughter\’s lifeless body and cried until she fainted several times. But what\’s the use of crying and regretting at this time? The parents have worked hard on themselves He raised a child, but he killed her with the sword of words. We adults still feel that \”a kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months.\” Let alone a child who is growing up and has an immature mind. Kill her A child often starts with his parents not speaking well. A survey of more than 1,000 minors by the Office of Comprehensive Management of the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China and the China Youth Research Center showed that 56.5% of children who have been scolded by their parents for a long time have bad tempers, 25.7% have low self-esteem, and 22.1% have low self-esteem. % Emotional numbness. Children who often grow up under the attack of their parents’ bad words, once they reach the point where they cannot bear it, they will either explode out of the hurt caused by their parents, become rebellious, and give up on themselves, like the six juvenile delinquents; or they will be burdened with energy, and become depressed and negative, like Qianqian, or in more serious cases, they may even develop suicidal tendencies or commit suicide, such as the girl in the third grade of junior high school who committed suicide by jumping off a building. No one likes to hear hurtful words, and children should not be the target of harsh words from their parents. Every child In the process of growing up, everyone hopes to be encouraged and praised by their parents. The affirmation from their parents is their biggest motivation to move forward. If parents love their children, they should be gentle to their children, learn to talk to them well, and set a positive example by setting an example. Set an example, kidChildren will learn to speak well, behave and do things well from their parents, and thus grow into an excellent person. The best education in a family is for parents to speak well to their children. Parents who speak well to their children will not only make the family bathe in the spring breeze, but also enable the children to have a positive and healthy personality.