For young children, this is a hundred times more important than learning knowledge.

Last weekend I took my three-year-old child to an early childhood education class. Early education for two- and three-year-old children is nothing more than a few children and their parents sitting in a classroom, with a girl who looks like a kindergarten teacher teaching in front. The content of the class is also as simple as singing, dancing and playing games. After all, the child is too young, so these are enough. There are mixed reviews about early childhood education classes, so I won’t comment too much here. In one of the creative thinking classes, the teacher took a drawing board and introduced in detail which animal on the drawing board lived where. For example, the teacher pointed to the monkey on the tree and said that monkeys live in trees. After the introduction, the teacher began to ask questions for the children to answer. The teacher asked: Does any child know who lives in the tree? After the teacher asked, several parents immediately responded accordingly. Two parents looked at their children quietly. It was obvious that the children were thinking carefully about the teacher\’s questions, but they just didn\’t know how to answer them. The other two parents leaned into their children\’s ears and gently repeated the teacher\’s question. After the parent prompted the question again, the child quickly answered that it was a monkey. There is another parent who is also the center of the topic I want to talk about today. As soon as the teacher finished asking the question, the mother anxiously said to her son sitting in front of her, \”Monkey, please tell me it\’s a monkey.\” I was a little dumbfounded at the time and didn\’t know what her purpose was. Answering questions just for the sake of answering them completely deprived the child of the right to think independently. After thinking about it carefully, I found that this is actually a common problem among many parents. I don’t want my children to be worse than others, and I don’t want my children to lose at the starting line. I only focus on the immediate results. They never realize that what children need more than grades, fame and fortune is independent thinking, good habits, and correct values. A colleague has a son who is in the third grade of elementary school. Every weekend, I must go to Chinese, Mathematics, and English tutoring classes, rain or shine, especially during winter and summer vacations. In my opinion, the age of elementary school should be the most innocent and innocent. Without the timidity of kindergarten and the heavy homework of junior high school and high school, it should be a good time to explore the world. At this age, more than half of parents send their children to academic remedial classes. Their reason is that they cannot let their children lose at the starting line and must lay a solid foundation. There are also one-third of parents who, although they do not provide their children with tutoring, have enrolled their children in a variety of interest classes, including English, piano, art, dance… everything. Parents\’ original intentions are good, for the good of their children, and for their children not to lose to others. In their view, competition in modern society is so fierce that only by not losing to others since childhood can they not be eliminated in the future. But everyone knows how effective these tutoring classes and interest classes are. How much can benefit children throughout their lives. For a person who we still call a child, whose cognition is not yet independent and whose values ​​have not yet been formed, shouldn\’t we help him develop good study and living habits, and teach him by words and deeds the polite rules for dealing with others? I have come into contact with some children, big and small, and most of them are very tired of tutoring classes. Of course, some people say that children are not yet fully capable of making their own choices, and often need parents to help them make choices.Of course, there are also a very small number of tutoring classes whose purpose is to help children develop good study habits. This requires parents to experience and judge for themselves. This does not mean that there is no need to attend tutoring classes, but it does mean that the original intention of choosing a tutoring class should be changed and that you should not only look at the immediate benefits. Children are still young and need to be cultivated and guided in many aspects. This should be the purpose of choosing tutoring classes. Interest classes are for cultivating children\’s skills and should also be aimed at children\’s interests. You might as well take your children to try several interest classes and let them choose what they are really willing to learn, rather than parents who think that learning this or that will make it easier for them to be in front of everyone in the future. Performance. Only if the child likes it can the interest last, and only if it lasts can the child benefit from it throughout his life. There is a ten-year-old girl in the neighbor\’s house, who is also at the age of elementary school. Every time I see her, she politely calls me \”Auntie\”. One time we met on the stairs, she was discussing with her father where to travel during the summer vacation. Seeing me, she still called Auntie enthusiastically and continued to discuss with her father. The ten-year-old made a list of options for his dad and analyzed the pros and cons of going there in the summer. Then she told his father where she thought it would be more appropriate. At that time, I sincerely admired this ten-year-old girl. Her abilities were something that I would never have had at the age of ten. Later I met her mother and chatted with her several times, and found that her mother was also a very thoughtful woman. According to her mother, they often took their children to travel to different places when their daughter was very young. They would list several places for their daughter to choose, and they would happily go wherever their daughter chose. Their daughter has never attended any tutoring classes, only one art class since she was three years old. She said that they have focused on letting children think about problems and make their own choices since they were young. In order for their children to have good living habits, the couple changed many of their previous bad habits and deliberately set a good example in front of their daughter. She didn\’t like to read at first, but she developed the habit of reading for half an hour every day since her child was born. When her child got older, he naturally became willing to read with her. What she said impressed me deeply. What is more important for children is not what they learn, but how they learn. We often say, \”It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish.\” This is also true in the education process of children. The cramming style of learning allows children to keep \”learning, learning, learning\”. In a short period of time, children have indeed learned a lot. , also won at the starting line. However, if good study habits are not developed and the awareness of active learning is not formed, parents who accompany their children to do homework will only become more tired and unable to do their best. When many parents of top academics introduce their experiences, they often say, \”We don\’t have much control over this child.\” This is really not a modest statement. If you cultivate good habits from an early age, your children will learn more easily, and parents will become more and more worry-free. . On the contrary, the child may become more and more tired of learning, and the parent-child relationship will become increasingly tense. For young children, developing habits is a hundred times more important than learning knowledge.