Forcing children to pursue high scores is a sign of mental retardation

Ladies and gentlemen, we Chinese have countless advantages. Among them, being good at taking exams, getting high scores, and even getting perfect scores are the hallmarks of our nation. Divide, divide, divide, the lifeblood of Chinese students. The educational philosophy of our country is to judge heroes based on test scores. The winner is a prince, the loser is a bandit. Those who score high in the exam are kings and are looked up to by everyone; those who fail in the exam are scumbags and are waited upon with fists and feet. Many of the \”elite generation\” who immigrated to the United States have inherited and carried forward the \”glorious tradition\” of Chinese education. They have brought forth new ideas with the thunderous momentum of high-scoring concepts, and will create a \”talent\” model with high scores and low abilities, and implant it into the academic studies of their children without hesitation. (blood), and continue to work hard to cultivate the same \”elite second generation\” in the United States. If you score high in the exam, you will be good-looking; if you fail in the exam, you will have a bad face, or simply lose face. One day, I met a friend in a store, and we kept talking about my business. Our conversation immediately turned to my children\’s school and academic situation. \”What kind of education method do we call this? It\’s too far behind. It can only be called free-range. Look at the Guo Fen I know, how strict he is with his son. All extracurricular activities that have nothing to do with study and exams are cut off. Time is Money and time are life. After school every day, I go home and do my homework. After Lan, I answer questions, answer questions, and answer questions again. Questions that my mother found, questions that my father found, questions that I searched online, and I repeat the questions again and again. \”Full marks are the basic requirement. I am not very good at studying. I am among the best in the International Science Olympiad. That is a top-notch person who overlooks all living beings,\” my friend said with envy. Guo Fen said, \”Our children born in the United States not only have to compete with the Chinese, but also with the elites around the world. How can we not work hard?\” After hearing this, I really felt sad for her friend\’s son. How unlucky do you have to be to be born as Guo Fen\’s son? When our children were in elementary school, we were also influenced by Guo Fen who tried to cultivate \”all-round talents\” and coerced and induced our children to learn piano that they had no interest in. Fortunately, we woke up early and stopped treating our children\’s growth arbitrarily like a arrogant and bossy tiger mother and dragon father. Instead, with an attitude of respect and understanding, we happily encourage and support children to spend time and energy exploring and following their dreams. Guo Fens may be very proud, very proud, and have a lot of face, because children who are cultivated as \”geniuses\” are like rabbits after school, like wild horses being chased by ferocious cheetahs, rushing non-stop to various off-campus battlefields arranged by their parents. No minutes were wasted casually. He is an \”obedient\” and \”obedient tiger\” who fights to the death to get high marks in the exams and rush into prestigious Ivy League schools with all kinds of dazzling projects. Chinese teenagers often come out on top in various science Olympiad competitions, but what about Nobel Prize winners? I really hope they can keep up the good work. I believe that people\’s intelligence level is the same as their appearance, and can be divided into high, average and average. If you are lucky enough to have a genius with extraordinary intelligence. Your Niuba has great ambitions and performs exceptionally well in every aspect. You will be able to get perfect scores in all subjects without any effort. You will also have the energy and time to develop and expand your hobbies and interests. You will have self-motivation and high IQ and EQ. You can choose any of the prestigious Ivy League schools.Word Be good! That is a blessing, a blessing for the Chinese people. The universe is so vast and filled with wonders. Someone in your ancestors saved the galaxy, so of course he deserves this reward from heaven. I won\’t say I\’m jealous (it\’s better to keep your contempt for me in your heart). But for most children whose intelligence level is within the normal range, including the two \”ordinary children\” in my family, blindly pursuing high scores or even perfect scores is a kind of eagerness for quick success that is completely contrary to the purpose of education. short-sighted behavior. Ignoring or simply eradicating children\’s interests and hobbies, disregarding children\’s different natures and characteristics, and depriving children of the space to grow freely is really a wanton trampling of children\’s body, mind, and soul, and a destruction of children\’s health and future. A mentally retarded behavior bordering on madness. Continuous learning and continuous growth should be the attitude that people should maintain throughout their lives. Studying to cope with exams, studying to go to a prestigious school or an Ivy League school, studying for fame and fortune, is a blinding of vision, which cannot last long and cannot go far. In addition to getting into a prestigious Ivy League school with high scores and perfect scores, there is also a more important thing to cultivate a child\’s sound personality. Becoming a Grateful Person I have been in the food truck business for many years and have traveled to many different cities in California. Every summer, a group of high school students are recruited locally to work. During the summer vacation, most of us Chinese parents are busy taking our children to travel, participating in various summer camps and talent classes, and making every effort to prepare and sprint for admission to prestigious Ivy League schools. These activities are very good. However, except for some far-sighted parents, many Chinese parents have no concept of letting their children endure hardship. They are reluctant to let their children work and train in the real world, and they cannot bear to see their children undergo any setbacks and pressures, both physically and mentally. Sons and daughters are all \”rich\”. In life, I try my best to take good care of my children and serve them attentively. There are not a few Chinese parents who truly do this and dote on their children without any regrets and \”unconditionally without asking for anything in return\”. It’s no wonder that children grow up in an environment where the only ultimate goal is to get perfect scores on high school exams and attend a prestigious school or an Ivy League school. They strive to satisfy their vanity and utilitarianism. After their children graduate from a prestigious school and become famous, their parents do not reward their children at all. Such cold-blooded actions with a heart of giving back will lead to disappointment, heartache, and heartbreak. I don\’t know, but we ourselves have devoted our whole life\’s efforts to create these exquisite egoists. Being polite and polite is the basic lesson for learning how to be a good person. When we were young, whenever guests came to our house, our parents would always ask us to come out and serve tea and water to greet the guests, and sometimes we would also chat with the guests. How to deal with people, human feelings, and world affairs are learned bit by bit from subtle influences. No matter where you meet your parents\’ friends or acquaintances, you must greet them politely. If you turn a blind eye or ignore them, you will definitely be scolded for being rude. Among the \”elite second generation\” who were born in the United States, many of them are the most powerful academics in school, but they have lost or disdain this Chinese etiquette. On many occasions, even if they meet face to face, they regard their parents\’ friends, acquaintances, and colleagues as nothing but air. \”If you don\’t learn etiquette, you can\’t stand up.\” My own two sons may not be able to show the courtesy they should have in situations where we can\’t see them. However, parents always remind and take the trouble toHeng Heng\’s teachings (sincere teachings are also acceptable) still play a very important role in giving instructions from ear to ear. This is part of emotional intelligence, and children must learn it. Cultivate children\’s sense of responsibility to \”honor their parents and love their neighbors as themselves.\” It is hard to imagine that a spoiled young man and a domineering son-in-law who has no idea how to understand his parents\’ hard work, and who can only open his mouth when eating, or stretch out his hands when wearing clothes, without touching his fingers, will suddenly burst out with a full sense of responsibility one day. To cultivate children\’s sense of responsibility, you don\’t have to go to Africa to aid refugees, or go to an animal shelter to bathe puppies (these activities are all good), and there are no complicated training routines. In fact, you just start helping parents share household chores at home. Start with small things. For high school students, they should not be left entirely to their parents to do all the work they can do, such as washing the dishes, taking out the trash, vacuuming each room regularly, keeping their own room tidy, mowing the lawn in the front and backyard, etc. Everyone has the responsibility for the family. share. At our house, the boss and his two sons take full responsibility for mowing the lawn, refueling the car, washing the car, and cleaning the interior of the car. My mother only drives the car and takes care of the logistics. For any work that is “dirty, messy, and bad”, it’s definitely a good idea to ask them to solve it. Even if my sons don’t have the aura of graduates from prestigious Ivy League schools in the future, I believe that they will be grown men who can lift things with their hands and carry them on their shoulders, have an independent thinking spirit, and have the courage to follow their dreams (it is a habit of mothers to always praise their sons. The trick must be kept in mind). Love is serving one another. Children, if we don’t put some thought and time into cultivating our children’s sense of responsibility today, then in the future we will have no reason to complain about our children’s egotism, laziness, and selfishness. It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. Parents should devote time and energy to caring about their children\’s learning process, fully understand their children\’s characteristics and nature, and apply what they have learned. Instead of just focusing entirely on the scores, work hard for high scores and perfect scores. Doing so will inevitably cause children to be forced to give up their hobbies, interests, and even dreams. Children\’s unique talents will have no time, energy, and opportunities to explore and cultivate. High scores and perfect scores were obtained, and the dazzling and mechanical list of superficial articles was enough to get a ticket to a prestigious Ivy League school. However, the child\’s self-motivation spirit, independent thinking quality, creativity and hobbies were ignored by many parents with the sanctity of love. Names were wiped out one by one. Perhaps more seriously, children have lost direction, motivation and hope in this boring and power-controlled life. Parents work hard to make their children successful. They are supposed to cultivate talents, but they may end up cultivating unhappy exam machines. This is why some \”elites\” who have great academic backgrounds and graduates from prestigious schools are likely to be brutally crushed by second-, third-rate, or even lower-rate school graduates after entering the workplace three to five years after graduation. Some \”stupid students\” enter the workplace, and even come from behind, they excel in many aspects and their momentum continues unabated. I believe that every child carries a unique code written by God and buries his or her own unique talent. It is impossible for everyone to do the same popular job. As parents, we have a particularly important task, which is to help our children discover and decipherThis unique password that belongs to the child allows the child to spend time and energy exploring and developing his or her own interests and hobbies (excluding addiction to online games, digging holes, etc.). What is success? It means doing the work you love for the rest of your life. For students to go to school and maintain competitive scores is a test of their own learning status and respect for themselves, teachers and parents. It is a matter of course. However, parents use extraordinary and perverted methods day and night to get high scores and rush to get into prestigious Ivy League schools. They force their children and distort their natural nature, just like our unique \”bonsai art\” in China, which looks wonderful and beautiful on the surface. There is cruelty behind it. It takes ten years to grow trees and a hundred years to cultivate people. What is more important than getting perfect scores, or going to a prestigious school or an Ivy League school, is the healthy growth of the child\’s body, mind, and soul. In order for your children to have a healthy, positive, and optimistic life, give them some opportunities to think independently and space for growth. Allow and help the \”elite second generation\” to discover themselves, expand themselves, and become themselves. Parents are their children\’s best teachers. How parents sow seeds will determine the kind of life their children will have. Postscript, Guo Fen is a pseudonym, please do not take it personally!