Fortunately, I was never absent during the first few years of my child’s life!

My boss is also my best friend, a trapeze artist. I often go to bed in New York at night and wake up in Tokyo in the morning, like a superwoman, full of fighting spirit. If pictures of two children hadn\’t often appeared in her circle of friends, I believe no one would have known that she was a mother of two. Less than a week after returning to Beijing, she told me that next month she planned to go to France for further study for three months. My first reaction was: What about your two children? She said, I am always away from home, and my children are used to it! It\’s only been three months since I left. The child\’s grandma and grandmother have taken him over, and there\’s a nanny at home, so everything is safe! Is it really foolproof? Her eldest son is only 4 years old and her youngest daughter is only 1 year old. Can the old man control her? The pink faces of two little people appeared in my mind. Seeing my thoughtful look, Superwoman actually said to me sincerely: Women cannot have a career and cannot give up the possibility of progress and growth. Children need role models in life more than the old woman who stays around the stove all day long! \”This statement is not wrong in itself. As a mother, we should pursue the realization of self-worth. But when we are running forward desperately, have we forgotten something? What about our parent-child relationship? Three months later, the female boss and best friend successfully continued her studies After returning home, her 4-year-old son also came to the company party. He was still the same boy with a brand-name look all over his body. When the nanny was there, he could eat quietly and play with his iPad. But after the nanny left, everything changed. Mom asked him to call someone, but he acted like he didn’t hear and didn’t even raise his eyelids. Instead, I called him and he responded. Mom wanted to interact with him, but he actually went straight to pat her. Dessert arrived. , he hugged her and refused to let go, and her mother calmly asked him to eat less. He immediately lost his temper, and at one point the situation was completely out of control. I know this is not the first time such a war has occurred in her house, but today I was at the scene. Seeing so many \”audiences\” only aroused his fighting power, so his crying became louder and louder. Seeing his best friend getting angry but unable to lose her temper, and at a loss what to do. I think, family love is thicker than water. Maybe we take it for granted. Once a woman becomes a mother, she has an additional identity. This identity, like your career and position, also needs to be managed. We must pay enough manpower and time costs to be worthy of it. He must have this identity. Never think that this identity has an extra layer of blood protection. Even if there is no business and it is vacant for a few years, I am still his mother and he is still my child. He must still be so close! The growth of a child is irreversible. , he will not wait for you to finish your work before coming back to be intimate with you. You will eventually lose the parent-child relationship if you neglect your duties and do nothing. Long Yingtai once said: Being a parent has an expiration date. Children are given by God. My gift, when you don’t cherish it, God will take back this sweet gift! Later, when I found an opportunity, I told my best friend. In fact, there is another thing I haven’t said: If the child is used to it With your absence, you are not important! What awaits you is his ignorance! My dear, how terrible this is! With a tired look on her face, she helplessly followedI said: \”Last time I had dinner with your son, why did he look so obedient? I see you take care of the child effortlessly. Unlike this naughty boy in my family, he is too naughty. I will never take him out alone again!\” \”I thought about it and told her firmly that it was actually not effortless, but we were working in different directions. You were on the plane all night long working on PPT, while I might have stayed up all night in the hospital watching over my sick child. You were sleeping in the office with all your clothes on. I might have been sleepy and fell asleep on the railing of the child\’s crib. You and others The meeting lasted until 2 o\’clock in the morning. Maybe this time period happened to be the time when I woke up to breastfeed~…… There is no right or wrong in trying hard, it is not easy for us! It’s just that I feel that spending time with my children day and night can only last for three to five years. I found that my best friend’s eyes were a little moist, as if she had taken off her armor for a long time and exhaled a long breath! Ask me, \”We were all workaholics before. Now you apply to work from home and your basic salary is halved. Are you disappointed?\” I said, \”Sometimes. But I am willing to adjust my work and pace for the sake of my children. I don\’t May the identity of mother be vacant.\” She asked again: Do you think it is a sacrifice? I said calmly: \”I never think of this as a sacrifice, and I don\’t need to explain my previous struggles. This is a choice I follow my heart, and it is the happiest way of life during this period. I don\’t I will give up my efforts, study, and work. Only when my children grow up can I return to my career decently. Of course, if one day I can no longer come back decently, I will not regret it. She asked, \”It\’s so tiring.\” Not tired? Of course. But, I would think, if a mother has never been unkempt, has never been nervous about the child\’s little problem, has never slept with her until she could fall asleep while standing, and has never been worried about I have tried various remedies after eating my child\’s meals, I have never rolled with him on the floor, I have never quarreled with anyone for him… How could you feel this? During the afternoon break, your 4-year-old child gently covers you How can you feel the warmth of the quilt? When a friend makes a joke and pats you, the little person immediately rushes in front of you and shouts to the other person: \”Why are you hitting my mother!\” \”Happiness? How can you feel how sweet it is to grow up with a child, the strongest love and an unbreakable relationship. I don\’t know if it is influenced by me. My best friend\’s boss began to consciously skip business trips. , and she spends more and more time in Beijing. As a result, I kept asking her on WeChat, if it was me who was holding you back in terms of promotion and salary increase and reaching the peak of your life? She answered firmly: Yes! I I was a little panicked, what should I do? She replied to me: No what to do! The boss has already delayed me. Fortunately, I have a sister. I want to experience the role of a mother in depth. I believe that only Shen Shen knows that the most tiring thing is Only by the bondage of others can you know what the most beautiful possession is! These words really hurt my teeth! They are more bitter than what I have said! But what does it matter? Who allowed us to have the most beautiful time in the world? .We still have something to be thankful for. Fortunately, our childrenWe have not been absent from these first few years of life!