Four characteristics of adolescent children!

The most obvious characteristic of adolescent children is egocentrism, which includes four major characteristics. 01 Virtual Audience Teenagers often feel that everyone is paying attention to them, as if there is an invisible audience observing his every move at any time. The existence of this virtual audience made him feel that he could not be ignored. When the reality is not what he imagined, he will fall into another extreme, feeling that he is ignored by everyone, as if adults treat him as nothing. In fact, this is just his psychological projection, a world constructed by himself. 02 Personal Myth: He believes that he is unique and cannot be understood by others. He imagines himself to be like Superman, unique and powerful. However, once reality breaks this illusion, his confidence will collapse instantly. That \”superman\” may fall into the mortal world at any time and become an ordinary person, confused and helpless. Sometimes like an adult, sometimes like a child. 03 Pretending to be stupid When faced with a problem, he often appears at a loss and always answers questions with \”I don\’t know,\” \”I don\’t know,\” or \”I haven\’t thought about it.\” This is not true ignorance, but a self-protection mechanism. He would rather play dumb than be given more responsibilities and expectations. If he doesn\’t pretend to be stupid, he may be pushed to the front and asked to do more. Therefore, he would rather let teachers and adults ignore him to avoid being \”troublesome\”. 04 Obvious Hypocrisy He may show great enthusiasm and friendliness to you, but then turn around and criticize you behind your back without hesitation. This seemingly contradictory behavior actually stems from his inner instability and contradiction. He is unable to face his true self, so he shows completely different faces in different situations. Even to the people closest to him, he may not tell the truth. The confusion and truth of adolescence: As adolescent children experience the transformation of egocentrism, on the one hand they desire independence and uniqueness, on the other hand they show contradictory behaviors because of their inner fragility and uncertainty. This growing pain often leaves parents and teachers confused and frustrated. However, understanding and tolerating these phenomena is the key to helping them pass this stage. We can\’t just look at the surface, we also need to understand their inner world with our heart, in order to truly help them find the direction of growth. \”A person can truly find himself only when he loses his self-centeredness.\” – Thomas Merton Does this sentence also make you feel something?