Four major misconceptions of parents during the three years of junior high school

The vision is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. We always yearn for beauty, but this yearning sometimes causes us to have misconceptions. I feel like everything is going in the direction I want. However, things often backfire! Let’s talk about a few misunderstandings so that everyone can prevent them as soon as possible. It is actually correct to think that children will definitely learn when they are in school. At least at our parents\’ age, when they are in school, they can still read and study seriously. But the current environment is not the same as it was 30 years ago. Now our students are exposed to all kinds of information, and there are too many factors other than study that interfere with it. The scary thing is that every student is exposed to different information. The school is like a big dye vat, and there is always something new that will steal the attention of our classmates. If they do not have good self-management skills, they may just go through the motions in class because their minds are not on learning. Therefore, we cannot take it for granted that children will definitely learn in school. Communicate with children and teachers as much as possible to understand their learning situation and status at school. You can ask your child what new knowledge they learned today, whether they encountered any problems they didn’t understand, or whether anything interesting happened with their classmates. Keep abreast of your children\’s learning status at school, cooperate with teachers in a timely manner, and walk on the right path. The reason for poor grades is because of playing with mobile phones. After every exam, when seeing the results, some parents’ first reaction is that their children have played too much on mobile phones. It is undeniable that excessive playing with mobile phones will have a certain impact on learning, but poor performance is not necessarily due to playing with mobile phones. There are many reasons for poor performance! It may be that you are not interested in the learning content and lack motivation to learn. It may also be that you have not mastered the learning method well and your learning efficiency is low. You may also have encountered some problems in school, such as having a bad relationship with your classmates, not adapting to the teacher\’s teaching methods, etc. . If you blindly attribute poor performance to playing with mobile phones without looking for the real reasons, it is easy for them who are already junior high school students to feel resentful. They may feel that their parents do not understand them, and thus are even more reluctant to communicate with their parents, which will only aggravate the problem. Therefore, it is best to look at the problem of children playing with mobile phones objectively. Playing too much with mobile phones is actually something that parents themselves have not managed well. If they set the time for playing with mobile phones every day from the beginning, prohibit playing with mobile phones during study time from the beginning, and stick to their own principles, how can there be such a thing as excessive playing with mobile phones? thing. If you don’t like to do homework, it’s because you are lazy. If you see your child not liking to do homework, you will think that the child is lazy. Actually, that may not be the reason! It may be that the difficulty of the homework is too difficult for him and he really doesn\’t know how to do it, so he has a fear of difficulty. They often encounter questions that they cannot solve, and cannot find any feeling of success, but only a sense of frustration, so how can they be interested in doing homework? Under such circumstances, parents should not criticize blindly, but should patiently help their children solve problems. Therefore, don’t always use a commanding tone to ask your children to do homework. Try to use encouragement and observe why they don’t like to do homework. Then, think of ways to let them feel the sense of accomplishment in completing their homework, so that they won’t need toNo more worrying about homework. There is definitely nothing wrong with my educational methods. Many parents are very confident in their own educational methods and think that what they do is for the good of their children, so there must be nothing wrong with it. Sometimes I even question the teacher’s educational methods! In fact, this is the same as questioning a firefighter putting out a fire. It is possible that the teacher no longer wants to take care of it… Everyone has their own personality characteristics and learning methods, and parents cannot educate based on experience. Especially as we grow older, we cannot always treat our children with the same educational methods. For example, when children are in elementary school, parents can provide more companionship and guidance, but in junior high school, children need more independence and autonomy, and parents must learn to let go appropriately. Therefore, at least in the three years of junior high school, home-school cooperation is still required! You must cooperate well with teachers and, if possible, understand the latest educational concepts and methods to help children successfully pass the three years of junior high school.