Getting along with adolescent children: Let them take action and study hard

Today is the last day, and my second daughter hasn’t finished her homework yet, hasn’t started writing her essay yet, and hasn’t finished the National Day homework paper left by her teacher. She said it was optional and she didn’t have to do it. We didn’t go out to play. We were at home during the National Day. On the first day, I asked me to do my homework because it was the first day of the National Day holiday and I needed to rest. The next day, I reminded her that she said she would make arrangements, but you don’t trust the child. On the third day, I didn\’t say anything and watched her play all day. On the fourth day, I warned her not to do her homework and not to look at her cell phone. She said I threatened her. On the fifth day, I started writing a little and then went to read. I said school would start soon. What should you do with your homework? She said there was very little homework and she would finish it in one day tomorrow. On the sixth day, I reminded her that the composition needed to be conceived in the morning and written in the afternoon. I didn\’t write a word until I went to bed at night. 02 I have always given love and freedom and have not cared much about my second daughter. Now she is in fifth grade and is too lazy to do anything. If she doesn\’t take action, let it go, and she pokes at my weak spots. If you don\’t eat, drink and have fun in bed, the fracture will be justified. I said, you are a white-eyed wolf, you don’t know how to feel sorry for your mother. She said, you don’t feel sorry for your children, and you don’t care about their health, so you just want to urge them to study, and you only care about learning. In such a relaxed atmosphere, I almost don\’t care about studying. I remind her occasionally and say that I only care about studying. Everyone\’s life is created and chosen by themselves. She would rather be bored than study, and would rather be criticized by the teacher than be too lazy to act. My current task is to push children to take action. At least I tried and worked hard, and I really can’t understand it, so I have no regrets. Every child encounters different difficulties in learning. Sometimes it’s not that the child is stupid or that he’s not good at it. The second daughter herself said that her problem is just one word: laziness. Nowadays, children don’t have to worry about eating or drinking. They especially don’t see the hard work of their parents and think that work is just for play. She said that her father goes to work to play on the computer and comes home to play on his mobile phone. You adults play every day but don\’t care about your children\’s studies. She said that what a mother does is to chat with others. You live a very comfortable life, but let your children study. The key is what\’s the use of studying. 03 I said do you have any hobbies? She said that she would raise cats and dogs when she grew up. She often looked up the knowledge about cats and dogs. Then how do you feed your pets? My family doesn\’t allow them. You need to buy a house or rent a house. Do these require money? She said yes. Do cats and dogs need to be fed or taken care of? Does raising them require money? She said they all do. Do you need money to live on your own? She said yes. I said, when you turn 18 and become an adult, you are completely responsible for your own life. Look at the big tree outside our window. We planted a tree ten years ago, or now. Is there anything wrong with you studying hard now and having more choices for your future life? Finally, it made sense, saying that you have to study hard and have pets in the future, so you have to work hard and start doing your homework. Let your children take action first. In the process of doing it, they can build up their self-confidence and know how much their potential is. In modern society, in an era of extremely abundant materials, children don’t have to worry about food and drink, so how can they find motivation to learn. Therefore, children have no motivation and can only be pushed by their parents. Let\’s take it one day at a time. There are too many parenting concepts on the Internet now, and there are also many experts who support lying flat. I have previously written an article about children’s learningNo, if you take your children to travel and study at the same time, you won’t have to endure the hardships of study and the hardships of society. At present, there is no better way or better choice. I still hope that my children will endure the hardship of learning. Regardless of whether you can learn or not, take action first and learn.