Girls who have really seen the world are like this. These three types cannot be missing.

Only when you raise a son can you know the kindness of your parents, and only when you raise a daughter can you know the dangers of the world. Having a daughter seems to have a weakness. We must become her armor, protect her and give her strength. Australian writer Steve wrote in the book \”Raising Girls\”: Girls\’ living space has become more and more complicated and full of crises. Their future is destined to be richer and more difficult than ours. The mission of parents is to raise a girl who is strong, independent and determined. The world is dangerous and people\’s hearts are unpredictable. Only by showing her the world can she have the ability to withstand the wind and rain. If you have a daughter at home, you must bring her to see these three worlds. See the world of life. When I was an editor, there were two interns in our department. Xiaoxi is lively and cheerful, and can greet others calmly and generously when meeting. She has successfully integrated with the team just two months after arriving. An\’an has a relatively introverted and calm personality and doesn\’t like to deal with people. Whenever she needs to contact another department, she is particularly resistant. Once we had a mission to interview an American artist, and I took them with me. When he arrived at the scene, Xiaoxi said hello and took out the handmade products he had prepared in advance as gifts. But An An stood aside timidly, not daring to talk easily. Even though I stood by and let her take advantage of the opportunity, she remained nervous and silent. In the end, Xiaoxi completed the interview task alone. I also exchanged contact information with the artist and said that I would take him to visit Beijing together next time. Xiao Xi and An An have different auras when they are together. Xiao Xi is confident and generous, while An An is shy and shy. At first I thought it was due to personality differences, but later I realized that the difference between the two lies in their exposure to the world. They are similar in age and have similar family conditions. However, An An\’s parents\’ education model was very conservative. From childhood to adulthood, they did not allow her to be distracted by anything except studying. She was fine in school, but as soon as she stepped out of society, all kinds of interpersonal and communication problems appeared, making her a little unable to accept them. Although Xiaoxi\’s parents have average family conditions, they always find ways to take her out to see the world. Museums are the soul of a city. Every time I travel with my parents, we must visit the museum first. Her parents will try their best to create opportunities for her to get in touch with society. While volunteering, she gained an understanding of kindness. When she went on an outing, she felt more in awe of nature. When socializing, she gained an understanding of interpersonal relationships. The so-called raising a daughter from a wealthy family does not mean giving her generous living conditions, but taking her to experience the world. It is better to let her walk in nature for a day than to take a hundred aesthetics lessons. Instead of teaching architectural design for a hundred hours, let her touch a few ancient cities. Let her get her pants dirty in the market instead of telling her the skills of literary writing a hundred times. The world of life is hidden in firewood, rice, oil, salt, steel and soil. Only when parents take their daughters to see the world can their daughters become more knowledgeable. See the emotional world. Which kind of girl is most likely to be emotionally hurt? A girl who has never seen the world. When watching \”Ode to Joy\”, the character I felt most distressed for was Fan Shengmei. She is talented and beautiful, has a good figure, and has high emotional intelligence. She seems to be able to move among all kinds of men with ease. But once he falls in love, he becomes less like himself. And Qu Xiaoxiao’s brotherWhen brother Qu Lianjie was in love, Qu Xiaoxiao reminded her more than once that Qu Lianjie was just playing for fun, but Fan Shengmei didn\’t believe it. During the relationship, Qu Lianjie took her to various high-end occasions, bought her luxury bags, and took her to travel around the world. As smart and shrewd as she is, she fell into the trap of a scumbag step by step. As expected, Qu Lianjie finally dumped her without mercy. She was lying on the bed alone, crying so sadly. What is the tragedy of this relationship? Some people said it was because she was greedy and wanted to marry a rich second generation; some people said she was stupid and couldn\’t tell the difference between sincerity and hypocrisy. But when I saw her original family, I realized that this was because she had lacked love since she was a child. Her father and mother didn\’t care about her at all, and her brother was like a vampire who needed her constant \”supply\”. There is a view in psychology: A daughter\’s desire for father\’s love is like a hungry beast suddenly walking into the sheepfold. Therefore, women who lack the care of their fathers are more likely to make mistakes when choosing a partner, are more likely to be confused by some superficial relationships, and are more likely to be deceived by some men who offer small profits. Therefore, Fan Shengmei, who is extremely insecure in her relationship, will naturally take it as love whenever she sees a man showing more attentiveness and devotion to her. As a girl grows up, choosing a spouse can be regarded as a big gamble. If you win the bet, you will win the rest of your life, but if you lose the bet, you will have to pay for the first half of your life. As a father, he must teach her the firmness to be loved and the ability to distinguish love from an early age. Because I feel loved, I don\’t feel like I have to meet an ordinary man when I meet him. Because I have the ability to distinguish love, I understand that doing what is said is always more important than saying what is said in love, so that you will not be eaten up by sweet words. The love between parents is the first emotional experience in life for a daughter. In a family where parents love each other, daughters will understand love better. About growth. A few days ago, I watched a very meaningful film about women called \”Education\”. 16-year-old Jenny is a beautiful and lively little girl who studies in a girls\’ school in the UK. With excellent grades, she was originally a \”seeded candidate\” at Oxford University, and the teachers at the school had high expectations for her. Jenny is not a nerd. She loves art and romance. She is eager to go to college so that she can wear gorgeous dresses and attend various high-end concerts in the future. By chance, she met David, a handsome, wealthy, funny and gentlemanly man. The two hit it off and quickly fell in love. David took Jenny into a new world, visiting high-end restaurants, musical theaters, and art auctions. With the feasting and feasting, Jenny seems to have found a \”shortcut\” to her ideal life. Indulging in love and fantasy, Jenny\’s grades plummeted. The English teacher persuaded her earnestly, and she retorted confidently: Even if you graduate from Cambridge University, you will not end up in this ordinary middle school, being an ordinary teacher, correcting students\’ boring and empty compositions every day. And now I can live a good life without studying, so why should I work so hard? The principal warned Jenny many times that she would be expelled if she continued like this. Jenny did not hesitate and chose to drop out of school. Going to college is like a journey for JennyA single-plank bridge to an ideal life, but the boring learning process made him feel bored. David is undoubtedly a springboard. As long as you fall into his arms, your ideal life will be within reach. Jenny gave up her studies and chose marriage. However, just the night before their wedding, Jenny discovered that David was not only married, but also had a child. The angry Jenny broke off the relationship with David, but at this time she not only lost her relationship, but also her studies. Fortunately, at the critical moment in life, the English teacher appeared in time. Jenny came to her house and saw that although the decoration in the house was simple, the piano, books, paintings, and coffee machine made the house very artistic. Only then did she suddenly realize that the art she was pursuing was just a superficial label, and the real art was to blend into it. After losing her impatience, Jenny returned to school with the help of her teacher, and finally got the admission notice from Oxford University through her own efforts. Like Jenny, many girls may encounter various temptations while growing up. Perhaps youth can be exchanged for special care, and beauty can be exchanged for short-term wealth, but years are easy to grow old and appearance is easy to fade. No one can be your backer, everyone’s final destination is themselves. Therefore, the only thing a girl cannot give up in this life is growth. No matter how busy you are, you must find time to study, and no matter how rich you are, you must have a job. Maybe you can become Fan Bingbing overnight, but you cannot become Lin Huiyin overnight. What is the best state of a girl? Like a child in the sun, like an adult in the wind and rain. After seeing the cruelty of life, he still remains curious about the world. After seeing the world of life, she can enjoy the best and accept the worst. After seeing the world of love, she has the ability to love and the confidence to be loved. After seeing the world of growth, she has the motivation to improve and the courage to work hard. The older I get, the more I feel that the competition in the adult world is really cruel, not only in the obvious competition of identity and background, but also in the secret competition of knowledge and accomplishment. As parents, we may only be able to provide them with ordinary family conditions despite our best efforts, but our vision and cultivation may be shaped slowly from an early age. The ideal daughter\’s best look is probably like this: Confidence overflowing on her face, kindness rooted in her heart, strength integrated into her bones and blood, and strength engraved in her life. Finally, I would like to share with you a passage written by the writer Liu Yu for her daughter: \”May you have good luck, if not, may you learn compassion in misfortune. May you be loved by many people, if not, may you learn tolerance in loneliness. . I hope you can sleep until you wake up naturally every day for the rest of your life.\” I hope that every girl will be treated gently by life.