Good parents don’t cry about poverty or show off their wealth.

A few nights ago, Xiao Xiaoyu was drawing carefully with a pen on the table in the living room after dinner. I was still reciting numbers there, counting \”tens, hundreds, millions…\” I went over and took a look, and it turned out that I was writing numbers in small boxes, with a 1 in the front and a bunch of 0s in the back. I asked him why? \”Dad, this is the money I painted, and it will be given to poor children!\” I felt strange at this time, why did I say this? Thinking about it, it must be related to the charity sale some time ago. He may have heard the teacher at the school mention the kindergarten in the mountainous area that he wanted to donate to. Because during that time, there was always a voice in the kindergarten saying, \”Everyone should give love to help the children in the mountainous areas and help them realize their dreams. You should also cherish your own life. How happy you are!\” To be honest, at first, It sounds like nothing, but if you think about it carefully, what kind of feeling will such a comparison make in the children\’s hearts? My son’s words just confirmed my worries. At that time, I asked him, \”Which children do you think need your help?\” \”They are the children whose families are poor!\” \”How do you know they are poor? Did the teachers mention it during the last charity sale?\” \”Yes!\” \”Dad thinks it\’s great that you can think of helping others! But, do you think our family is poor?\” \”Not poor!\” He heard my unexpected question, thought for a moment and replied. \”Then our family is rich?\” \”Yes!\” \”No! In fact, our family is neither rich nor poor.\” My son looked at me, waiting for the answer. \”We are an ordinary family, and you are an ordinary child. You are neither a rich child nor a poor child. The children in the mountainous area you mentioned are also ordinary children. Like you, they are neither rich nor wealthy. , are not poor, you are all the same.\” \”What about adults? Is it the same?\” \”You are right, adults are indeed different, because some adults are very lazy, and if they don\’t work, they will become poor. So. You see, mom and dad have to work hard, and you have to study hard, and you will be good in the future.\” At this time, the little guy nodded. There will always be a period when every child begins to form his or her own view of money. Parents\’ attitudes and behaviors often have a huge impact. There are many parents who want to stimulate their children\’s ambition. He deliberately said that his family\’s situation was very bad and he was still crying about poverty. I hope that my children can study hard, get into a good school, and then find a good job, so that the whole family can live a good life. Or they always tell their children that the family spends a lot of money on studying, which is squeezed out by their parents like toothpaste. Such children will carry this baggage throughout their lives. Not only does it cause a deep sense of inferiority in the child, but it also makes it impossible for adults to get rid of it. I have a friend who had enough down payment on hand a few years ago. Many people told him that they could buy a house, but he said they had to pay it off in one lump sum. I don’t want to be burdened with monthly mortgage payments. What did he ask? He said that when he was a child, he always saw his parents saying that his family was in debt. On New Year\’s Eve, my father would hide outside and would not dare to go home until late at night. At that time, what he heard most was his mother\’s complaints. \”Why is our family so poor?There is no unpaid debt. \”So he vowed not to go into debt no matter what. Just when he was hesitating, house prices rose a lot. When he finally thought about taking action, he was restricted from buying again. Now he regrets it all the time. What really affects our lives is not only our own efforts and environment, but also closely related to our own growing experience. Making children feel that they are \”rich\” may not necessarily be a good thing. Moreover, in real life, many children are… Parents are artificially packaged as the second generation of rich people. In an ordinary family, the children\’s clothes and shoes must be from top brands. Living expenses and training expenses take up more than half of the family\’s income. Some parents even borrow money to support their children. The whole family is cutting back on food and clothing. As a result, they will only breed lazy parasites. There is a family in my hometown who got a son in middle age, and naturally he became the baby of the whole family. He has two sisters, one after another. Married. When he was a child, his sisters would always bring him clothes and snacks when they came home. If he didn’t bring them, his parents would blow his nose and stare. Later, the boy who grew up in the honey pot was admitted to a vocational middle school in the county. The sisters said This vocational middle school is just for dawdling, so it\’s better not to go to it. But my younger brother insists on going to it. He also said that his parents are partial and sent his sister to college instead of sending himself to a vocational middle school. In the end, he could only be sent to it, but there were still conditions. Ah! He had to buy a complete set of Apple equipment. He said it would be shameless to go there to study. He also had to go to all the famous brand stores in the county to buy a complete set of clothes and shoes. At that time, my father was already in his 60s, and every month It was only a salary of one or two thousand. In the end, the pressure fell on my sister. After graduating from a vocational high school a few years ago, he started messing around outside. A few years ago, he said he wanted to buy a house, but he married his girlfriend because she wanted a house. As a result, the old father I begged my daughters for help, saying that I couldn’t let my brother become a bachelor! But this was not a small sum. In the end, I sold everything I could in the house, paid him a down payment, and agreed that he would make monthly payments on his own. But within half a year, he lost it again. Work. Every time I see his father, he will tell us, \”My son is so impressive!\” I bought a house in the city and am a manager of a big company. Remember to go play! \”Seeing the heavy burden on his shoulders and his tanned and bright face. I felt a little sad. What kind of money concept do we need to cultivate in our children? I think we should let our children understand \”poverty\” \”Wealthy equality, self-reliance\” is very important. The first one is mutual respect in concept. You can\’t be arrogant to the poor just because their conditions are good, nor can you be dejected because your life is unsatisfactory. So don\’t bring the utilitarian standards in the adult world to your children. Let your children understand that they are ordinary children, and there is no distinction between rich and poor children. Moreover, everything in the future will have to be worked hard by yourself, but now your parents can ensure that you study and live with peace of mind. Of course, you must understand Self-renewal may be a bit difficult. But we can train our children\’s independence from an early age. Why not let him do things he can do by himself? This is called responsibility! And why do you say that the money you have earned through hard work is just for him? ? This is called taking responsibility! As the saying goes: \”Look at the seedlings when the tree is big, and look at the small when the people are big.\” Don\’t think that there are some truths that children will understand when they grow up. I\’m afraid there are some thingsIt has been ingrained in their bones since childhood and cannot be scratched off when they grow up, such as laziness and greed. And these, accompanied by poverty, will sooner or later destroy a person and a family. So when your children ask about rich or poor, don\’t ignore it, but talk about it. Good parents neither cry about poverty nor show off their wealth. Because crying about poverty cannot increase children\’s efforts. Showing off wealth cannot give children true inner confidence and abundance. What your children actually need is your hard work and your attitude of not complaining or being inflated when facing rich or poor. Because, every child will eventually have the shadow of his parents.