Guide children how to express their emotions and feelings

It is normal for people to have emotions. What is important is how to express their emotions appropriately. It is necessary for children to learn the correct way to express emotions, know how to live in harmony with others, understand teachers, be considerate of others, resolve conflicts, cultivate children\’s self-service ability, and lay the foundation for adapting to school life as soon as possible. Emotional expression ability refers to the ability to correctly express one\’s emotions in interpersonal interaction situations. Humans have four basic emotions, namely joy, anger, sadness, and fear. Joy, joy, rejoicing; anger, anger, anger; sorrow, sadness, sadness; fear, fear, anxiety. Emotions are neither good nor bad, but they can be divided into two types: positive emotions and negative emotions. Behaviors caused by emotions can be divided into good and bad, and the consequences of actions can also be divided into good and bad. I want a toy, but my mother doesn’t buy it, and I get angry. This is not wrong; but if I get angry and kick other people’s toys or my mother, this is wrong behavior. Emotional management is not about letting people eliminate emotions, but to channelize them. There is no need to eliminate some emotions. After they occur, find ways to take rational actions to avoid bad consequences. 01 Negative emotions cannot be suppressed, but should be channeled. When children grow up, if they have negative emotions, they will naturally express them in an aggressive and instinctive way. Parents and teachers certainly do not allow children to express their emotions in an aggressive way. However, if parents or teachers lack the concept that emotions and emotional expressions are two different phenomena, they will also criticize their children’s negative emotions when they criticize their emotional expressions, causing children to mistakenly believe that people should not have negative emotions. Emotional. In this case, once negative emotions arise, children tend to suppress them and dare not express them. Teach children how to adjust their mentality and handle emotions correctly. On the surface, children may seem to have no negative emotions, but once their emotional level approaches or exceeds the warning line, they may adopt extreme ways of expressing and explaining themselves because they are unable to control them, causing indelible harm and pain. If you blindly suppress emotions subjectively, when they accumulate to a certain extent, the emotions themselves will definitely find a person\’s weakest place to vent, and by then the problems that may be caused will be bigger and more out of control. Psychology tells us that a person\’s inner consciousness and outer performance may sometimes be exactly the opposite. This explains why some people seem to be very easy-going, but they may not be so in their hearts; or that he may not necessarily agree with the easy-going attitude he shows, and once something touches his nerves, he may be irritated. Clinical research in psychology has found that people who often suppress their emotions are 70% more likely to develop cancer than those who are good at expressing their emotions. Therefore, if a person\’s emotions can only come in and out, this person will explode sooner or later. Suppressing sadness and crying for a long time can easily cause respiratory system diseases; suppressing anger can easily lead to cardiovascular diseases; among patients with chronic diseases, the proportion of suppressors accounts for 30%-50%, and not expressing emotions will accelerate the worsening of the disease. A person\’s suppressed emotions will manifest themselves in two ways: inward attacks and outward attacks. If you attack inward, you will suffer from self-blame, depression, and in severe cases, suicide; if you attack outward, you will show symptoms ofHe has a bad temper and attacks others. In severe cases, he may attack society and innocent people. 02 Guide children to learn to express emotions Regarding the issue of emotions, how should we guide children of this age? Parents can improve their children\’s emotional quality by cultivating their children\’s aesthetics, cultivate their children\’s humanistic qualities of integrating knowledge with action and being courteous to others, so that children can learn self-acceptance and self-appreciation, and then learn to appreciate others. Pay attention to the child\’s emotional and emotional development during the game, pay attention to the child\’s ability to express emotions, and guide him to learn to express and regulate his emotions. In addition, the following specific strategies can be used: 1. Leave a punching bag at home. When children enter elementary school, the tasks, lifestyles and interpersonal relationships they face have undergone major changes, which may bring major changes to the children\’s emotions. Sometimes, children have some emotions that they cannot express outside, so they need to be given a \”punching bag\” at home – someone left to \”bully\” the child. Just imagine, the child is under a lot of pressure at school, and the parents are very strict when they come home. If the child is holding back outside, he will still hold it back when he comes home. Sooner or later, problems will arise. Therefore, no matter how powerful the parents are, there must be someone who deliberately leaves the child to \”bully\” so that the child can have someone to talk to and vent to. If a child loses his temper at his parents, it means he regards his parents as the closest people in his life, and the parents can enjoy themselves secretly. During the period when the child is adjusting to school, parents must not suppress the child when he loses his temper, and do not let him suppress it, otherwise the child may develop psychological problems. 2. Allowing children to cry is a manifestation of human physiological emotions and a way to express feelings. When a person is born, he cries first, and crying comes before laughing. Crying is a person\’s earliest weapon, and it is often an outward expression of extreme inner pain. For the children themselves, crying is a \”free weapon\” for self-protection and can be shown at any time. It is completely a kind of venting, and people may feel better after crying. Crying can have a positive psychological effect, which can relieve people\’s bad emotions and reduce the pain caused by some kind of injury or pressure. Therefore, parents should allow their children to cry during the period when they enter school and vent their bad emotions with tears. 3. Find channels for venting. When children are emotional, it is best to find channels for venting, such as eating, shopping, crying, finding someone to talk to… You can also transform emotions into words, sounds, movements, etc. to vent them, for example, Lock yourself in a small room and shout a few times, beat stuffed animals, pillows or clothes…as long as it doesn\’t affect others. Or seek professional support to fundamentally solve the problem. Especially when children face some major losses, they will inevitably have some sadness and multi-layered emotions. Remember, the more a person is able to accept and express emotions, the less depressed he or she will be. The most terrifying thing is to remain silent, sullen, and endure. The result is either hurting yourself or innocent people. The human mind is like a container. If the accumulated emotions are not released, the container will explode sooner or later. It is strongly recommended that you find a safe environment for your child and allow him to express his emotions to safe people. 4. Respect children’s emotional expressions. We must learn to respect children’s emotional expressions, because we don’tIt was him who couldn\’t feel the sadness, anger or disappointment he felt at that time. To allow children to fully express their emotions, you must not deny them without waiting for them to finish speaking. Otherwise, sooner or later, the suppressed emotions will erupt like a volcano, and I am afraid that the situation will be even more uncontrollable by then.