Guide children to learn to share appropriately

Humility is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and learning to share is also an important quality and ability that children need to cultivate in the socialization process. Children\’s sharing behavior not only promotes the development of their social skills and cooperative abilities, but also plays a positive role in cultivating their empathy, sense of responsibility, and awareness of fairness. However, in the process of guiding children to establish a sense of sharing, they must also follow the children\’s psychological characteristics and growth patterns. Parents and teachers need to master scientific concepts and methods to avoid children\’s behaviors of being forced to share, not sharing, or oversharing. These All are not conducive to the development of children\’s prosocial behavior. Follow psychological laws and give children a sense of security and belonging. Only by understanding the psychological characteristics of children, respecting the rules of children\’s development, and providing scientific guidance can we cultivate children\’s correct awareness and habits of sharing. First, understand how sharing behavior relates to age. Child psychologist Jean Piaget believed that the development of children\’s sharing behavior before the age of 7 has the following characteristics: In the first year of life, babies have no concept of \”I\”, let alone a sense of property rights, even if the things in their hands are He won\’t cry even if someone takes him away. Children aged 1 to 2 years old are still unable to distinguish the boundaries between \”yours\” and \”mine\” and may snatch items from others. At this time, it is necessary to understand the child\’s behavior and provide correct guidance. The self-awareness of 2-3-year-old children begins to sprout and they enter a sensitive period of property rights. They will think that \”my things belong to me and others cannot touch them.\” At this stage, parents are best not to force their children to share or \”give in to the younger ones.\” Otherwise, not only will the educational purpose fail to be achieved, but it will also be conducive to the establishment of children\’s sense of security and may even increase conflicts among children. Children aged 3-4 years begin to be willing to exchange and share. The concept of sharing among 4-5 year old children begins to gradually increase. The sharing behavior of children aged 5-6 has made the most significant progress, and most of them can share \”generously\”. The prosocial behavior of children over 6 years old is developing in a more advanced direction, and sharing is no longer limited to items, but can also share rights, emotions, etc. Secondly, guide children to share reasonably. In life, every child has a desire for partners, but due to the stages of cognitive development, they cannot get rid of the \”selfishness\” caused by egocentrism. We must also consider the children\’s age characteristics and psychological development rules, respect the child\’s right to \”not share\”, and do not force the child to share, or must require the child to \”give priority to the older child\”. This is not only detrimental to the development of the child\’s sharing behavior, but will also It hinders the formation of communication and problem-solving abilities among children and affects the establishment of peer relationships. The true meaning of sharing is to enable children to share items willingly, stimulate children\’s joy, shorten the distance between children, and establish a warm relationship. Therefore, when children reach the age of 5 and have a desire for partners and a need for cooperation, parents should actively and reasonably guide their children to share and help them gradually develop a correct sense of sharing. It is also important to build positive family relationships. Research has found that children with high family intimacy tend to be more likely to share, while children in families with more conflicts tend not toBe willing to share with others. At the same time, adults directly ordering children to help others will not promote their helping behavior, but parents\’ persuasive guidance can promote the development of children\’s prosocial behavior. Therefore, in family life, parents should build a positive parent-child relationship, create a good family atmosphere, and give their children a sense of security and belonging, so that they can release and express love to others. Teach sharing skills to stimulate children\’s empathy and sense of responsibility. Before the age of 7, children\’s thinking is immature and they lack experience in sharing. Parents can teach their children some sharing skills. Through sharing, children can feel the happiness they bring to others, thereby enhancing their empathy. It also allows them to understand the impact their actions have on others, making them more responsible in their interactions with others. First, serve as a role model. Starting around the age of 5, children\’s awareness of imitation becomes stronger, and parents should actively play a role model to stimulate their children\’s desire to share. First, parents can influence their children in a subtle way, such as taking the initiative to share delicious and useful things at home with friends and neighbors. In an only-child family, it is especially important to avoid leaving all the \”good things\” to the children, making them think that it is natural for them to have the good things exclusively for themselves. The second is to give full play to the influence of peers, let children play more with friends who have the habit of sharing, and consciously guide children to learn from them. Third, you can choose some stories, picture books, etc. about sharing behavior for your children, so that they can experience the fun and meaning of sharing through these works. Secondly, guide children to empathize while thinking. Empathy plays an important role in the development of children\’s prosocial behavior. When children interact with peers, parents can give the initiative to their children, allowing them to learn to understand other people\’s emotions and feelings from others\’ perspective, and on this basis, teach them specific sharing methods and rules. For example, ask the child: \”Baby, you have two cars in your hand, and Diandian doesn\’t have a car in your hand. You want to play with Diandian, what should you do?\” You can guide and encourage the child to think first before making a decision. Secondly, teach children to understand the ownership of items. Many conflicts between children and their peers involve the ownership of items. Parents should teach their children to correctly understand this issue, such as \”This football belongs to Mingming. If you want to play, you must first ask for Mingming\’s permission.\” \”The paintbrush was given to you by your aunt.\” A birthday gift, it will be yours from now on.\” When children correctly understand the ownership of items, they will reduce conflicts with peers over competing for items. At the same time, it can also protect children\’s awareness of property rights and help develop their sharing behavior. Finally, establish sharing principles. The reason why children are reluctant to share may be because they are worried that the shared items will no longer belong to them or will be damaged by children. At this time, parents need to help their children establish sharing principles and let them know which items can be shared with anyone, which items can only be shared with good friends, and which items cannot be shared. At the same time, tell children that the principle of sharing also includes borrowing and repaying, equal exchange, etc. Stimulating endogenous motivation, developing children\’s character and social-emotional strengthening are the basis for shaping behavior. At the same time, sharing experiences can promoteImprove children\’s ability to care about others and interact with others, thereby promoting the development of children\’s self-esteem, self-discipline and positive social emotions. When parents or teachers see their children sharing, they can strengthen the child\’s behavior through encouragement and praise, so that it can be internalized into the child\’s habits and character. In addition to praising children\’s sharing behavior in a timely manner, you can also guide children to express gratitude to others for sharing. Doing so can help children understand that sharing is a grateful thing, allowing each other to experience the joy and meaning of sharing from the heart, thereby further strengthening children\’s sharing behavior. It is also necessary to provide timely acceptance and feedback to children\’s sharing. For example, when a child is eating snacks, if he takes the initiative to share it with his parents, it is best for parents to accept it happily and praise the child\’s generosity and sharing spirit. Parents taking their children\’s sharing behavior seriously is a kind of psychological reinforcement for their children. On the contrary, if the parents say: \”I don\’t want it, you can eat it!\” If the child does not receive positive feedback, he may no longer take the initiative to share his food in the future. Children\’s sharing habits are not formed overnight. Parents should use love and patience to guide and accompany their children to develop good sharing behaviors and habits in their interactions with others and in their daily lives, so that they can grow up to understand etiquette, general knowledge, and be open-minded. A broad-minded, kind-hearted child.