Half a month after my second pregnancy, I was successfully tortured to tears by both babies

Last night, my daughter was jumping up and down on the bed before going to bed. I whispered to her: \”Be gentle, or you will wake up your brother.\” After saying this, I immediately regretted it. Sure enough, the girl immediately pouted and stopped saying a word. I quickly made amends: \”If he wakes up, I won\’t be able to play with you. If he sleeps, we can play a little longer.\” After hearing this, my daughter became much gentler. After a while, my brother woke up and started crying without opening his eyes. When my daughter saw this gesture, she rushed over, imitated me and patted her brother gently, and then said: \”Okay, okay, don\’t cry.\” Now, there will be milk for him soon.\” Then he said to me: \”You can feed him milk first.\” Seeing this scene, I breathed a sigh of relief. Although I was unwilling, my sister finally began to accept my brother. In the past ten days or so, who knows what kind of suffering my sister has gone through. At first, her daughter did not express any strong objection to the idea of ​​having another baby to keep her company. She probably had no idea about having more children in the family, so when she was asked to give her a little brother or sister, she Yes. Later, as my belly got bigger and bigger, she seemed to realize something, and occasionally she would say: I don’t want you to have another baby, I don’t need a baby to play with me, I just need my parents to play with me. . We didn\’t pay much attention to her words, we just gave her a few words and passed. We thought that it would be fine once the child was born, and we could play with her when she was older, so that she would not have to be so lonely. The day I came back from the hospital, my daughter came back from school looking very excited. She kept walking around me, asking questions, and occasionally looking at my little brother. We intentionally introduced her brother to her, but she was not enthusiastic. She touched her brother\’s hand carefully and then retracted it. At night, before she started to sleep, she asked me cautiously: \”Can I sleep with you?\” I nodded, and she jumped up happily. The reason why I agreed to her without hesitation was because the father had told me about my daughter’s reaction before. When I was in the hospital, the child\’s father went to pick her up from school. She asked gently: \”Dad, will I not be able to sleep with my mother when she comes back?\” Her father asked her why? She said, if you have a baby, you will be afraid that if I press the baby, you will drive me away? It wasn\’t until her father told her that he wouldn\’t that she slowly felt relieved, but it was obvious that she felt very uneasy. When it was time to go to bed at night, grandma came over and asked her to go to bed. She replied firmly: \”I want to sleep with mom.\” Grandma disagreed, \”The baby is so small, what will you do if you press him?\” Reach out for her. No matter how grandma tried to persuade her, she remained unmoved and insisted on sleeping with me. Before my daughter was three years old, she spent more than half of her time with her grandma. After she was weaned, she continued to sleep with her. Later, when she went to kindergarten, she followed us, but she still slept with her without hesitation when she saw her. This time she was so determined to sleep with me that I realized how much impact the birth of her second child had on her. We agreed that she would not sleep until I finished telling her a story at night. But the second child seems to be specifically disrupting the situation. He probably just returned fromOn his first day home from the hospital, he was very uncomfortable and cried non-stop all night. Just after I put him to sleep, I picked up a book and told the boss a story. Within two minutes of telling him, he cried again, so I had to go and read it again. He put him to sleep. The moment I put down the book, I saw my daughter turning her head towards the wall, and then sobbing silently. Finally, the second child fell asleep. When he turned around and planned to tell the eldest son a story, he found that the eldest son had fallen asleep holding the quilt with undried tears on his face. I woke up in the middle of the night to breastfeed my second child, and happened to hear the eldest child talking in her sleep. I don’t know what she was dreaming about, but I only heard a resentful “I have nothing.” At that moment, I couldn\’t hold back my tears anymore. When I told my father about the changes in my eldest son, he said that he had also discovered it, so during this period of time, we should spend as much time as possible with our eldest son. In the next few days, the eldest son went to kindergarten as normal, and I took care of the second son and slept at home. At night, after feeding the second child, he will sleep peacefully, or play by himself with his eyes open, without crying or making fuss. During the time before going to bed at night, we spend as much time as possible with our eldest daughter, playing games with her, telling her stories, and cuddling her to sleep. After a few days of this, her mood improved a lot. When she came home, she took the initiative to hug her brother. When her brother cried, she took the initiative to comfort him. But inside, she was still a little uncomfortable, consciously or unconsciously. During this period, while ensuring that the second child is not hungry, the focus is to accompany the elder brother. When the two of them establish a relationship, maybe the situation will be much better. Many people who give birth to a second child are strongly opposed by their elders. The adults often say disapprovingly: \”Children nowadays have so many things to do. At that time, our parents didn\’t even discuss the birth of a child with us.\” I slowly realized that maybe when we were young, we also had emotional changes when we had a new baby in the family, but we just didn’t remember it. The eldest child has been enjoying her parents\’ special favor for several years. Suddenly, there is another person competing with her. It is normal for her to feel uncomfortable. Parents should not deliberately exaggerate her discomfort, nor can they just sit idly by and ignore it. She must understand that after giving birth to a second child, her parents still love her as before. On the road to raising two children, there is a long way to go, and you will learn and grow at the same time.