Having a \”short-minded\” child in the family is a blessing that has been cultivated by the parents for several generations.

On the way to pick up Xiaoxi from school two days ago, she told me an interesting incident in the class: after the dictation was over, the class representative felt very good and said, \”I will definitely get 100 points this time. If you don\’t believe me, I\’ll make a bet with you.\” Everyone asked how to bet, and the class representative said: \”If you don\’t get 100 points, you can draw my face however you want.\” N students responded to such an interesting thing. No one asked what happened if I was silent for 100 points, and the class representative didn’t say anything. When the results came down, the class representative made a mistake in silently making a word and got 95 points. After class, everyone draws faces for the class representatives, and everyone who participates in the bet can draw one stroke. Xiaoxi kindly sponsors colored pens. This kind of colored pens can be washed, but the glitter on the colored pens cannot be washed off immediately, and it will sparkle all day long. So some people painted cat whiskers on his face, some painted eyes on his forehead, some wrote \”王\” on his forehead, and some painted his nose. Countless people were watching and cheering. The teacher of the second period came into the classroom, and the class representative asked the teacher to wash his face. The teacher looked at it and said, \”I think it looks good. No need to wash it.\” So the class representative went to wash his face after finishing the class. And wear glitter all day long. After listening to Xiao Xi\’s description and imagining such a scene, I almost fainted on the steering wheel with laughter. The most important thing is that this child has made this bet with his classmates more than once. It\’s really, how can I put it, a bit short-sighted, isn\’t it? A mother left a message for me in the background, saying that her child in the kindergarten class forgot to bring his homework to school and was punished by the teacher, who made him lie on the floor to do his homework. She asked me what I should do and whether I should talk to the teacher about it. I asked her what her children thought of this and whether they felt wronged. She told me that the child was careless, as if he was careless, and that it didn\’t matter at all. I said then don’t ask the teacher to argue. The mother expressed her disbelief. She thought it was an insulting punishment for the teacher to make her child lie on the floor to do homework. Shouldn\’t she seek justice for her child? Will it continue like this next time? Speaking of this, I think of many incidents involving children \”beating\”, which are very similar in nature: their children are beaten, or things are taken away from their hands. The children themselves have no reaction, but the parents feel that the children have been bullied and are angry. If it doesn\’t work, you have to ask the child to \”fight it back\” or \”rob it back.\” In fact, the child did not feel that he was being bullied, and this incident would not have any impact on him. However, the parent\’s reaction was to imply and strengthen his experience of being bullied. Why bother? Going back to the incident mentioned before, the child did not feel aggrieved, nor did he feel that the teacher had insulted him. If the parents went to the teacher to argue, it would give the child a hint: The teacher didn’t like me, and the teacher asked me to lie on the floor and write. Homework is insulting me. So I suggest that the mother, if she must find a teacher, should suggest the teacher to change the punishment method. In winter, the ground is cold, and the child may not be able to bear it. I really envy her for having such a \”short-minded\” son. Such a son is not afraid of being beaten! The eye of the mind is the eye in the heart. Eyes are also called holes and orifices. It is said that Bigan, the emperor\’s uncle of the Yin and Shang Dynasties, had \”the exquisite heart of seven orifices\”, so he was killed by Su Daji on an excuse. In \”A Dream of Red Mansions\”, it is said that Lin Daiyu \”seems to have more minds than her body\”, so Lin Daiyu is always sentimental., the flying flowers and falling leaves are all sad, and in the end I am very sad. From a reader\’s perspective, of course we like sentimental heroines, but from a mother\’s perspective, I don\’t think many people would want their children to be sentimental. If there is a child with \”extra skills\” at home, parents need to be careful at all times and pay attention to everything. They must not say anything wrong to make them sad or do something wrong to make them feel resentful. I am even more afraid that others cannot be as kind to their children as I am… Raising such children is really a great test for parents! Children with \”extra skills\” are less likely to achieve happiness. They are always overly sensitive and suspicious, and often a casual look or a casual joke from others can make them depressed for a long time. \”The speaker has no intention, the listener has intention\” This situation often happens to them. What does it mean to be short-minded? Being short-sighted does not mean having a low IQ, it refers to a person who is relatively simple, has no scheming, and is not very calculating. Although the word \”short-minded\” often has a derogatory connotation, in real life, short-sighted people are actually quite popular. Counting my classmates, colleagues, and friends, I discovered the fact that those \”smart people\” usually like to be friends with \”stupid people.\” It is rare for two people who are both very smart to be particularly close to each other. Maybe a person is very smart and can take one step at a time. He likes people who are simple and straightforward and does not care about others. He feels that it is particularly easy and simple to get along with him. The \”short-minded\” who simply don\’t care about calculations take advantage of the opportunity to be lazy and leave many things that require thinking to the smart people around them. As long as you trust them absolutely, you will be happy as a little follower. This principle seems to also apply when making friends with men and women. Is this the legendary \”foolish people are blessed\”? In a family, two people are often like this. One loves to use his brain, while the other doesn\’t care much. As the saying goes, those who can work hard are like this. \”Short-minded\” children will have a higher sense of happiness when they grow up. Many setbacks and hardships in life may not be worth mentioning in his eyes. If something bad happens to them, the cynicism and gossip from others will cause them much less trouble than the average person. Parents who have \”short-minded\” children at home will be very worry-free in the process of raising them. They will criticize when they need to be criticized and punish when they need to be punished. There is no need to worry about their overthinking. Especially families with two children. If the Dabao is \”neglectful\”, he will not always feel that his parents are partial, and he will be more likely to be friendly to his younger siblings. Thinking about all kinds of brotherly, friendly and respectful scenes will make others envious. And if Dabao is a child with a \”heart that seems to have more skills than his body\”, in such a second-child family, any parent would be driven crazy, right? Therefore, it is said that having a \”short-minded\” child in the family is really a blessing that has been cultivated by the parents for several lifetimes!